we got married a year back...and just 3 dayz back after hige confrontations abt so many contradicting conversations.....he confessed abt his disorder...am shattered...............i dont knw wat to do.....he also wants kids frm me....i love him alot...would go to any extent to cure him...jsut dont knw how.....somebody plz guide me...he refuses to take medications or medical help.....he says this life with me is wat he ever wanted.........he lied to me abt every thing past one year of courtship under teh influence of thsi disease....................
2007-01-11 14:38:13 · 11 answers · asked by kewl l 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
You should take him into meditation. Thats the best cure for sure. i can bet. But do remember i mean proper meditation not a fake one.
2007-01-11 15:20:33 · answer #1 · answered by Mysterious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I'm sorry if he don't get help it will be a living hell.I have a Friend with this disorder and for the last 6 years she has so many episodes with different personality's.Its so sad because they don't have any idea that these other personality's take over there thinking.My Friend was recently hospitalized for these and she came out of the hospital still saying that she don't have multiple personality's but she does at one time she had 15 to 20 popping out regularly.It is very scary,but there are books out there that will help you understand what he is going thru.I believe one of the books is call Sybil and it goes into detail about what happens when a person is going thru personality changes.All I can say to you is may God bless you and keep you strong,and what ever you do try to get him some help because he could hurt you or himself and not know what he is doing.Good luck with this
2007-01-11 14:49:54 · answer #2 · answered by kuel_lady_di 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister is mentally ill and I have tried my entire life to cure her. There is no cure. Either they get help and medication that controls the symptoms, or they live an uncontrolled life on the verge of destruction, taking their loved ones down with them.
DO NOT HAVE KIDS!!!!!! I cannot stress to you how very bad it would be to put children into this situation. Our mother was mentally ill as well, and horrible abuse and neglect left us adrift in the foster care system. They also may inherit some kind of mental/personality disorder.
You need to protect yourself. If he will not get help he will eventually lose the ability to function in everyday life. When he loses his job, or goes into some kind of rage, or commits a crime where will that leave you?
He could also easily involve himself with other women, since he can claim that his other personality is the one going out with her behind your back. If he's just conning you and not really ill, that brings up a whole other issue.
The absolute must is that you put forth that he must control himself, or you will be forced to leave. Just because he is mentally ill does not exempt him from taking precautions to save his loved ones from the mental strain of living with someone who has a problem they are letting go out of control. He may not be able to unless you consult the help of a professional who can help you make him understand he needs treatment.
2007-01-11 15:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Schizophrenia is not a curable disorder. However, it is easily managed with medications, a good support system for the mentally ill person and also regular counselling with a psychiatrist.
You husband must take his meds otherwise, you will not be able to handle living with him; it's emotionally taxing and it could take a toll on you, too.
Also, if your husband never revealed the fact that he way mentally ill to you, it could be grounds for divorce in a court of law, if you want to divorce him. You want to stay in the marriage so do the best you can to convince him to take meds. If he gets out of control you may have to committ him to a mental institution otherwise he could easily endanger you and the kids.
Also, you might want to alert his treating psychiatrist that he isn't taking his meds; the pyschiatrist may be able to intervene and help you with his patient/your husband.
2007-01-11 14:51:45 · answer #4 · answered by Muga Wa Kabbz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sincere sympathies are with you.
1. Consult a vastu expert and make suitable changes in your house if required.
2. Consult an astrologer and find out why he is like that. there are some remedial stones to be worne which will help him to change.
3. Rest you will have to adjust to his whims and fancies. do not be in a hurry to go for a child. If the marriage fails, it will be an additional problem to sort out.
2007-01-11 22:00:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm really sorry to know about all these. u can help him and believe that u only help him. try to develop his faith on u, take care of his each & every feelings. i hope in past some wrong experience with him so he is feeling like that.try to take him out of thta fear. the most important thing is that u need to be positive and be patient. take him to good Dr and take make him busy always.after his treatment u can only think up of for ur kids, not before that.
2007-01-11 16:10:39 · answer #6 · answered by silicon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ouch. From everything I have ever read, there is no "cure". Therefore, I think there are only two solutions for you. either divorce him or develop a relationship with each of the 4 personalities.
2007-01-11 14:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 03:49:23 · answer #8 · answered by cheathem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gosh i don't know!!!!
He NEEDS therapy!!
and you must get it too, because it's going to effect u as well
therapy therapy therapy
2007-01-11 14:41:31 · answer #9 · answered by fancypantsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs help and support
2007-01-11 14:57:39 · answer #10 · answered by mountainchowpurple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋