gay, straight, or bi?

Question

So I have this guy friend. He has had plenty of girlfriends in the past and hes not a virgin. most importantly, he LOVES girls....

but he just recently told me a secret that he has never told anyone. He thinks he is bi curious. He often thinks about guys in ways he never has before. He even finds himself downloading gay porn and has always wanted to know what gay sex felt like. However, he doesn't know what he should do because he doesn't find anything attractive on a guy. He doesn't "look" in the lockerroom. and he doesnt "look" in the bathroom. He doesn't go out of his way to look at anybody. Remember the fact that he LOVES girls more than anything but finds himself having sexual fantasies about guys. any suggestions?

I feel really bad for him. He is super confused. Should he experience things with guys just to see how it is or just forget about his thoughts and continue LOVING, AWESOME relationships with girls?.....

serious answers please.
thanks!

Answer 1

Just because he is curious does not mean he is gay it is normal. Everybody goes through thta at one point he'll grow out of it GOod Luck

Answer 2

I don't think that sexual fantasies makes him "bi". I believe that most people have fantasies about the opposite sex and same sex at some point in their life. I think that he should not have an experience with a guy just for the sake of checking out his sexuality. If he does not find the male body an attraction then he should stick with what he loves - GIRLS. If he is still confused, he should seek some professional opinions by either seeing a therapist or counselor that specializes in sexual confusion.

Answer 3

I dont think he is gay, when you are gay you have very strong feelings for the same sex as a man does for a women and vice versa. Bi possibly, in my experience with friends who were bi, it was more about sexual feeling than real attraction. As long as it feels good, they are ok with it. But they are not gonna date some guy.. If he continues to be confused he should see a therapist that deals in sexual issues.

Answer 4

It sounds to me that your friend is certainly curious...however he may be over compensating for this "gay feelings" with the "love girls" claim. Then again he could be bi. It's really difficult to say, but he should explore his emotions and be safe while doing it... If one can find a member of the same sex "sexually attractive" by watching and getting off on gay porn I feel safe to assume he DOES look in the locker room...carefully I imagine.

Answer 5

He's gay. He's compensating for it by going out with a lot of girls, hoping he can force himself to be something he's not just because that's what society expects of him. If he's not looking at other guys in public it's probably because he's living in constant fear that someone will guess his dirty dark secret. A million other guys have gone through this, some even get married and have kids, which lasts until they own up to it and the family falls apart. He really needs to talk with someone who's been through the same thing- not just hook up with some random stranger- because contrary to popular opinion, being gay is not all about sex.

Answer 6

This is coming from a gay guy, I think he should just try it. If he doesnt like it then thats fine. Come on, he had to have sex with a girl to see if he liked it. There is nothing wrong with finding out who the real you is in life and what you like and what you dont like.

This might sound hard to beleive but 7 out of 10 guys have really fooled around with another guy sexually but havent or have admitted to it.

Answer 7

In all honesty its probably just a phase. I think its human nature to be "bi-curious" allot of peaple have either had bi-sexual experiences or at least thought about it. There is nothing wrong with being curious, but, depending on how close you really are to him, he may not ever tell you his true feelings...... ;) Hope this helps even a little!

Answer 8

guys have man crushes all the time, doesnt mean that they are gay. gay is in for some reason, so having sexual fantasies are more common now does especially with all the publicity on tv and internet.
maybe having so many "failed" relationships with girls is tending to push him towards something new and different, the forbidden fruit.

Answer 9

There are a significant number of men who attempt homosexual relationships at one time or another in their lifetime. Oftentime, they will act out their feelings and engage in a relationship with a man, but will return to a heterosexual way of life. There's nothing wrong wtih being bicurious - most people grow out of it, but others become bisexual or gay. He has frankly no reference for saying that he LOVES girls but not guys. Likely he's just (or you) are worried that he's gay. In the end, whatever he does, it's just important that you still love him for the person he is. It's his decision thoguh whether or not he decides to explore that side of his sexuality - and no one can tell him whether it's right or wrong.

Answer 10

why are you asking about your friend? only an individual can make their own descisions. I mean, how do you know he LOVES girls? maybe this is all just a facade he presents to those he is close to; mayhaps he is secretly and completely gay or just is such a manslut that he can't get enough; whether it be the man juice or the pleasure of a lady.

Answer 11

You can't tell me, "he doesn't find anything attractive on a guy" after you've already said, "he even finds himself downloading gay porn". He does like something on guys... their penises. Sounds to me like he's either bi or he's a nymphomaniac/sex addict if he's only curious in what it feels like.