This girl and I started dating about a month after she broke up with her Ex. I was concerned that maybe I might be the rebound guy. Anyway just about 2months of dating she said that she hadn't gotten over her EX. To she might have to stop seeing me for a while. She claims she she can see herself falling in love with me. But before she can get over ex, she will always hold back. I dont know what to do because she keeps texting me everyday to see how I'm doing. I dont understand. It is really affecting me. I am at a point of crying. Yes I said it! Crying. What must I do?
2007-01-11 11:24:02 · 14 answers · asked by hey101 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let her hear this song....and tell her she's nothing better...
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2007-01-11 11:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hate to say this, but ..you might be that rebound guy. The fact that she says she might have to stop seeing you for a while, leads me to believe ..her -x- may be calling her. The fact that she text messages you all the time, leads me to believe, she does not want to lose you in case...things don't work out (again) for her and the -x-.
However .. in her defense...I have been in love with two people at the same time, when I had to make a decision, unfortunately I made the wrong choice.
What you should know is, for a woman...like myself, I had know my -x- very well, and there fore I felt safe knowing him. If you are new....she may be afraid of the unknown....we women don't want to make a mistake. We can be insecure in that aspect.
As for you, feeling like this is affecting you, I am sure it is. It is human nature for us to be hurt at one time or another in our lives, some one else somewhere is hurting the same way you are right now.
The best advice I can give you, Is love your self, we can sense when a man is secure within himself, so show that secureness. If she texts you...maybe you can tell her your at the mall with your new friends ( make new friends ) or at the health club you decided to join, or your going to take in a movie with your brother or friend, let her know that your world does not necessarily revolve around her, You can do this with out playing games....Things have a way of working out you will see!
More than anything.. love yourself ..you are a special person, try to think about and get involved in other things so that you don't drive yourself crazy..please??
Good Luck, you will be fine.
2007-01-11 19:47:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look im just being real so dont get affended....
i had a girl do the same thing to me, its not a cool thing. There are many levels of being a rebound, and my friend you are a rebound, but nevertheless rebounds can turn in to solid good "i love you" types of relationships...
She does need time but if she says that she can see her falling in love with you then you need to ride that, push it so that she can be with you, dont cross the lines though where ever they maybe...
you guys did move fast it seems unless she left him for you then your good...
just old memories that she is having and she is holding on to them because she didnt feel down and sad she felt happy...
but to help along with her process of getting over this other guy support her and show her that youll be there for her and replace those memories that she is having with this other guys with memories of you and her doing things that make her happy,
its a time that you need to be a little selfish and give that little push if it matters to her and she cares about you and wants to be with you; it wont bother her to much....
best of luck man hope what i said can help you in one way or another,,,,
2007-01-11 19:38:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i went through the same thing not to long ago. I was like your girlfriend. let me tell ya, you are the rebound guy, and maybe she does care about you, but why would you want someone that still cares about someone else? Move on, man and then she will regreat ever breaking up with you. When she had the chance she should of took it.....Move on!!! Find someone who doesnt have feelings for anyone else but you.....
2007-01-11 19:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by bonham_2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well guy if instead of crying try to help her get over him, or is she with him and trying to let you down easy? Why don't you e-mail her or IM her and ask her to meet you somewhere so you'll can talk. But if she says she can't means she back with him. But give it a shot and get over it. Your a boy not a mouse.
2007-01-11 19:39:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is cooling down process for her to get over her ex-bf.juz endure & relax,do more exercises in the gym or going out with other friends to feel better..look at the brighter side of life.
2007-01-11 19:31:56 · answer #6 · answered by Goosters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
us girls can be nasty sometimes and don't maybe even realize we are hurting you! Maybe she's not ready for things to get serious with either one of you but whichever one of you guys is more respectfull and loving adn honest in the end she'll pick that one over the other, if not then she isn't worth your time anyway
2007-01-11 19:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by shine_on 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well go figure a month after she broke up with him? com on, your telling us you are not able to answer that for yourself?
let the woman go and keep moving forward, and let her get her in order before she comes to you or you go to her.
people you need to learn to save yourselves and not using others to save you.
in other words just dont answer let her be, she made her decision so be the grown up that you are suppossed to be. abide by it.
dont get caught up in her confusion and turmoil
2007-01-11 19:36:41 · answer #8 · answered by concrete water 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you want her to have her space and leave you alone. if she really loves you..or likes...she will come back. don't waste your time with her dangling you along. you may miss someone else who is better for you while waiting for her to get over herself.
2007-01-11 19:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by justforthisonepost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her go and give her time to get over the ex
2007-01-11 19:28:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
stop putting so much weight on what she said...actions speak louder than words, and she acts really into you...so just chill man... tkae it one day at a time...and don't pressure her!
2007-01-11 19:29:53 · answer #11 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋