(we are using the pull out method now,for three years)and i dont want to hear anybodyy say how its wrong or sneaky or whatever bc i dont care about your opinion, all i want to hear are some good ideas you can give we
2007-01-11 14:46:46 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
first off ive been with him for three years, he wants kids just not now, and i am very intelligent i have a 3.7 gpa in college right now bud
2007-01-11 14:57:00 · update #1
trust me people he would not leave me if i got preg!!!!!! he wants kids not right now, but if it did happen then he would be happy about it, obviously hes not too corncerned since all we do is pull out
2007-01-11 15:26:37 · update #2
get him drunk... lol...
no seriously what about you being on top...? it would be kinda hard for him to say no if you dont move... ;p
she is asking for advice not criticism! just help her out. they have been together a while and he wants kids some day. if she gets pregnant i bet he wont be disappointed!
2007-01-11 14:52:26 · answer #1 · answered by mnbvcxz 1 · 0⤊ 9⤋
Factoid #1: Marriages/ committed relationships among your age group fail 65% of the time. The chances of being a single mother are high.
Factoid #2: Trust is the most important thing is any relationship, you are already tossing that out the window with your devious little plan.
Factoid #3: Tricking a man into becoming the father is beyond immature. Someone that does this is not fit to be a parent.
2007-01-12 00:29:17 · answer #2 · answered by KathyS 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ASk him why, there may be a bigger reason behind the "not right now". He might not feel financially ready to care for a child or he might be scared in the new responsibility. If you are over 35, I would take him with you to the doctor and have an open discussion on the matter. Hearing it from a professional might do the trick. The longer he waits, the harder it will be. He needs to also consider your age and how age effects pregnancy. DO NOT TRICK HIM!!! You'll lose his trust in your relationship and that's not good. Never force a child on to someone. It's not fair to the baby.
2007-01-11 15:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't want opinion, but opinion is what you are going to get on a question like this.
Highly intelligent people do stupid things too, like trying to break their spouse's/mate's trust in them.
And while I didn't trick my spouse, I did get pregnant before he was ready for kids(vacation accident) and I was fully convinced he wouldn't leave me, just like you are. And I was right. Instead, he became a very distant person with work being more important and going on with his life almost as if he didn't have a kid sometimes until I could no longer take it and I left.
Now, he's a decent guy, and I now like him much better that I don't live with him, but as much as he loves his child, he's always viewed her as somewhat of a burden. And even if it's never said, kids know it.
Maybe you'll be lucky and things will be different for you- but then again, maybe they won't.
So I'm not going to tell you how to break trust with someone - trust is the most important part of any reliationship, and once it is broken, it is very very hard to regain.
2007-01-11 15:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
WOW! Holy crow! How does any guy stay with a manipulative, lying, back stabbing untrustworthy person like you? If a guy were asking this dozens of people would be down his throat along with a courtcase to boot!
I can't believe you would consider "tricking" another human being into parenthood, a life long committment!
He does not deserve to be treated this way! You don't even respect his most basic right to automony!
You might think you are intelligent but you haven't the common sense god gave geese.
The best way to "trick" him is to talk it out and convince him. If his goals are so different from yours, then he's not right for you.
2007-01-11 16:37:17 · answer #5 · answered by Noota Oolah 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
sorry but you don't come on here and expect people to tell you how to trick some one into having a baby!! its a baby not a toy the baby should have two people who wanted it not because they were forced into it! if you love and respect your partner then you will wait until the both of you are good and ready!! if you don't want to hear other peoples opinions then don't come on here and ask a stupid question like that!!
2007-01-11 16:48:31 · answer #6 · answered by [♥] KaDeN's MoMmY [♥] 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow! It doesn't sound like you have any respect at all for your partner's feelings or wishes. Once you break that bond of trust by tricking him you will never regain it completely, I really hope that you re-think this quickly. If you do this your relationship, even if it survives, will never be the same. You don't sound like a very caring partner.
2007-01-11 16:17:41 · answer #7 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. My first daughter was unplanned and I knew that her father didn't want to have a baby, but I couldn't get an abortion. He told me everything I wanted to hear, and then a few weeks later, when I moved into my new place, he helped me, and then said that he was going home to take a nap. I haven't seen him since, and my daughter is now 19 months-old. If you really want to risk your relationship, then go ahead and trick him.
2007-01-11 15:25:15 · answer #8 · answered by rtobor84 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First off it takes 2 so if he doesnt and u do then unless you get him drunk or its an "accident"...you cant.Think about it...if you DO get pregnant and he doesnt want it, he'll probley leave and you'll be hittin him up 4 child suport.Is you being selfish worth lossing your man? And please dont say you can do it by yourself because its harder then most people think.My sister is a 26 year old single mom who went to college and everything and has 2 kids.Right now she has 2jobs and is still on the verge of lossing her house.God gave you a brain so f*ckn use it girl!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-11 15:02:20 · answer #9 · answered by lyn 2 · 7⤊ 1⤋
why would you want to trick someone into having a child with you? if he doesn't want kids, then what makes you think he will stick around when you get pregnant? he will probably leave you! i hope you are prepared to be a single mom.
2007-01-11 15:24:50 · answer #10 · answered by cita8200 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, since you do not care about other people's opinions, and only want to hear what you WANT to hear, I doubt you are going to get any helpful responses. You are obviously not very bright.
2007-01-11 14:52:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋