I have been seeing someone for a few months. Our little thing is nice, but we only see each other on the weekends because he works so much. That doesn't bother me. But he doesn't call during the week. I complained about it so he called me once a couple of weeks ago but we are back to the I don't exist to him during the week. Am I being touchy or does he owe me a damn phone call??
2007-01-11 12:52:03 · 36 answers · asked by hthr_1974 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't say to him "you never call me": that would make him never call you. Tell him what it does to you if he does call you. Tell him you need contact, you need to feel save, you need affirmation, you need love... anything that has something to do with him calling you or not calling you. And then tell him you would like him to fulfill that need by calling you. He will then see the meaning of it, he will have a positive reason.
Yes, he is busy, that is not a lie. And yes he has time to call you, and men do lie about being busy, when somehow they feel pressure. owe you? no, don't EXPECT him to do things, ASK him to do things, and explain him that those things make you happy.
Love, Dr. Aram
2007-01-11 13:00:11 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. Aram, from Holland with love 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
From the tone of your question, there isn't any question but that he owes you a phone call during the week. Sure, some guys lie about being busy. Some others don't. You won't know until and unless you get to know him better. I don't know if you are being touchy or not but it does seem to me that perhaps what you are asking is that he prove he likes or thinks about you by calling--preferably without being asked. I HOPE that's not the case because my experience tells me that the proof will never be enough to convince you that he loves you. One translation for that is that you'll never be able to feel that you are lovable. I don't mean to offend you but the thought has occurred to me.
2007-01-11 13:02:14 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably isn't lying about being busy, but that he just isn't that interested in you. I've had many boyfriends, side friends, and just people who I knew...I would at least get a phone call on a lunch break or after work perhaps. Had some late night ones about 2 oclock in the morning after the bar closed...looking to see if I was okay. So in your instance, he might just be pursuing someone else, in the time you are waiting for Mr No Call.
2007-01-11 13:07:56 · answer #3 · answered by omiluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth is, if a man is content with knowing you are interested, available, etc.. he is happy with the way things are. Instead of demanding a call back, or calling all the time, try another tactic to put the ball back in his court. For a man to pick up the phone and call, it is a big deal. Best way to keep him going is with something to keep his attention, such as trivia. Call. Give him a trivia question about something he is interested in and see what happens. This way, he will know you are even more into his lifestyle, because you care enough to research something important in his life. Just keep it light and enjoy the company. Don't make him feel the big committment noose. Let him set the pace.
2007-01-11 13:02:15 · answer #4 · answered by jessie_hollywood 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is tricky business. You should consider what his scheduled may be like during the week and then compare that to your own. For example, if he work a night shift and you work during the day he is likely asleep while you are awake and vice-versa. While it would be nice to speak to one another during the week, would you want to wake-up in the middle of the night to make a phone call. He could also have a full plate of work and/or school that barely allows him time to shower and his only true time to slow down is the weekend.
2007-01-11 12:59:39 · answer #5 · answered by FlashBAC 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your man's reasoning is wrong. He might be busy, but that's not an excuse not to call you. He hasn't realized that hearing your voice is a good theraphy for him, a sort of comforter for you, and a great way to keep your thing going. Hey, why not give him a surprise visit sometime? Just be prepared because it's either him you give a surprise, or you who'll be surprised.
In my case, I sometimes get busy, but in between those frustrating times, a text message from my girlfriend means so much. In fact, it gives me more strength.
good luck!
2007-01-11 13:06:09 · answer #6 · answered by bluewarrior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! men do lie about being busy but to be fair so do women.
Maybe you should chill a bit..He could be really busy with work..
You should just be absolutely honest and tell him although he's swamped at work...if he wants a relationship with you,he has to make time..I don't think he works 24hours a day..He's not being fair to you..you deserve more then one phone call in every blue moon..if he can't make time for that..how can he make time if you two were to get serious???
2007-01-11 13:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by ♥S0uNd 0f InSaN!Ty ♥ SS 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm busy during the week too, I don't blame him. However a phone call to someone I like is never a bad thing and a nice break. So I'm torn, I don't know what status you consider your relationship to be in, but it seems like it'd be nice for him to take a little time to talk to you.
2007-01-11 12:55:00 · answer #8 · answered by Modus Operandi 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
men DO lie about being busy
he does owe you a phone call
and don't be too hard on him, he's just a guy, you're the superior one, you'll get him on hiss knees.
2007-01-11 13:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by AsiH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be lying, he may not be. Men lie, as do women. Keep in mind about what he does for a living, and maybe befriend someone else in his line of work to see how much time it really takes. Be careful, but don't tear yourself apart over it. Have a talk with him if you haven't, and ask plenty of questions and look for any deviation in his answers.
2007-01-11 12:56:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋