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He never says anything nice. And is always critisizing me. He never says I love you anymore. Everything that comes out of his mouth is loud and rude! It makes me want to cry and run away. What do I do?

2007-01-11 14:13:47 · 25 answers · asked by Shelby D 1 in Family & Relationships Family

25 answers

tell him you love him and wish he would stop yelling

2007-01-11 14:17:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Talking with your dad may be hard and he might start yelling. Try writing a letter to him explaining how you miss the way your relationship used to be and you miss him telling you that he loves you. Try not to use words like always and never. Mostly write your feelings and how you don't understand why he yells. Let him know he's important to you and want to get along. Ask him to spend time with you having fun--like bike riding, bowling, board games, basketball, rent a movie. Try to connect again in a positive way. If this doesn't work talk to your mom or grandparents and ask for help. Good Luck!

2007-01-11 14:26:10 · answer #2 · answered by Kimmi 3 · 0 0

Begin to picture him as the Dad you really want him to be and treat him that way. This is very tough to do, but you can do it - You will see a miraculous change in him. When he yells at you, if your natural response if to yell back - don't yell back, but speak to him kindly.

Start to treat him with kindness and lots of love (it may take a little while). But if you do it long enough, I guarantee you that he will change. Seems to me like he is hurting very badly about something. He has a broken heart (that is why people behave like the way he is right now). Ask God to help you to treat him with kindness and love and he will change.

2007-01-11 14:21:20 · answer #3 · answered by fancyface1 l 3 · 0 0

i have a father like that, what i did one day i lost my patience yelled at him and told him how he made me feel that was 2 years ago and i havent spoken to him since the worst thing is tho, i live in the same house as him and my mother you wouldnt believe the pressure and intensity in this house when we're both here. to be honest with you ,, you cant do much their too old to change and what u can do is tell him how u feel but most likely he wont chnage and just move out as soon as u can, i cant thats why im still here. good luck

2007-01-11 14:19:39 · answer #4 · answered by cassandra d 1 · 0 0

What does your mother say? If she's no help, enlist the support of another trusted adult like a grandparent, an aunt or your guidance counselor at school. It's certainly no way to have to live and you need another adult to help with the communications problem in your home. If he ever hits you, or worse, hits on you, report it to the police; that's unacceptable child abuse and must be stopped.

2007-01-11 14:19:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It's tough when parents take out their frustrations on their children--that is very messed up--For you--I think it is important to develop other support systems--that is, find friends, mentors, counselors, relatives, teachers who you can trust who can guide you and help you through your tough times--so that you don't feel like your father's negativity is the TRUTH about you--

You could also try talking to your father or writing him a note or something--letting him know how you feel--if he is up for it--you could try to spend more time with him...he may be stressed out and busy and could be taking it out on you--I'm sorry about that--I hope things improve and that you and your father start having a smoother and more loving relationship--believe it can happen--Good Luck:)

2007-01-11 14:19:46 · answer #6 · answered by Shay 4 · 0 0

My heart goes out to you because I hate it when anyone yells at me or anyone else, for that matter. Do you have a family member or friend that you can confide in? Sometimes another adult will know how to tell him about your hurt feelings without getting him mad at you. Just remember that he is the one with the problem, NOT YOU.

2007-01-11 14:22:07 · answer #7 · answered by cookie 3 · 0 0

Sounds like he's trying to deal with issues of his own. The unfortunate thing is that he will probably not tell you what they are, if he even knows. Some times people take out their anger and frustration on those they love that are closest to them. Is he drinking?...drugs?...If not, and you can, try asking him if there is anything you can do to help. What about your mom?

2007-01-11 14:18:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Dads have a hard time saying the words.
They are more often scared for you then you know.
Leave him a note -see how that works.
Tell him you love and respect him and want to make him happy.See how that works.

2007-01-11 14:18:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

This is something that usually works. When your Dad is yelling at you, listen and then respond with a soft voice. It is very hard to continue to yell at someone that won't yell back.

2007-01-11 14:17:34 · answer #10 · answered by kny390 6 · 0 0

Ignore him, I know it will be hard but refuse to talk to him unless he's willing to A: listen to you and B: calm down.

Or you could write him a lletter, the pen is mighter than the sword.

2007-01-11 14:17:51 · answer #11 · answered by kristonianinstitution 4 · 0 0

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