How to get close to my husband now he is dead?

Question

My husband has died a few weeks from now already and I want to still be able to be close to him as if he never died. How do I communicate with him now he is not physically here?

Answer 1

Black Widow: He is gone. You have wonderful memories of him, but he is gone. Accept this fact. You are no longer able to communicate with him. Had God wanted this kind of communication it would have been evident. It is not normal to pursue communiation with someone who is gone. Pursue the living. Bring closure to your husband. He is gone.

Answer 2

You can not ever communicate with the dead. The only way to be close to the dead is to hold their memory close and never forget them. You can join him in heaven one day if you have trusted in the fact that the Lord Jesus Christ died for your sins. 1 Corinthians 15: 3 For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures; 1 Corinthians 15: 4 And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures:

Answer 3

I'm sorry for your loss. Obviously, my writing these thoughts is much easier than you putting them to practise. Might I add, I still have my spouse with me.

You will always be close. The times you shared; good and bad. The course of life that you grew, developed and built one another can never be taken from you. Think of it is your education - it can never be taken; however, you eventually graduated and moved on; but use the lessons learned with you moving forward.

Bring the strength, lessons and graces that your spouse taught you into your life moving forward. Teach them to others you love and care for. You husband is always with you in spirit.

Feel free to talk to him out loud. He likely won't answer you an an auditable voice; however, you probably know what his reply would be if he were alive and sitting near.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.
God Bless

Answer 4

When you think of him, talk to him. Then be quiet and listen. He will answer. You will hear him in your heart. Trust that it will happen, because he probably wants to talk to you just as much you want to talk to him. Remember, physical presence is a comfort to us all in this human condition. But, it is not everything. The energy that is your husband will be the same, even now. You will recognize him when he is with you and if you ask, he will be with you as your guardian. He is still who you think him to be. Nothing was lost. Love cannot be destroyed. He will be with you, watching over you and keeping you safe. Trust him when he tells you something. Trust that he knows what to do. When you are troubled, he will be there.

Everything that I have told you is true.

Answer 5

In the spring of 31 C.E., Jesus Christ boldly promised: “Just as the Father raises the dead up and makes them alive, so the Son also makes those alive whom he wants to. Do not marvel at this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his [Jesus’] voice and come out.” (John 5:21, 28, 29) Yes, Jesus Christ promised that millions now dead will live again on this earth and have the prospect of remaining on it forever under peaceful, paradisaic conditions. (Luke 23:43; John 3:16; 17:3; compare Psalm 37:29 and Matthew 5:5.)

Talking can be a helpful release. Following the death of all ten of his children, as well as some other personal tragedies, the ancient patriarch Job said: “My soul certainly feels a loathing toward my life. I will give vent to [Hebrew, “loose”] my concern about myself. I will speak in the bitterness of my soul!” (Job 1:2, 18, 19; 10:1) Job could no longer restrain his concern. He needed to let it loose; he had to “speak.” Similarly, the English dramatist Shakespeare wrote in Macbeth: “Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o’er-fraught heart and bids it break.”

So talking about your feelings to “a true companion” who will listen patiently and sympathetically can bring a measure of relief. (Proverbs 17:17) Putting experiences and feelings into words often makes it easier to understand them and to deal with them. And if the listener is another bereaved person who has effectively dealt with his or her own loss, you may be able to glean some practical suggestions on how you can cope. When her child died, one mother explained why it helped to talk to another woman who had faced a similar loss: “To know that somebody else had gone through the same thing, had come out whole from it, and that she was still surviving and finding some sort of order in her life again was very strengthening to me.”

What if you are not comfortable talking about your feelings? Following the death of Saul and Jonathan, David composed a highly emotional dirge in which he poured out his grief. This mournful composition eventually became part of the written record of the Bible book of Second Samuel. (2 Samuel 1:17-27; 2 Chronicles 35:25) Similarly, some find it easier to express themselves in writing. One widow reported that she would write down her feelings and then days later read over what she had written. She found this a helpful release.

Whether by talking or writing, communicating your feelings can help you to release your grief. It can also help to clear up misunderstandings. A bereaved mother explains: “My husband and I heard of other couples that got divorced after losing a child, and we didn’t want that to happen to us. So any time we felt angry, wanting to blame each other, we would talk it out. I think we really grew closer together by doing that.” Thus, letting your feelings be known can help you to understand that even though you may be sharing the same loss, others may grieve differently—at their own pace and in their own way.

Something else that can facilitate the release of grief is crying. There is “a time to weep,” says the Bible. (Ecclesiastes 3:1, 4) Surely the death of someone we love brings on such a time. Shedding tears of grief appears to be a necessary part of the healing process.

One young woman explains how a close friend helped her to cope when her mother died. She recalls: “My friend was always there for me. She cried with me. She talked with me. I could just be so open with my emotions, and that was important to me. I didn’t have to be embarrassed about crying.” (See Romans 12:15.) Nor should you feel ashamed of your tears. As we have seen, the Bible is filled with examples of men and women of faith—including Jesus Christ—who openly shed tears of grief without any apparent embarrassment.—Genesis 50:3; 2 Samuel 1:11, 12; John 11:33, 35.

You may find that for a time your emotions will be somewhat unpredictable. Tears may flow without much advance warning. One widow found that supermarket shopping (something she had often done with her husband) could reduce her to tears, especially when, out of habit, she reached for items that had been her husband’s favorites. Be patient with yourself. And do not feel that you have to hold back the tears. Remember, they are a natural and necessary part of grieving.

Answer 6

Honey, you have to face the fact that he is gone. You are the one left behind to go on. You will see him again and you will not remember that loss. Bless your heart for not wanting to loose him. I hope that you find love in your heart instead of sorrow.

"Blessed be those that mourn, for they shall be comforted."

Answer 7

The earlier you accept your loss and move on with calmness and serenity, the earlier your husband's soul will be in peace and move on.

Answer 8

You could use a psychic medium, or go into a hypnotic trance. Study the Occult. I think its possible with the correct sensitivity

Answer 9

Quite simply - you cannot. This type of communication requires Godly powers, which no one has on earth.

Answer 10

Let him rest in peace, you need to grieve and move pass your pain. He is in the healing place where people go after death to transfer their thinking from body to spirit.