I'VE BEEN HAVING SO MUCH PROBLEMS WITH MY PARENTS TRUSTING ME AND I JUST WANT TO BE ABLE TO GET THEM TO DO SO BUT IT'S SO HARD TO BECAUSE WHENEVER I TRY...THEY ALWAYS BRING UP THE PAST AND THEN WE START TALKING ABOUT SOMETHING ELSE AND WE DON'T EVEN GET ANY UNDERSTANDING DONE! ALL WE DO IS JUST ARGUE AND IT EVERYTHING JUST ENDS UP BEING THE SAME AFTER THE CONVERSATION! I REALLY WANT TO CONVINCE THEM THAT THEY CAN REALLY TRUST ME! BUT I'VE TRIED SO MANY WAYS AND IT DIDN'T WORK AT ALL!....SOMEONE PLEASE HELP!.....
2007-01-11 13:07:04 · 6 answers · asked by 84812 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ah, the hormones are raging .. the teen wants to date ... and is the teen LISTENING to the parents or RESPECTING the rules that the parents have set for the household?
The way to EARN trust of your parents is to BE Trustworthy -- doing your homework, your grades are very high, you do CHORES without complaint, you do NOT raise your voice to your parents, and you are Willing to TAKE a JOB to EARN the money for you to date with ....
Now let me point out this fact (because I've gone through the Hormone-Raging nastiness of teens myself -- and am SO GLAD to finally be an Empty-Nesting Retiree) ... the reason your parents are NOT willing to let you date at this time is ...
YOU ARE Too young
YOU have not lived up to your responsibilities to the family
YOU are screaming at them, disrespecting them, disrespecting the home, or not following their rules
YOU are not keeping your grades up or your homework done
The Parents SHOW that they LOVE and CARE for their Teenagers through the RULES that they set .. this is the best way of caring for their teens. They know that the ONLY way you are going to learn to be RESPONSIBLE as an Adult is if they help you LEARN that ability now as a teenager. They are UPSET when you argue, plead, beg, and bother/scream at them ... it makes ANY parent NOT want to let you have a little more freedom -- because they have the WORRY that you will get into some place or situation and be HURT, Killed or something bad will happen.
So my suggestion is to LAY back, DO everything that your parents want you to do (and more) withOUT any complaint, treat them as HUMANS and not your slave or servant, do NOT yell/argue with them when they tell you the house rules (for the umpteenth time), and RESPECT Them ....
Then ... with a proven track record of you showing you can be RESPONSIBLE and take care of everything that you need to do ... you can see your parents allowing you to start having a boyfriend (as long as you are not too young), and as long as you RESPECT the rules they have while you are dating (like meeting the boy, only meeting in public places, NO going into bedrooms, Coming home ON TIME (or early!), etc etc etc.
2007-01-11 13:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the only thing I can think of is to maybe help out around the house and do things to impress them. If they ask you to do something do it without confrontation. If you meet a guy you like then take things slow and keep your parents informed about nearly everything (you have to have some privacy). Let them meet him, and listen to what they have to say about him. You don't have to take their advise but let them know you will think about it. After awhile they will loosen up. The best thing you can do is keep them informed, and kind of make friends with you parents. It worked for me so I really hope it does for you. Good luck.
2007-01-11 13:19:54 · answer #2 · answered by krystaldarnell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make yourself a reliable person. starting from doing exactly what you promise yourself or other persons. this will show that you're a person who can be rely on. assure your parents with action, not words. no point arguing with your parents though. sometimes our parents dont understand us not because they dont want to, it's because they care too much about us. so, by showing them that we can be independent, reliable but still love them in return, we can gain their trust easily. it takes time though.
2007-01-11 13:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by williams 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
communication is the key to a happy family. sit down and talk with your parents. ask them the same question you have asked us. "Mom, Dad, what can I do to make you believe that I am a more responsible person now?" Now as for the boyfriend thing. I dunno you probably are too young. Plenty of time for that stuff.
2007-01-11 13:12:31 · answer #4 · answered by little lamb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try doing a lot of stuff for your parent and do a lot of the stuff they tell you to.
2007-01-11 13:13:34 · answer #5 · answered by ♪Allie Wallie♪ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice Caps there... ignored the suggestion huh?
2007-01-11 13:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋