im inlove with this guy and he says he loves me back, but doesnt act like it. he gets money off of me so he can buy weed for himself, and he begs me to get my mom to buy him cigarettes. and today, he broke up with me bcuz he was talking to 4 different girls (ive heard 3 of them like him) and i wrote him a note asking him why does he like one of them and he got pissed. shouldnt i be the one pissed or should it be him ?? then he tells me he'll think about asking me back out sunday or next friday. i think there is something going on.... does anyone think there is ?? and not to mention, tommorow my ex best friend said her and her boyfriend and my other ex best friend and my ex boyfriend are going to her house. he said hes not going to go, but i dont know. i have no one left to trust or to talk to. everyone has left me. even my family except for my granny, who raised me literally since the day i came home from the hospital. please help me. i dont know what to do.
2007-01-11 13:45:19 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
grown a spine and act like an adult.
I hate this age for girls, your lost, confused because your still hanging from the H.S. crowd, left over wanna b's or what ever...
I am not mad at you, just that this time in your life is a mess... in your whole letter there wasn't one positive thing in your note....except your granny...
find those things that bring about joy in your life, that help you develope who you want too be... my thoughts are your going in the wrong direction and you have finaly seen the light and not sure what too do....
I know where you will be if you don't make a change... asking this same question as nothing will ever change with this group..., go to college, get some education, finish school, go work in Yellowstone for the summer, volunteer at a local hospital, go do something with your life as it seems to be being spent on other people and not on YOU and your FUTURE.
good luck and let us know what you decided to do with your life.
2007-01-11 13:55:36 · answer #1 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should forget about that guy. He sounds like a total loser. Guys shouldn't mooch money off their girlfriends. It really sounds like he doesnt actually care about you, and hes treating you as a spare girlfriend if he needs one. Sometimes family can suck as well, if you are close with your granny I would trust that. If you feel like everyone is gone you could be better off without them. You have to trust what feels right and if you cant be absolutely sure about someone then it probably isnt right. You have to find the right people that you are completely comfortable with if its friends or anything else. I've had situations like that in my life and I felt better putting it behind me. If you need anymore advice or anything just ask.
2007-01-11 22:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by Derek 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are being used for a crutch. No love there. He obviously LOVES the $$$ hes able to swindle from you. Sorry, time to move on with your life and leave this loser.
You need a crowd change as well. You become like the people you hang out with and vice versa.
If you want a decent guy, you have to be a girl from a decent crowd of folk. Its your choice.
Hang out with losers, you are now the loser. Simple. History repeats itself over and over.
2007-01-11 22:21:08 · answer #3 · answered by HowFuzzyWuzee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get as far away from this guy as you can and as fast as you can. He doesn't love you and if you're really honest with yourself you don't love him. You're just accustomed to having him around It may be a bit daunting to be without someone but the sooner you can learn that you're better off alone than with someone who is abusing you the better you'll be. He is abusing you...maybe not physically but mental abuse is just as bad as physical abuse.
He's cheating and scamming you and as along as you let him get by with this behavior he will.
Learn this now..."he who cares the least wins". In other words, go on and live your life like he doesn't exist and find new friends who will respect you. You'll have a better life and soon you'll forget that you ever even knew this guy.
Look at the big picture...you've got the rest of your life to live and this is only a moment of it. You need to concentrate on preparing yourself for the rest of your life. You need a good education and real friends.
You can always judge the level of a person's friendship for you by the way they treat you everyday. There are "fair weather" friends who are only around as long as things are going good. True friends are the ones who stick by you when things are good, bad or the worst. This guy is a "fair weather" friend...he's only around as long as things are going good or his way. When you really need him he's not there and will not be there. I know I'm a stranger to you but I've "been there...done that" and luckily I had someone to give me this advice before it was too late!
RESPECT YOURSELF!
No one will ever love you like you love yourself!
I like to think of myself as an endangered species...there's only 1 of me and there will never be another so I have to protect me at all costs!
You'll find your self esteem and when you do you'll feel the highest degree of freedom that you'll ever experience! I have confidence in you that you'll do the right thing!
Good Luck!
2007-01-11 22:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by Inquisitive125 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like this guy has no life and is going no where. Just completely forget he even exists. Get super mad if you have to. Try to find some new friends that might have a bit better influence. Maybe try to bond and get close to your granny because it sounds like she really cares about you and is the only one still by your side. Maybe even try asking her for advice.
2007-01-11 21:50:38 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy N 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So sorry your mom can not just tell you HE IS A LOSER. Your age is unknown. I would say you are about 13., It is time for your education in how to earn a living. Not an education on how to get rid of this morphed animal. He has nothing all other boys do not have, and he has a lot that is just bummy.
2007-01-11 21:51:01 · answer #6 · answered by swamp elf 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
girl love yourself first ok! Look at it all,Is he worth the pain?NO WAY.Honey rule # 1never buy .Let him give you money not vice versa.He is the man.You kick him to the curb and if you ever want to talk more email me .Ive been there.Consider buying that book the rules may be you cant do it word for word but its a good book that teachs you how to command respect from men.Take care.
2007-01-11 22:00:04 · answer #7 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey you need to let him go. And if you have granny then that's great. Go talk to her. Wisdom does come with age. If he is getting money from you to buy weed and yourasking your mom to buy him cigs. then its time to say goodbye. As for these other girls let them take care of his pot and cigs. I bet in a month or 2 and they wont want him. He sounds like a bum and you deserve better.Everyone does. Good luck.
2007-01-11 21:54:53 · answer #8 · answered by lynnie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
girl i feel the hell out of what is going on in your life.(SIMILAR ****) BUT ANYWAY ! but listen do not worry about him he will need you before you need him. one reason is because u was always there when he needed u. guys always need someone he is gonna remember who had always been there either it be today or tommorrow or even ten yrs from now. a good girl is hard to find keep your head up because as long as u know u been there do not worry it will bite him in the *** faster then u might think!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-11 21:53:33 · answer #9 · answered by weeping eyes 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to have more respect for yourself. This ''boy" is not the one for you. You are strong enough to end this relationship and move on with your life in a positive way. We learn from everything we do in life. Hopefully you have learned that no male is worth your self respect or self honor. Release him to the wild where he belongs.
2007-01-11 21:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by Barb 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋