I was feeling bummed out one day at school and my friend was talking about a previous class and how they were talking about suicide. Then I said I would never do that and some boy told me that he wished i would die. i took it very offensive and got very angry about it because I already have told my friends that I don't think I should be on this earth and I'm a waste of skin and bones but decided the day before I should try harder to live a better life. But after he said that I got kind of hurt and started to think back to my ways. Whenever he would ask me a question i would say to him "I didn't think you could get an answer from a dead person"
and he would go away. It's been a few months and I haven't talked to him. Should I just let the grudge go on or say something to him?
2007-01-11 12:39:39 · 4 answers · asked by bkchick2010 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You do not need to hold a grudge. But, you do not need to have contact with him either. I do not feel he is a real friend, nor could he ever be a friend to anyone.
Holding a grudge is not good for you mental health. Let it go and you move on with your life. Suicide is the most selfish act a human being can do. It's a fine line, but would never encourage anyone to commit suicide. There is always an end to the tunnel. Sometimes problems are bigger than you think and getting help from any person would be a wise step to take. Talking out your problems and concerns to someone who is not personally involved is the most beneficial for anyone who wants to do such a thing. I have had friends, two cousins, and a nephew who have attempted. Three have succeeded. The family suffers the most.
I do not want to get "religious", but it is a sin.
Live and enjoy your life. Stay away from people who do not offer positive effects upon you. Do as you want and enjoy.
Good Luck
2007-01-11 13:02:46 · answer #1 · answered by lovetofly46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, your not a waste. Life in general gets so much better as you get older and out of school. And second, some people are just stupid idiots who don't think before they talk. He probably said it to be funny or sarcastic or something along those lines, but definitly didn't mean it. If you feel like he did mean it, then you shouldn't speak to him. Living a better life means getting away from people that bring you down and just don't enrich your life. Someone that says you should be dead doesn't enrich your life. If you really value this person as a friend and feel like they really did enrich your life, then maybe you should just let the grudge go. It doesn't mean you have to be best friends with him or anything, but you could just talk to him if he's around and just be polite towards him. You really need to think about how you feel on the inside. If you want, just let it go, the grudge and everything, and move on and forget about it. Don't think about whether you have to drop the grudge or not or whether you speak to him. Just forget about it and move on and it will just work itself out naturally. Hope this helps, sweetie!
2007-01-11 20:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by Becky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it´s not really healthy to keep grudges, because it only hurts you in the end. I understand that you feel hurt about his comments, though. I really hope he apologizes, that´s be what i´d wait for to move on.
2007-01-11 20:57:54 · answer #3 · answered by No se 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(Im sorry to hear this)
holding grudges is very unhealthy
dont let anyone put you down tho
your better then that :]
everyone was ment for something
in this world
but not sucicide.
your younge
and you may not know this
but your adventure hasent even begun yet :]
so live life :]
2007-01-11 20:48:38 · answer #4 · answered by Im This Guy... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋