Hey one of my friends has a crush on me but I don't feel the same way towards him. I really like him as a friend but that's all and I don't want that to change. As well I have a boyriend (he knows this). So I'm wondering how can I turn him down without hurting him too much? I've been told that guys can be really hurt by rejection and I don't want that to happen cause I want to be his friend still. what do I do?!?!?
2007-01-11 12:17:50 · 7 answers · asked by Swim+Cheerleading RULE! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there is no nice way to turn down a guy. its one of those missing things in the universe. kinda like how we still dont know what lurks in outer space or the unexplored portions of the deep sea. No guy wants rejection. it hurts and its what we fear. the only way to do this would be to say "i like you as a friend, a good friend, and i dont wish to go further. im sorry, i really am. i hope you understand" i think thats about the best i can do. if hes really your friend then he'll understand. dont be scared if he acts different for a little while. this is normal, but eventually he'll get over it, it just may take about a while. hope i was help to ya, and hey, maybe you in him have a shot, you never know, the world makes wonders....
2007-01-11 12:27:33 · answer #1 · answered by Robinhood 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well do u think that he has a CRUSH on u or has he said something like he loves u.etc. which indicates that he has a crush on u....
if he hasnt said anything and he just shows sign of liking u than just dont say anything to him,remain as normal as alwayz and whenever u meet him alone talk mostly about how u care and love ur bf so that he realizes that u really love ur bf and no one else...that way he will soon realize that having a crush on u is of no use as u are deeply in love with ur bf(And believe me if hes a good friend of urs he will realize it himself..
and the best way to not break his heart is alwayz be a good friend of his...
but if he ever expressed his love or likeness for u...just tell him the truth...tell him that he will alwayz have a special place in ur life but as a friend..and u really love ur bf and envision both of u in a strong long term relationship...
2007-01-11 12:31:36 · answer #2 · answered by sCrUbs 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ya thats the most straight up front easiest way you can do it. Just telling him your not interesting in him in that way. But make sure you dont make it awkward or embarrasing for him. Be sure to tell him you love your friendship and dont want anything to change.
2007-01-11 12:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by luv2dance 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
gotta communicate with him. Waiting will only make it worse because his crush will grow. Best to just say it clearly and kindly that you want to be his friend and that you dont want to hurt his feelings but you are not interested. He will appriciate your honesty and will appriciate that you want to be his friend.
2007-01-11 12:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by jw 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him your not intrested in him like that. Plain and simple.
If he doesn't understand that then it's not your problem, but don't complicate it because you'll end up sending him mixed signals.
2007-01-11 12:22:04 · answer #5 · answered by soccerpsychic 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well u could just somehow get him to "accidently" see this web page
or just tell him ur really into ur boyfriend
2007-01-11 12:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by Valerie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hook him up with a girl that is almost as goodlooking as you if not better looking. Arrange a meeting with them. It's the only way!
2007-01-11 12:23:24 · answer #7 · answered by 35 goodlookinmalefrombalt 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋