would you care if your hubby watched porn?

Question

My hubby and i have always talked about what we like sexualy.We really dont have any secrets and our children are grown. We have time alone together and apart.I dont really care if he cruises porn sites as a matter of fact he has called me over to the computer on more than one occasion and ask me if i thought a set of boobs was real or fake.I think that some guys do take it to extream but because i know he does it and dont make it into a huge deal i think its not as exciting as if it would be if i didnt know.I dont think its a good idea to do if you have younger children around because they always seem to see what your doing. I dont think its healthy if it consumes your life to the point of someone being hurt or you lose a job over it but dont you think a little peek every now and again is OK????

Answer 1

Of course its ok. Your right as long as it is not interfering with young children or your daily life, sure why not! its completely healthy. Oh a personal belief is that you should also use reliable sources as the people you/him are looking at are only human after all, they shouldn't be taken advantage of. Have fun xoxo

Answer 2

You sure left yourself W I D E O P E N on this one girl! Personally I think it's sick and I would be furious if my husband looked at porn. I've been married 33 years and my husband does not buy or look at porn magazines and he does not look at porn on-line (he has his own computer). He doesn't feel the need to go to strip clubs. I know there are some people that think if a man doesn't do those things, there is something wrong with him. Well, I happen to think just the opposite. And I know of a lot of couples who feel the same way we do. But, when you wrote this "question" you basically were making a statement more than asking a question. You obviously feel it is alright and you're going to probably get a lot of validation from people. But not from me. If you were enough for him, which you should be in a good marriage, he wouldn't even want to look.

Answer 3

Next thing You will be telling Me is that Women don't watch pornography because it 'demeans' women. Yeah right. Boy,have I got a friend who could talk You out of that idea! Own pornography? Hell She's been in it. Her reason was for the money, but She maintains that it gave Her a much greater understanding of the differences between Men's and Women's attitudes towards a wide range of subjects. For obvious reasons One should be circumspect about Their personal activities, (privacy of the home, "not in front of the children" and all that sort of thing) but You are, after all grown ups (?), and must surly be old enough, and wise enough to be able to come to terms with little things like this. It's not as though You secretly want to watch these videos but are afraid of being caught out by the children (or is it?).
Must away now so as to get an early start on the 'alphabetizing' of My vast collection of 'porno videos'. See You at the "X" rated movie shop, I'll be the 3rd pervert from the end! Cheers

Answer 4

I just wonder why you are asking the question? Are you really fine with it?

I had an ex who liked to watch porn and to be honest I was so low in self esteem that I let him do so with me etc, even though in the back of my mind I knew I didnt feel good about it. I was too scared to say so.

I just think now, that I wasnt enough for him and that is why HE needed to watch them as well, it was a sign of OUR relationship. Plus I dont think he had any respect for women. His walls were full of porn stars pics and girls flashing their bodies, and I really beieve that it made me way more self conscious about my weight and looks. In my mind I thought, if he thinks they are beautiful and great looking, his ideals, then what do I look like next to them?

I dont personally think porn is healthy from my experience, but then men are so different from us when it comes to sexual appitites etc.

I think it is degrading to all involved, and I think that if you are in a relationship that should be all the fulfillment you need. If it isnt maybe there are issues?

Answer 5

I agree with the women who said it was wrong, I am only 22 and have been married for 1 1/2 and my husband struggled with porn before he met me. When we met he told me he did it and didnt feel good about himself...he commited to me he wouldnt do it anymore. He never has, his computer is in the main room of our house, he also has a program on his computer that emails me any sites he goes to that arent "good" not to say he cant get around it, but i truely think he made a COMMITMENT to ME not to do that. It is NOT about men lookin at womens bodies. It is about lust, i dont know about you but I dont like my husband lusting after anyone but me. I can fufull his needs myself. I want to myself. I know alot of men think it is no big deal but I do, I think men and women too.....do it cause of low self esteem and it causes problems in relationships....i wouldnt let my husband bring extra problems like that into my marriage if it were up to me (and I dont) marriage is hard enough these days....

Answer 6

Well I didn't like my boyfriend masturbating or looking at porn in the 2nd year of our relationship, I asked him to stop it because it hurt me and he did completely. Sure, it's healthy but it hurt me and so he honestly stopped everything because he couldn't stand me hurting. He put all his attention into me more which made our future years even more than it would've been sexually if I wasn't his only desire.

Answer 7

i dontr think so i let my hubby crusie by sites n stuff but once he trys to down load n trys to acually see porn at home i say no i dont think guys should spend time getin a hard on wit a girl that they dont even know so i dont agree wit the whole porn thing

Answer 8

My other half watched porn all the time. actually i sit their and watch it with him. Big deal its a bunch of girls in hollywood tryig to make a living, it aint like he's going to look them up on the internet and be like "will you suc' my dic' like that?" ya know??

Answer 9

I thought net porn was illegal.

Answer 10

Uh, yeeeaaaahhh totally!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What a gross topic to be talking about anyway.