my 13yr old has always been a good kid but 2 weeks ago she let a boy put his fingers in her vigina help?

Question

she has always been very private with her body, now on msn he is asking her to give him a suck and can he shag her,she replies duno might i am at my wits end there has only mosylt been me and her and we are very close what do i do?

Answer 1

i think your lying,because my daughter is 11 and if she was 13 and i was asking the same question,i wouldnt put it like that,you dont sound like a worried parent,more like someone who asking for perverts attention.protect your child,not exploit her,if there is a daughter at all.

Answer 2

Sounds like your little girl is finally becoming a woman. Even though in the eyes of the law she is not able to have sex until she is sixteen, it is worth remembering that most girls mature before that age.
Sit her down and have a serious talk with her, tell her that she needs to learn to respect her body and help her understand the emtional side to sex. Its taught in schools these days as a phsical event that will happen, but the emotion experiences are often left out.
Also, keep a close eye on her on the internet. There are lots of people only to ready to abuse the trust young girls place in them. I suggest you move the computer into a room that you both use, ie the living room. Then you can randomly witness what and to whom she is writing. She probably wont like being monitored, but she is at a tender age and needs protecting.

Answer 3

Oh the trials of motherhood. She is at that strange age where she wants to explore everything and thinks she knows everything. Personally I would try to be gentle with her and sit down and have a woman to woman to talk. Tell her in the nicest possible way that she musnt suck her bf because she can get a sexually transmitted disease, I honestly dont think you are going to stop her having s.ex in the near future, she wants to try it. But you could explain the problems and that her and her boyfriend will be breaking the law and if she must do it always use protection to avoid pregnancy and unwanted infections. Hope it goes well for you.

Answer 4

I, as a father, have been through this with 3 daughters at various ages. At about 13 they become interested in sex because they are bombarded by it on TV, music videos, magazines and peer pressure! Basically, it will be up to her as to doing it or not, but you need to give her some honest advice. Set up some guidelines that are acceptable to you and enforce the punishment if they are violated. And most of all, if she decides to have sex, protect her. Condoms, check ups, make sure she is around people with young babies so that she can see the draw backs of getting pregnant, information on aids, std's and abuse. This is going to be a very tuff parental obstacle for you to get thru, but it can be done! Hope this helps.

Answer 5

Tell her the dangers. Explain to her that what she is doing is NOT good, especially not at that fragile age. There's lotsa thigns going on in the body in teenhood, and frankly, it can get so depressingly annoying and irritating, but it will pass. Tell her of the dangers and have the birds and the bees talk with her - you probably already had it, but just to make sure, explain the dangers of what she did allow. Use evidence that can be found almsot everywhere, to show her that it's wrong, what she's doing. Tell her that you'd like to support her, but it can be a huge mistake and if she continues on with it, she WILL regret it in the future.

Good luck.

Answer 6

1) i'd have been MURDERED! i can proudly say i was legal when i 1st had sex...all be it only just legal (like 12:01 on me bday)
2) u defo need the birds n bees convo m8. and how the hell did u find out!? she ain't guno b best pleased if u've been nosey in her private stuff. u culd try findin out where she knos the boy from. cuz u need 2 kno if he's the same age as her. if he's sayn it on line is there any chance he may NOT b a boy? rather, a MAN. sorry 2 worry u but there r freeks out there. plus, if its from the internet, cancle MSN, take her phone away and sounds harsh, but ground her 4 2 weeks 4 summat petty. she'll soon 4get abt him then. mum did that 2 me when she found out abt my 1st time...whoops...

Answer 7

Ahh teenagers ,dontcha just love em! Firstly ,take the plug off the pc,or delete this boy from messenger list.Secondly,you need to chat with her about what she has been doing and what that boy said to her.explain that you are not happy with what happened.Explain to her that she is actually breaking the law to engage an any sexual activity at her age,and have the old birds and the bees chat!Poor you,I do feel for you,hope it all works out ok!

Answer 8

Take the computer away number one.. and talk to that kids parents.. what the hell man.. How old is this guy.. don't you know that there are perverts out there.. it could be another person acting like a child, I have a 13 year old and he is like still a kid.. you know you can disconnect the Internet and still use the computer.. you should be sooo pissed that you cant even see straight. So you need to get pissed and take that computer away and talk that that kids parents..

Answer 9

I feel for you, I raised 2 girls by myself. I thought I had it made when I told my 12 year old about her monthly and then 2 months later my 9 year old started and scared as the devil. Go to the library and get some books and sit down with your daughter and explain to her that this is not right and explain to her that she has to wait for the right boy when she is older (HOPEFULLY MUCH OLDER). Talk to the school nurse and possible even to a priest. GOOD LUCK

Answer 10

Talk with her, be honest and try not to get angry. If you get angry or mad she will become afraid to talk to you.

You should take her to the doctor & let the doctor back you up and share his/her knowledge with her.

Set very clear rules, boundaries & consiquences... And stick to them no matter what.

Also just because she is experimenting doesn't mean she is "bad"! Just curious... that is normal, she shouldn't be shamed for that. BUT she should be taught what is appropriate for her age & health.

I would aslo have a chat with that boys parents. Just so they can handle things on their end.

Answer 11

my 14 year old cousin is the exact same way. you need to sit down with her and have a loong talk about this. if it gets any worse, she could end up like my little cousin and have 21 year old guys calling and wanting to meet up with her. I think you need to emphasize the danger of what she is doing and how it can hurt her. maybe she doesn't think she is doing anything wrong...(with MSN)