teen depression?

Question

How do I get over teen depresion? I use to cut my self but now that my mom know she checks my whole body so i cant do that. I already see a counciler and its not working. I also found that i am being a bit of a *****. For example, my friend was being annoying so i bashed her three days before her grandfathers funeral. This is not like me at all, and she knows this so she is not mad at me (or appears not to be). Its almost like something inside is taking over me. I also have been thinking alot about taking drugs and alcohole. But i am only 13 and dont want to ruin my life. What can i do to get rid of the depresion and get controlle of my self again?

There is many things causing this depression. My dad is an alcholic, i have dyslexia and ADD. I get made fun of alot in school because i am so quiet and shy and realy dont go up to new ppl. My launguage arts teacher has been a big help and so has my couciler but it is not enough to get my mind off of the depresion.

Answer 1

I went through a lot of therapy, you need to have the doctor who is just right for you, who you trust, and will take you very seriously. you may also need to take antidepressants, or different ones than you have and antianxiety pills. you certainly are aware of your situation which is a lot of the cure.

Answer 2

Do you have sudden anger that you look around to find something to blame it on? maybe followed by tears, and nothing to cry about? This can be caused by food allergy, because it happens to me. If I eat beef, then tomorrow and the next day I turn into the Hulk. If I eat fish, then tomorrow and next day I have an incapacitating headache. After 22 years a doctor told me I was allergic to these things,and I though that was crazy, but found out that was what was causing the problems. Didn't have too much upstairs, either, because of soy- the white part, no soy sauce. - used in mayonnaise, cream soups, etc. ]
Psychiatrists don't test for allergies, but they should, because so many young kids are in psych wards especially.
The doctors who know most about this are called clinical ecologists, or find a doctor who knows about food allergies. Also called doctors of environmental medicine. Some people have allergies to chemicals like plastic or hair spray, or gas/oil heat. Good luck with finding the cause of your problems.

Answer 3

SOMEONE TO TALK ABOUT IT TO

Talk Zone 1-800-475-TALK Peer Counselors

Teen Help Line 1-800-400-0900 Help Line For Troubled Teens

Teen Hot Line 1-800-747-8336 Hot Line For Troubled Teens

VOICES In Action, Inc. 1-773-327-1500

Youth Development International 1-800-HIT-HOME (448-4663) Youth Crisis Hotline

National Crisis Line 1-800-334-4357 Crisis Help Line

National Youth Crisis Hotline [phone] Youth Crisis Hotline

Cutter's Hotline:

1-800-DONT-CUT

Answer 4

If you are seeing a counselor, I suggest you let this person know how you are feeling. It is their job to discuss this with you and try to find out what is going on.

I also suggest you focus on something, like doing well in school, or finding a volunteer job to do after school. These two things make you feel a sense of accomplishment, good about yourself and help you in the long run.

Talk to your mom about how you are feeling too. Something is going on if you keep having these thoughts. We can control much of what we think. When you get the negative thoughts, replace them with something good.

Taking drugs and alcohol does not solve anything, in fact drug rehab centers and AA meetings are full of people that wish they never started doing any of that. Think twice. Make good choices.

Answer 5

Teen depression is a serious matter, and it's good that you are getting help currently (even if it currently isn't helping you nesscarily) and that you are trying to get more help. About the counciler thing, are you putting a full effort into it? The reason I ask is that some ppl seem to think that counciler's just talk to you and after awhile everything is gone, but it is actually a 2 way street and it takes alot of work. Not saying that you aren't, but if you aren't fully participating then I would suggest trying to participate a little more. I found in my "sessions" It helped a lot more when I participated and really tried. So, if you aren't already doing that you should give that a try. Or, do you think the counsiler is not good at his job? If so, you should ask your mother to take you to a different, depression/cutting/ and considering drugs and alchol are very serious things and you really read help right now, so if the doc is no good you need a new one.

Well, if you friend isn't mad at you that is pretty amazing, my friends are pretty easily ticked off. My point is, if she isn't mad then you should do all you can to keep her as a freind, because she sounds like a real one. About you bashing her, if you don't already know this (it's actually suprising to me how many ppl don't realize it, but then again I do because I'm depressed as well) that is most likely because teens often show their depression in ways that are very different from how adults show depression. Often adults (and teens as well) get moody, have slowed speech and movement, loss or gain of sleep and appetite, feelings of worthlisness, etc... These symptoms are the ones commonly associated with depression, but often in teens (and younger children as well I believe) they tend to act out more, to get very angry and sometimes violent, get enraged, things like that. This is very true (I personally I'm like this alot when I get depresed), so if you didn't know that there's a possible reason for that.

The thing about you wanting drugs and alchol and really thinking about them but not wanting to ruin your life is interesting cause that is/was often how i feel/felt. But anyways, it's good that you realize that those things can really screw up your life, if you take them when you are depressed you might get a while of feeling like there is no care in the world, but then you come crashing back to reality. Also, they are very habit forming, especially if you start using them to cover up your pain. Also, lots of drugs and alcohol are actually depressants, taking them will actually make you feel worse, and you might do something you really get (some ppl when they are intoxicated cut themselves or try to kill themselves when they normally woudn't). From personal experience, drugs are not a good choice. I have never done drugs, but my uncle did when he was younger (he was depressed), and he became addicted, 2 of his friends died from od'ing, he was addicted quite awhile, he was excommunicated from church, and he can't even have kids. The good news is he has turned most of that around, but he lost many years of his life whne he got into that sort of thing. My point is, while you might idealize it and think it is some wonderful thing, it really isn't, so you shouldn't even toy with it. Not that I don't understand where you are coming from or I can't relate, but it really is just a sink hole. And since you are depressed you could very easily become addicted to drugs or alcohol. Anyways, alcohol really tastes awefull (I tried some once, my gosh it's sick lol).

You are 13, and you have so much ahead of you. I was diagnosed w/ depepression when I was about your age (I was in 8th grade), and now I'm 16 and I'll tell you now it won't be easy, but there are brighter days and things can look up, you just need to put one foot forward through the really bad times until you get the good spots. And if you get the help you need, you can get to the point where you rarely hit the bad points. Also, if you just don't think therapy is enough, I would suggest seeing if you can get a prescription of antidepressants. Some aren't safe for teens, and all I believe can potentially increase suicidal thoughts or behaviors in children and teens (not very common though), but most likely they will really be able to help you. In my experience (for me, my mother, grandpa, and uncle) antidepressants can really help, especially if you mix it with therapy (those two combined have the highest chance of success). I have to go now, but if you want to talk feel free to email me or something (you can find me at [e-mail] or [e-mail]), I can relate and I'm willing to help in any way if you would like, maybe even offer some sagely advice lol (i'm not really that sage like though). But anyways, I really hope things get better for you, and I hope that something here might have helped you. No matter what though, I wish you the best of luck, and hope thigns are so rough for you in the future. =)
-sarah

Answer 6

find a good counseller,when i was your age i did the same things i was addicted to cutting myself but found a great counseler who helped me alot.also i used to be a bully i loved beating on people it made me feel like i had power and as long as i wasnt hurting i was fine,also i have severe depression i am now 29 and still suffer from it but i am doing good i still get sad sometimes.but please dont turn to drugs or drinking unfortunatly for me i did.i lost so much because of drugs that when i look back now i wish i could turn back time and do things all over again.evan if you can find someone to talk to who has gine throughthe same things as you or knows whatit is you are feeling that works too.if you want you can e-mail me and talk to me whenevr you like .i am a good listener and will do whatever i can to help you out as i have been in your shoes and know what it is you are going through.oh by the way my life is great now i have a great husband and 3 beautiful daughters so things do work out eventually..best of luck and remember if you ever need someone to talk to you are more than welcome to e-mail me anytime ok.. take care ps i have been to so many counsellers i lost count same with dr's too..it took alopt before i found one i trusted and liked

Answer 7

Well my deepest sympathies are with you. I am 21, and the best way that I found to deal with depression without medicine is to exercise and eat healthy. Feeling better about yourself can really help your overall mood.I would also recommend keeping a journal. Before bed each night write in it what made you happy and angry for that day. Good luck and best wishes.

Answer 8

Next time you see your counselor you need to tell him/her all of the things you just said here. If he/she doesn't take you seriously you need to find another therapist.

You know you need help and you are taking the first step by reaching out and asking for advice! Good for you!! That is really tough.

Please tell your parents and/or counselor what you have told us here. If your therapist isn't working it may be time to seek another one. Are you on any medications? If not you need to ask about seeing a psychiatrist.

I know it seems hard right now but you'll get through this. Just hang in there and keep asking for help like you are right now! You will get through this.

Answer 9

I was where you were at your age. Now I am happy and not bothering people. I went through a lot of therapy, you need to have the doctor who is just right for you, who you trust, and will take you very seriously. you may also need to take antidepressants, or different ones than you have and antianxiety pills. you certainly are aware of your situation which is a lot of the cure. I wish you all the best health.

Answer 10

change counselors, the one you are seeing is not helping and that can only add to your feeling of despair.
Since your mom is aware of this situation - have her get you an appointment with a gynocologist and have your hormone levels checked. You are entering a very frustrating time in your life and I want you to know that THIS WILL PASS !!!!
Stay strong and by all means continue to pass on the alcohol and drug temptation - they fix NOTHING but ruin everything!!!

Answer 11

See site below with teen advice. It also tells why there is so much teen depression. Then go to page on depression with natural help for it. Psychiarist tells what your doctor may not tell you about depression. Also has foods that the U.S. Dept of agriculture has found to contain antidepressant chemicals like apples. Also it has page on how everyone can become happier.

http://www.phifoundation.org/teen.html