my boyfriend of 1 year asked me to have sex with him.we are both only 14 and i'm not judging anyone but to me that's just not something i would do.i told him i had a future planed for myself and i was not ready.he got mad and said if i truly loved him i would do it. i told him that if he truly loved me he would not try to make me.he said he would break up with me if i didnt so i told him no and broke up with him. this was yesterday and i think i did the wright thing im. im onley 14 and im just not redy.so do you think i did the wright thing
2007-01-11 14:16:10 · 27 answers · asked by jenny r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you hizzled his drizzle,
you be like one of the three wise men, ill call you Noah, noah is a girls name. Tomorrow tell all your friends you have a new name its noah.
p.s. i read a couple of pages ahead in my book, you may wanna build an ark
2007-01-11 14:21:06 · answer #1 · answered by neff8684 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you did. I think 14 is too young to have sex. If he truly loved you, he wouldn't force you to do anything that you didn't want to or weren't ready for. For him to get mad at you cause you weren't ready is not cool. Sex should be something special. FYI, there will be a lot of guys who will try to make you have sex with them, but if you keep your positive attitude, then you will be fine. Not saying you have to stay a virgin forever or until you are married, but wait till you feel you are ready. Not just cause he wants you too. You really did the right thing for standing up for yourself. I know that can be hard but you did a good thing. Way to go hun.
2007-01-11 14:23:12 · answer #2 · answered by Britney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand up for Your right to choose the time, the place and the person with whom You first experience sexual intercourse. You are under absolutely no obligation to Your 'boyfriend' (sounds more 'boy' than 'friend' if You ask Me). You only get one shot at making it a memorable occurrence, rather than something You may regret for a long time to come. When You feel that the time is right make sure that You are "protected'. Ask Your Mother, or an adult Female about what to do, they will give You good advise.
Good luck.
2007-01-11 14:33:48 · answer #3 · answered by Ashleigh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you DID do the right thing! You have a good head on your shoulders, and think about all the dangers. If you got pregnant, you could die! He seems kinda controlling and you dont need a guy like that on your hands 24/7. So go out there and find a guy that TRULY cares about you.
2007-01-11 14:30:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You keep your head high, you I so did the right thing. And you should be so very proud of yourself. The first time should be special, not something you get pressured into. 14 is young and even if everyone else around you was having sex, you should only have sex, if and when you are 100% ready.
2007-01-11 14:31:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. If he loves you he wouldn't want to do anything that you weren't happy with. It is just his hormones urging him on. He needs to go get on with his homework for a few years. If you let yourself be bullied into it you wouldn't feel good about it. When the time is right all will be fine. There is no great hurry. If you waited five years the guys would just about be mature enough to maybe start learning how to really care about somebody.
2007-01-11 14:23:27 · answer #6 · answered by OB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go girl. I am proud of you for doing the right thing. Your future should be important. I don't know many 14 yr. olds that think like that. And yes if he loves and respects you then he should be happy to wait. If he breaks up with you then he never loved you and i would say to him good ridence. He's not worth getting in trouble with. (pregnant) Good luck to you in the future.
2007-01-11 14:27:29 · answer #7 · answered by lynnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely! Congrats girl, you did the right thing! If you're not ready he should respect that and if he gets mad, clearly, he doesn't love you, he only wants that. What if you guys both did that then after he left you since he already got what he wanted?!
He is not the right guy for you. Look for a guy that will respect your decisions. Take Care!
2007-01-11 14:30:55 · answer #8 · answered by violet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing! Just think if you accidently had a baby what would you do? Your only 14 not even out of high school!!! That would be horrorable.
2007-01-11 14:20:25 · answer #9 · answered by Erriyberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU answered your own question, "im onley 14 and im just not redy..." who gives a care about what someone on Yahoo!Answers thinks you said your self weren't ready. Congrats on standing up for yourself, and keep it up, get to a point where you do even need validation for your actions!
2007-01-11 14:23:11 · answer #10 · answered by i<3u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wasn't your boyfriend he only wanted a booty call and heck yes you did the right thing cause it is no telling who he messed around with before you. You are a very wise girl just wish some of these other young girls would say no to. thank you for caring about yourself good luck
2007-01-11 14:24:36 · answer #11 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋