My friend who i've had a huge crush on for awhile, started kind of flirting with me in the past month or so and i've gotten closer to her thinking that maybe she actually likes me, so I was talking to her today on msn and she sounded like a totally different person saying how she hates happy movies and, happy endings. and then she said she didn't believe in love when she had been trying to get me to notice her more and I happily obliged, she knows I like her because I told ppl who told her ( didn't intend on that), i'm kind of shy about my feelings for her, and I thought i was confident enough to finally tell her but then she said that, and now I feel pretty sad, is she saying that intentionally?
2007-01-11 13:51:38 · 22 answers · asked by Jimmy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, now she's back on acting normal, lol im so confused i think im just going to lay off the flirting and go back to the friend for awhile. :(
2007-01-11 14:12:49 · update #1
Sounds like me once upon a time. She's maybe had a rough life, and is probably depressed. You need to show your love through actions to eventually win her over - that's what my (now husband) did for me. She needs proof that someone really cares and can be trusted and relied upon.
2007-01-11 13:55:41 · answer #1 · answered by Bored Enough To Be Here 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she has had bad experiences with other people. I don't know her family history but that maybe another factor to look at. First you need to be a friend then everything else will fall into place. Girls a lot of times say things without thinking about it first. Feel the waters for a period of time if she starts to show you more interest then you are on your way to moving to the next level in your friendship. Love can be shown in different ways by how you express yourself and how you show it.
Good luck!!
2007-01-11 14:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by angels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likey she's been hurt by a guy in the past and she's probably not completely over it but what you can do is just stick by her side. Don't tell her how you feel just yet give it a couple of weeks and she'll look back on this moment and remember that you were there for her. So just sit back and let the pieces fall as they may. Goodluck
2007-01-11 13:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by step b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be odd to me, too. I'm not sure if she is doing it intentionally or not, but I would have to wonder if she is really someone you would want to officially start a relationship with...regardless of whether you have had a huge crush on her for a while or not.
It could have been that she was in just a strange mood. Although, some people may say they doubt love...for fear of loving again...but it is possible to love again. They just have to find that person to love.
2007-01-11 13:56:28 · answer #4 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm...maybe she's depressed. I've been depressed all my life and when I go into a "depression spell" as my husband calls it, I hate things happy too because it makes me feel worse (like happy movies and endings). And maybe she says she doesn't believe in love because she's either never been in love, or she has and she recieved a crushed heart in the end. Hope this helps- try talking to her about it to find out what she feels about you for sure though. Sometimes mixed signals are unintentionally sent...so she could or could not like you- ask and find out. :)
2007-01-11 13:57:14 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should listen to Queensryche...
They have a song called "I Don't Believe in LOve"
Most people who feel this have never had a close family bonding experience, and therefore what she is saying is not
"I don't believe in love" but what she is really saying is
"I don't think I know what love is, and have never felt it"
If thats the case...RUN! you don't want to be involved with a woman that cannot reciprocate love. You will only recieve heartache and missery from a closed person.
2007-01-11 13:56:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be saying that intentionally. She knows that the two of you have a great friendship and she just may want to leave it at that. You know that a more intense and sexual relationship could ruin the friendship. I would just leave it at friends, you can never have enough and really good friends are so hard to come by.
2007-01-11 13:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by tamlovinlife2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u know what i can not say intentionally but she might just suspect something which right now is true because of the friends but listen u are a man just because you might be shy but u might fel really bad if she never find out from your miuth exactly how u feel about her and that is not okay so step and let her know before it is to late
2007-01-11 13:57:43 · answer #8 · answered by weeping eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's either trying to cover up the conversation, or maybe like you a whole lot that it will make her crazy or she really doesn't believe in love.
2007-01-11 13:56:21 · answer #9 · answered by canadiangeoguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girls who dont believe in love, dont believe in it because they got "hurt too many times"
so since they "got hurt, its obviously not real"
not to sound mean but thats like "i keep falling off my bike trying to do a trick so my tricks arent real"
same thing happened for me (except i kept my feelings at bay, having feelings for someone is a weakness) and she said she wanted to make out with me and "wonders if i feel the same about her as she does me" and my friend said "so when did you start to like brandon?" and she came to me sayin "im sorry if i led you on"
2007-01-11 13:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋