what can you do, when you don't feel loved in your home?

Question

i am 14 years old. i have 90's in all of my classes except science. in science i have a 61. i'm having trouble with my parents right now, we're always fighting. my mom just screamed at me that she doesn't care whatever i do and that she's going to pull me out of my private school and send me to a public one. she SCREAMED, like you could tell it hurt the back of her throat. she's mad because i didn't turn in a science paper. i forgot. i made a human mistake. i hardly ever ever ever do that. i apologized numerous times today. but that just doesn't seem like enough. my dad's a wimp and just takes her side. i feel like my mom has no love for me at all, and maybe that's a normal teenage thing, but i honestly feel unloved in my own home. my brothers are convinced i'm satan. i'm actually really nice and i have many friends and my teachers love me. all of my family members think i'm stupid and lazy. my brother gets bad grades and he's a smartass but they love him so much. what can i do.

my mom screamed "i don't care what you f-in do, i'm pulling you out of that f-in school since you don't do your work!"
but she's wrong
i constantly do my work
ALL I DO IS SCHOOLWORK.

Answer 1

Wow, sounds like there is more going on here than one missing assignment. I would bet that your parents have something seriously stressfull going on, either that or you're not telling the truth, but I somehow think you are.

Being a teenager is a rough time in everyone's life, even those that seem to be breezing through it, (everyone has problems). You are probably not going to like what everyone has to say about it, but remember that you will grow beyond this period in your life.

I could be a million things that set your mom off like that. Don't believe that she hates you just because of one bad event like that. Also, don't judge your parents love for you by how they interact with your siblings. Your siblings are different people, and your parents will react to them based on the differences, and many other things. When you are older, you will probably figure out why your parents treat you the way they do now, but for now, just focus on your own responsibilities and try to keep open communications with your parents.

Start by having a 1-to-1 conversation with your mom when she is in a better mood, start off by asking if there is anything you can do for her, show some concern that she has been stressed out, and let her know you care about her. Then ask her if there is anything you can do to help her be less stressed. Think about what you want to say before you talk to her, because you want her to beleave that you are concerned, not buttering her up. Be sincere.

Often this kind of approach will open doors, and she might have a nice, personal conversation with you. Learn from her, she was your age once, and she's probably worried about the age you are at, and the problems you're facing in life. She might be worried about bills, about work, or about something entirely different, and it would make her feel better to know that you appreciate the things she does for you, and that you are worried about how she feels about you.

Tell her that you love her and you want her to love you too. Too often, people don't tell each other that enough. (Don't wait until your parents are gone to let them know you love them). If she realizes that you thought she didn't love you any more, she might be shocked into realizing that she needs to spend more time with you, and she needs to communicate with you and find out what you are going through, what your problems and concerns are.

The first step to solving problems is being willing to communicate about them, (not arguing) you have to get to the bottom of how you feel, and let her know these things.

Good luck with this :)

Answer 2

So sorry to hear that sweetie. You're doing what you can; but they think you're not responsible. Chill out - stay away from them for awhile, if you can. If not, stay at school and do your work there and come home later just to have dinner and go to bed; be sure and let them know that you're doing your homework at school or at friends. Assure them that you are doing your best to please them.

Do your grandparents live close by? Can you spend sometimes with them - at least get some comfort feeling and love from them.

Does your mom work a lot and she took it out on you because of her frustration at work? I know it's hard - but hang in there and talk to someone you can trust. Sometimes, talking will help ease your pain too. Hug.

Answer 3

maybe try a little harder at remembering your work, and why not tell your mother when she threatens you about pulling you out of that school that if she would maybe take the time and help you study every now and then you might pull that grade up. another thing that might be a good idea is asking for extra help at school. your parents love you and want whats best for you.they just show it in different ways

Answer 4

I was in a similar situation only with my father. I tend to get into arguments with my father over the smallest things. He doesn't listen to my opinion and believes the worst of me. What keeps me going, being able to talk to someone to let my frustration out. A good friend can help, but you may want someone closer. You should find one relative that can really listen to you and help you cope with this. It can get bad, but push on through and show them that you can thrive without them bringing you down. Show them you are made of stronger stuff.

Answer 5

Hey there,
i used to have that problem i'd cry when i got yelled at by my mom do what i did treten her that shed best stop yelling at you or youed fail all your classes and become a smart *** like your brother........if that doen't work put of as many fire works as possible fire always calms me down!

Answer 6

i have the same problem & it cant be a teen thing every 1 i no that is a teenager has 2 loveing parints i have 1 that thinks im disfunkshual

Answer 7

wow!