I have this new coworker started two months ago, we talked lot and things seem to be going well after few weeks, so i asked her out after work for coffee, she refussed.
.so AFTER that i ignore her,,but then she started talking more to me, and she start saying lot of good thing about me and became very nice and then we started talking more and more, again,
so recently I asked her out again(b/c i have big crush on her and i want to take any chance) but she refussed again..
so then i started ignoring her again,, but now she is being more and more nice to me, and says lot of good things etc about me and when she send business related email,, she always end saying lot of nice/good things about me.
so i am not sure,, what i should do.. why she is doing this to me..she know i have crush on her and if she is not interested,, why not she ignores me when i start ignoring her, instead why she says good thing and starts being nice to me?
so what i should do? keep ignoring or just be nice
2007-01-11 11:57:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is either playing hard to get, is being cruel, or just wants to be friends. Any of those options really aren't going to work for you in a dating situation. Either decide to just be friends with her, or just ignore her. If she really IS interested in you, she'll probably ask you out.
2007-01-11 12:02:40 · answer #1 · answered by btpage0630 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say what these good things she is saying are. I would say she is being nice but doesn't want to move it further then a working relationship. Not knowing what the extend of the nice/good things she is saying makes it really hard to answer, but I would keep it a working relationship right now.
2007-01-11 20:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a friend.Don`t ask her out next time just play it cool and just keep talking to her like you don`t want to have a relationship with her. Maybe she will feel like you don`t want only friendship and she will make the first move. If she doesn`t then you have your answer. Also maybe she has been hurt and she is afraid of a relationship. Give it time but don`t expect to much just be her friend. GOOD LUCK
2007-01-11 20:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by mammafran77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's flirting. I did that to guys for months. It actually works. The trick is she is nice to you until you like her. and then she ignores you. and it makes most guys go nuts trying to figure out what they did wrong. So they try harder. Just think of it as hard to get in some form. You can try to play the same game, or you can ignore her until she gets it.
Either way. :]
2007-01-11 20:04:00 · answer #4 · answered by Bailee S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude i am having a similar problem and i need advice too. look at the most recent question i asked in my profile. well, for you i would have to say (since by reading your description you are a lot more gutsy than i am), confront her about it and ask if she's ready to be serious with you or is she just going to play mickey mouse games with you. you sound like a pretty gutsy guy so try it, maybe.
2007-01-11 20:05:06 · answer #5 · answered by Ratchet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go all through that drama. I would stop asking her out and just be nice to her when u see her. Knowone have time for games. Go on with your life and find another crush.
2007-01-11 20:12:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to b honest with you, I don't think she's interested. She's playing with you, just to prove to herself that she can keep you wanting her. She's toying with you, and she's not worth your time. I know it's not easy to get over crushes like this but you need to, or you'll end up getting yourself hurt by her. Don't let her toy with you anymore, and find youself a REAL girl, who isn't going to play with your emotions to feel better about herself.
2007-01-11 20:04:50 · answer #7 · answered by Carolinii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she likes u but she's just want 2 know u better an maybe wants u 2 fell tha same way she does bout u
2007-01-11 20:06:18 · answer #8 · answered by Restricted 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is only playing head games. she likes the fact that you keep following her around. what you need to do is tell that hoe where to get off and leave your friendship at a work only one.
2007-01-11 20:05:48 · answer #9 · answered by Mr.renaissance 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe shes just a nice person, why do guys think that just because a girl is nice, that means they are flirting.....accept that shes not into you and just be nice to her
2007-01-11 20:01:34 · answer #10 · answered by thisisabsurd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋