What do I need to change?

Question

As a female I don't get along with females. I have no quote unquote girl friends because I am not girlie at all. I don't do makeup, hair, gossip, shopping, or anything I can think of that girls do together. And most females I have known, rather it’s worked with or went to school with or whatever seems to only think of themselves or they lie, cheat, steal, backstab, and/or whine. (Whining is the worst-Every time I hear someone complain about their hair or nails I think they need to be shot) My issues with getting alone with guys is one of two issues. Either they can't hang out with a guy without them thinking of getting a piece or I am way to competitive for them. My ex used to complain I beat him at everything; it did not matter if it was shooting pool, video games, sports, anything and everything. I can't help it if I am going to do something I will do my best. I would really like to stop pushing people away yet I want to be myself too. Any suggestions?!?

Answer 1

Please don't take this the wrong way - I hope you are asking because you sincerely what to improve your situation... you sound very full of yourself and even that you feel superior to other women (and men) for being so "set in your ways".

Mind you, I'm kinda with you on the "girlie" thing, myself. Gossip? Leave that to the Holllywood folks who get paid for putting people's business on the street... shopping? I actually pay others to shop for me and I only own 1 eyeliner pencil and an ancient tube of lipstick - but I have plenty of companionship from among both genders. Knowing how to be a friend to others is a big part of it... not being so wrapped up in yourself that you can't see life from someone else's perspective.

There is a lot to learn from feminine girlie girl types... they can be very interesting... and okay... so you are smarter than the fellas you have been hanging out with... so join MENSA and get over yourself - you will be happier.

Answer 2

If you are pleased with who you are right now, be yourself.
No whole world could love you. There will be always someone
to complain about you, when you are perfectly cool person.
Yet, if you really want to make an effort to make the world love
you a bit more, encourage other people and just say really nice stuff even it may seem really small to you.
For example, you could say, "what a cool shoes, where did you bought them?", or " you seem to play better than last time, i guess i should be prepared for next time."
And, try to just give winner place to someone else sometimes.
People love others to talk good about them and treat them as if they are VIPs. When you treat others as if VIPs sometimes, they love you and follow you.
Don't lose your cool self and just be more friendly.
You can do it!!!

Answer 3

Just be yourself. I am a female with very few female friends. Maybe you just get along better with guys for some reason. Some people are just loners, too. If you are happy like that ther is not a problem. If you are not happy, just try being more tolerant of other peoples opinions. Or if you don't like the subject that they want to talk about, change the subject to something YOU like to talk about.

Answer 4

try being a girl, you sound like your a guy