Is a child anger normal or out of bounds specially it takes hours to stop him?her?

Question

children aged 7 to 12 of age.

Answer 1

My son used to try to hit, bite, throw things, hurt himself by throwing himself on the ground or punching the wall and scream at the top of his lungs. All this happened in just one episode. Well he had 3 of these episodes,

The first time I was in shock and confused where all this mixed emotions came from all of a sudden. My solution, I CRIED!

The second time I got upset, locked him in his room and sat in front of the door just thinking to myself "how do I handle this?" well good thing he fell asleep because I had about enough and I was angry. Wrong answer,

Third time happed after about 3-4 weeks passed and for those 3-4 weeks I was going through another episode over and over in my head so I was prepared to start at the top of my ideas and if it continued I was going down the list til i found what would help stop this behavior. Well after this episode it ended. I mean he did try to start an episode again, but every time the effort on his part was just useless.

Here's what I did:

HE HIT & I HUGGED and gave him Love and asked him "if hitting is what makes him feel better thats ok, but mommy feels better when she hugs cause i look like a red tomato when i get angry kind of like you do right now, but its so funny and cute when you do it"

HE BITES & I'M PREPARED i would kinda feel the episode comming so I knew he'd try to bite, So I kept a special can of jalipenos in the fridge and well i rubbed a few on my arms. Let me tell you Biting will never be an issue!

HE THROUGH THINGS & I LET HIM I just told him "If you want to throw your things, thats fine. You are just going to have a big mess to clean and few less things to play with when you done acting like this, I don't see why you would punish yourself like that because you don't hurt me none when you act like this" and I stuck by it, before he played, watched tv, his mess had to be cleaned.

HE HURT HIMSELF - I WATCHED I noticed he wouldn't hurt himself bad, it just looked bad when I was angry, but in the end I stood strong and never gave in. He wanted me to sooth his boo boos, well I told him "mommy's only take care of accidently boo boos, not the purpose ones you cause on your own, You're the only one that can make those feel better, it'll be useless if I try, ...Silly"

Well I know my answer is long, sorry, I'm just proud of what worked for me. I'm a single mom who grew up in an abusive family. I'm just happy I was able to discover a better way of handling my children.

Answer 2

yes it is.. I have a friend with a child like that, you may want to talk to a counselor/ therapist and find out why your children have so much anger, it could be a number of things.. maybe something is going on in school. That is my suggestion, I hope everything is alright and Good Luck to you!!

Answer 3

whilst he turns 2, i will initiate asserting his age in years. precise now, I constantly say the month, yet then stick to up with "he would be 2 in January" so no one has to do the math :) whilst he replaced into 17 months, i might say "he would be a year and a million/2 next month"!! form of factor. My son is 21 months previous on the instant!!!! rattling, time flies.

Answer 4

i think you are right to be worried enough to ask this question

the problem could be organic in nature - perhaps a food allergy or additive that is affecting their brain?

Answer 5

yes it is, at that age they should be well old enough to control there anger.its a attention getter.

Answer 6

I WOULD GET A CHILD COUNSELING IF THEY CHOSE TO BE VERY ANGRY
SOMETHING AND / OR SOMEONE MIGHT BE MAKING HIM /HER THAT WAY