I am very out going, good-looking, religious, and I always speak my mind. I have noticed several times that guys who like me will start flirting with me but then later on they will stop and act as if they value and will do anything I say. Why are guys like this? How to I stop it? Every single guy I have been out with treats me like their master, I hate it.
2007-01-11 13:52:29 · 12 answers · asked by ETY e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes............. I mean sorry.............um argh I'll try better........................ rub your feet????????.......................please!!!!!!!
2007-01-11 14:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by bentomsun 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you certainly have plenty of confidence, and that's not a bad thing. You don't seem to appreciate the type of guy who just wants to take care of you and be there for you, and that's OK too. What you seem to be really looking for is a guy who is very confident, just like you. Just be careful because many guys with "strong" personalities are egotistical jerks.
Speaking of ego, make sure that you do a self-check once in a while. It's great that you speak your mind, but the fact that you said you "ALWAYS speak my mind" makes me think that you MAKE SURE people know what you're thinking. Remember, that we are called to be humble, to be "quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry".
Make sure that you give the guys in your life the freedom and respect they deserve instead of "always speaking your mind".
People are ALWAYS attracted to confident people, so it's no surprise you have plenty of admirers. Just make sure to treat them with kindness, and respect, instead of trying to control the relationship, and you'll be OK.
Otherwise you might find yourself learning the lesson the hard way by hooking up with an egotistical jerk who will not "value and will do anything you say". He would tell you how great he is and how worthless you are so many times that you would start to believe it. Then you'd probably go back and start appreciating the guys who want to be there for you.
If I were you, I'd be thankful that I have so many people that want to be there for me, and I would try to get to know them, ask them questions on things, let them talk and then see what comes of it.
Remember, that yes, you are wonderful, beautiful, precious in the eyes of God, so it's good to have a high self-worth. But at the same time remember that without God we are NOTHING, we didn't earn what we are. So there's no reason to boast about how great we are and make sure that everyone knows what we think about everything and agrees with us. Be humble, give people more room and respect and you might find that these guys have plenty going for them.
2007-01-11 14:16:26 · answer #2 · answered by yishor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like pretty girls, and at ease debating anyone's religious beliefs. Being outspoken is a requirement for lively conversations...so I welcome it anytime. Speaking your mind and being rational, are not the same. If you speak up and can reasonably hold your ground, then you may expect to be treated as my equal, but expect no more than that.
I suggest you can stop it by going with guys with confidence and a modicum of intelligence, or if you so prefer guys with extreme confidence. If it's equality you want or being treated less than equal, you'll find it in varying degrees within the ranks of this elk.
2007-01-11 14:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by McDreamy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are probably more attractive with your mouth shut, lose the arrogance, every woman thinks she is hotter than the next, truth is you all pretty much look the same, and yes when you date geeks that cant get a woman to throw a rock at them, and then you come along and let them take you out what do you expect, i think that you will find that when you get a real man thats handsome with a hint of class that he will not be like the dweebs that fall at your feet, poor nerds i feel bad for them...hence giving you the ego of 10 women...just my opinion you asked i answered good luck on your mission answer find a man and leave these boys in school
2007-01-11 14:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by waterboy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Those are what you call weak men! I've been told by men i took their manhood how did i do that' ? They treat you like that cause they didn't get enough naturing from their mother so there getting it from you. If you don't want to play Mommy tell them before they stop talking to you!! Get you a real man & you won't have those kinda PROBLEMS!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-11 14:06:07 · answer #5 · answered by deezbrats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ETY sounds like you might be everything that these guys you have dated have ever wanted, lol, i cant imagine it, lol, anyways maybe you should , in the begining of your next relationship tell them about this past of yours and hopefully that will be enough of a hint, i can only speak from an aussie guys point of view, so i hope this was relevant for you;) take care
2007-01-11 13:57:58 · answer #6 · answered by broncamo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I'd be intimidated. You sound like a Dream Girl.
2007-01-11 13:55:57 · answer #7 · answered by Darktania 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol Sound's like a Personnel problem I'm not intimidated by you why they do that it could be because they now see you only as a Friend well maybe
2007-01-11 13:59:14 · answer #8 · answered by csm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say you have a bf and start acting spoiled guys hate that
2007-01-11 13:56:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are probably just trying to show you that you can ask anything of them. Women just take it wrong.
2007-01-11 14:00:44 · answer #10 · answered by Raul D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a thought ,get over yourself!
2007-01-11 13:57:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋