My 16-year-old brother rolled the family car up in the hills while goofing off and being wreckless.
Afterwards my mom made a list for his punishment that had get a job, maintain a C average (he's failing almost all of his classes), no more video games, no more computer unless it's school work, no more getting things left and right, and that he has to be a "slave" until he turns 18.
Well not very long after she didn't enforce it and now she blames me for his failing. I'm 18 and go to the community college while I still live at home. But I can't force him to do his homework, I can't even get him out of my way because I know that asking him will only make it worse and pushing him will then cause him to push me back and possibly beat me up for pushing him.
So I don't know how to deal with the situation.
2007-01-11 13:28:45 · 4 answers · asked by mosquitoe_13 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Being a parent is the toughest job one will ever have. You have to be consistent. It's sad when children know more about parenting than the parent. I was luck my children knew what no meant. they also knew when a punishment was handed down we stuck to it.
Rolling the family car he's lucky to still be her.
Mom needs to admit to herself she didn't act like a parent.
I take it dad is not around. maybe a grand parent can talk to Mom. She needs to step up to the plate and be a responsible adult. She is failing your brother by not standing her ground.
No wonder kids are getting so out of control.
2007-01-11 20:05:39 · answer #1 · answered by Diane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have surpassed your mother in maturity, and that's a sad statement. Your mother is in denial, and is looking for anyone to blame for her own failures except for herself. Everytime mommy dearest pulls this crap on you, then you just reply "If you want to know why my brother is the way he is, just waltz over to the mirror and take a good long look"
Get out of there as soon as you can, and remember this, so you do not repeat the same pathetic behavior later in life.
Good luck
2007-01-11 21:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not responsible for your brother's upbringing.
I am the oldest in my family and they used to blame me for setting a bad example, but I turned out the best. Just take care of yourself so that you are the good example. The parents are the ones who raise the kids.
2007-01-11 21:33:22 · answer #3 · answered by Laurellamags 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move out , its not your job to enforce her punishments its mom and dads job
2007-01-11 21:32:22 · answer #4 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋