I was at work, & my usually WONDERFUL, sweet bf called me at some point & said he was out with friends and would call me right back. By the time I got off work, he hadn't called...so when my friend who lives right near my bf called, I went over there to wait and to hang out a little.
My bf then calls me, and acts mad that I didn't call HIM...blah blah, I go over there later, and long story real short, he starts yelling at me and comparing me to old gfs and saying that I always call and I didn't, and not even LISTENING to me. I was just giving him space to chill with his friend! And I've never been yelled at like that by someone other than my dad ever. I left crying and nauseous from it.
The worst part is, he called me to stop by on my way to work today and forced an apology, saying "i guess I'm apologizing for how I feel." What?? And he doesn't remember half of what he said and was like, "but I guess you'll always remember it." So I'm going there to talk later, what should i do
2007-01-11 11:43:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ultimatum time drink less or get lost you didn't deserve it but thats what drunks do untill something happens that may alter their lives.
2007-01-11 11:48:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been treated like that before and it sucked. My ex also happened to be an alcoholic, but regardless that is unacceptable behavior. He clearly had some unresolved issues with past relationships that came out after a few drinks. It is not fair for him to compare you to the ex's. Just remind him that he said he would call YOU back not the other way around. Hopefully he can see that perhaps he may have forgotten what he said in his drunken state. You were being super cool and giving him his guy time and should be lucky to have you. Would he prefer that you smothered him and drove him crazy all night with phone calls? He's out of line and you did nothing wrong, know that.
2007-01-11 19:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by vonhartleben 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am wondering why your wonderful and sweet boyfriend would go off on you like he did. How long have you been together? But go visit him and hear what he has to say.
However, let him know that no one, especially you, deserves to be talked to the way he did. Let him know how hurt you were, and probably still are. Tell him that if he wants to go out with his friends, thats fine, but let him know that he can't call you until the next day.
But make sure he understands that his behavior toward you will not be tolerated. You are a person Cassie, not an object that he can kick around.
Your self respect should tell you to beat him senseless when he did that. But I can only imagine the shock you must have felt.
But, please tell him you will not put up with that.
2007-01-11 19:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by David L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude... not cool. A guy who treats his girl like that is trash. Even if it was a drunken thing, the fact that he apologized so insincerely and was a jerk about it does not bode well for him. Tell him that you will not torerate being treated like that, EVER again. He cannot compare u to his exes bc u are a totally different human being.... maybe he still has unresolved issue about his ex. But if that is the case that is HIS deal and it is totally unfair of him to take it out on you. You were being chill and didnt want to rush him when he was hanging out with his buddies... he should be grateful, not resentful. If he doesnt see where u are coming from... then itll happen again and u deserve to be treated better than that. Tell him he has another cahnce, but one more f* up like that and he's cut from the team.
2007-01-11 19:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by Heart of Gold 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it and tell him how felt/feel. There is no excuse for yellin at someone, especially if its cause you didnt call him, and he said he would call you...remind him of that bit! If its a one off thing tell him you dont appreciate him getting so drunk he yells at you for no reason and make it clear if it happens again its over.
2007-01-11 19:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by Onie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smack him in the head and say, "you better not EVER speak to me in that tone again! Whether you remember what you said or not I'm telling you right now, I will not be disrespected like that." I will accept your apology this time, this is your warning and you only get ONE. Don't let it happen again.
2007-01-11 19:53:41 · answer #6 · answered by prtybrwnskn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man he's a REALLY BAD DRUNK! He probably holds in most of his anger and let's it out when he gets drunk. This dude shouldn't be drinking.
And if he continues to act this way, I just want to tell you. Things will only get worse. Believe me don't let this one go. Stick to your guns he really SHOULD NOT EVER DRINK.
2007-01-11 19:49:32 · answer #7 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. Find someone who deserves you. Is he complaining that you're letting him hang out with his friends? That's a little weird. And he can't even apologize to you. I think he has ego problems. What he did was wrong. Leave him before you start to justify his actions.
2007-01-11 19:49:06 · answer #8 · answered by therightanswer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That not good, you don't have to take that from him.what if he do it again and you can get hurt behide his drunk a--. I been there and my life flash in front of me and he did't remember what happen the next day, I left his sorry a--.
good luck be careful, you don't have to deal with him at all!
2007-01-11 20:02:35 · answer #9 · answered by msredbonel1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to know what your future is with this man, just look at what demons were released when he lost control. Be very careful with this man. He has a drinking problem and unless he recognizes that he has one life is only going to get very troubled with him.
2007-01-11 19:48:43 · answer #10 · answered by Sciencemom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋