Why are the "rest of us" expected to bend over backwards to appease breeders and children?

Question

Before you all get on the gilded stallion to call me "bitter" and "evil" and xyz...please put "Mrs." in front of it, and understand I don't bring my self down to your Disneyland levels and criticize your stomping grounds. I have higher standards.

Bluefish...not only did he marry me, he is RICH!! I don't even have to work, but I do. Drinkng haterade much love? Here's a napkin for your green moustachio. Mwah.

Answer 1

Some might expect it but they are S.O.L.!!!!! I cater to no one unless I want to......the hell with preggo's and snot noses.......I prefer pets!!!

Answer 2

If you explained what you mean by "bend over backwards to appease..." I might be able to answer you. But since you assume that us "breeders and children" automatically know what your trouble is, I can't answer this for you.

Since I'm only 15 weeks pregnant and was not planning on having children any time soon, I guess I've just resently "crossed over". Those hormones must have wiped my memory of how much my back was breaking being part of the "rest of us?.

I don't have a miserable life because I'm having a child. I do not plan on having more then one since I would like the weight of the world to lessen. However, some children do need to be born. Also, just because I'm pregnant does not mean I want to turn into "Seventh Heaven" here, have Mickey Mouse rammed down my throat, go on welfare or marry someone I hate.

It saddens me to find people with such a poisoned mind.

Answer 3

1st of all please tell me you have no children. 2nd just because a women has more than one child does not make her a breeder. I have three beautiful little girls and am 20 weeks pregnant with baby number four. My husband and i both work and do not receive any welfare.My children are very well behaved and are very involved in community activities such as volunteering for the Special Olympics. Yes some people abuse the system and keep having more kids to get more money but i find it very unfair to group all parents with more children into this group. I strongly believe that the prob is not necessarily the mothers but ignorant people like yourself.

Answer 4

Mrs. #$@%$ I think your selfish! You'll NEVER understand what it's like to love someone with your whole heart. But I guess it doesn't matter seeing as you have no heart!!!
I hope that when you come to retirement age and you and your husband have nothing left to talk about that you'll regret not having children or grandchildren in your lifetime.
I'm realy very sad for you, it's too bad you feel this way!

Answer 5

I certainly don't expect it, and don't wish for it. When someone goes out of their way for *you*, it creates a debt owed. I don't want to owe anyone a debt, so I take care of my kids myself.

John Holt says something really interesting about 'romantic child-worshippers' in one of his books. He says they have 'suffered from the notion that there was something wild and precious in children that had to be preserved against the attacks of the world for as long as possible...once we get free of this idea we will find lives with chilren much easier...'

Answer 6

OH!

I get it.

Sorry about your situation.

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Micheele
Would you stay in a marriage with a man like this?
Short synopsis:

1.) Knew about prior abnormal sperm count/poor ability to get a woman pregnant in 1st marriage from sperm analyses.
2.) Remarried with current wife (me) and knew I wanted babies while dating, but told me nothing of his problem until we began having issues and my tests came back normal.
3.) Fast foward 3 years into marriage...and 2 miscarriages later due to abnormal sperm. Now husband yells and is mean to me because I am sad about the babies deaths.
4.) He says I bring up the same old stuff, and in order to keep any peace in the home, I have to bury all my pain and not talk about it to him. Else, if I do, I risk having him throw a temper tantrum (like a 3 y/o) becasue he doesn't want to hear about the babies.
5.) Anytime I even mention missing them or even if I am upset, he throws one of his violent, irrational fits. These fits usually involve tossing objects and yelling, even when I attempt to be docile with him.

His age: 36
My age: 26

Answer 7

I'm no "breeder" (ie: mother) and am child-free by choice and a married career woman, but I do have compassion and empathy and a little open-mindedness for those who do not choose to make the same decisions as me and those who are not the same as me. You sound incredibly self-absorbed.

Answer 8

I don't think "the rest of you" are expected to do anything or bend over backwards for parents or children. You are who you are, you can choose to ignore the ignorance of people or you can just ***** about it like you're doing now. Everyone should have some level of common courtesty, apparently you don't.

Answer 9

I dont expect you to bend anything. Children that are raised correctly and taught how to behave properly are actually an asset to society. I can't fully answer your question it seems rather vage.

Answer 10

At least you're not one of them. Imagine if you lived your life continually trying to adjust to what you think society expects of you? Marrying without loving someone, having kids when you're not ready, ...

When I get pissed off about something like that I go to Byron Katie. www.thework.com

Answer 11

Someone married you!?! Must not have had your high standards. As for the "rest of you", I've got an idea, why don't you "bend over" and ...