Do you think it is right to punish a kid or make them feel guilty when they are not good at sports,school work or anything else.
I think it is wrong to hold a emotional shotgun to there head to make them be good at something.
I do not feel any kid deserves it.
2007-01-11 12:10:46 · 22 answers · asked by doulasc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
totally agree
2007-01-11 12:14:14 · answer #1 · answered by M T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Emotional shotgun...ouch!
I feel that it is right to punish a child if there is NOT effort involved.
When the law states that a child has to have an education and the child refuses to do even the basics>>then they should be punished. If they show up for class, are prepared and do the work and still fail...no punishment.
As parents we can only assist in helping our children become productive adults. We can't do it for them.
As far as sports go....each person is given a gift...if they are unable to grasp certain things....no they shouldn't be punished.
My only advice to the sports>> is have fun trying...that's what its all about anyways.
****Punishment....to take away privileges...computer time, phone use and going out on the weekends...
2007-01-11 20:49:11 · answer #2 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, nobody deserves that. If kids get punished for not being good at something then they will have low self esteem for the rest of their life. That is not fair. People should be able to be their own people. Some people aren't good at certain things, there is no controling that. I don't understand why people do that to kids. I totally agree with you.
2007-01-11 21:36:53 · answer #3 · answered by krystaldarnell 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they aren't good at speaking to their mother in a respectful manner then punish them. For sports, heck no!
I have a son almost 9. He is great at golf, baseball and soccer. I'd never punish him because he's not so good at football and basketball. That would be cruel.
I would let them know that I was disappointed if they didn't give 100% to whatever they are trying to do. But, I wouldn't punish them for falling short because of talent level.
2007-01-11 20:44:13 · answer #4 · answered by penhead72 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, so true. That child will grow up to resent you, maybe hate you, or even grow up to be a serial killer. You just never know what something like that would do to a young child's fragile psyche. Encourage them to do their best. If they are having problems with school work, the best thing to do would be to help them out and not punish, which would only make them hate schoolwork. As far as sports, only encourage them to do their best. Sports are meant to be fun. It is a way for them to exercise yet have fun.
I think the important thing to do is make sure to make it fun and exciting for them no matter what it is.
2007-01-11 20:20:43 · answer #5 · answered by zumi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY NOT!! I think it is totally wrong to punish a child for not being good at sports. As far as school, goes, if they can do better, encourage them, but every situation is different. But punishing a child for not being good at a sport or activity is the easiest way to diminish their self-esteem and screw them up for life.
2007-01-11 20:27:28 · answer #6 · answered by rtobor84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a child is not doing well at something, how on earth would punishing them help. You are absolutely right. Encouragement is the key. I was terrible at math in highschool. I had an amazing tutor who helped me one on one everyday. If he had discouraged me in any way I would have wanted to give up. He encouraged me every day and that's what kept me going on the days when I wanted to quit. We need to build people up and edify them, not discourage them and bring them down. There is power in our words and actions.
I don't believe in punishing for poor grades either. I have a friend whos boy is struggling in school. His mom and step dad punish him (he's 8) They expect him to come home from school and do his homework on his own without being asked. What he needs is a schedule and for them to sit down with him everyday and help him with his homework. If they were helping him, they could help him work through the areas where he's having trouble, then his marks would improve. I believe that most kids do poorly in school because they don't have the proper guidance and support from their parents.
2007-01-11 20:15:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that its wrong to punish a child if they are not good at something like sports. But, a child is clowning around in school and not performing up to their potential then yes, they should be punished.
2007-01-11 20:14:48 · answer #8 · answered by VON 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. Some parents do their best at living their life through their kids. In some ways good, but many bad. Punishment is a foolish way to motivate a child.
2007-01-11 20:15:35 · answer #9 · answered by samaustinashlee_billiewjr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree no okid deserves to be punished for trying something. its not there fault if they do bad in sport or school etc. i only belive in punishment if the kid has physically or emotionaly hurt another person but how ever never hit or call them names for this instead ground them but be resonable.
2007-01-11 20:18:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you. And NEVER compare a kid to a sibling who is better at said activity or sport. That's just as bad.
2007-01-11 20:16:41 · answer #11 · answered by Lola 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋