My boyfriend and I have been going out for one month I thought everything was fine. We don't get to see each other often because I have an internship (opportunity in a life time for my future) that I have to take very seriously. He understands that but complains that I don't make time to go see him (mind you he has never come to visit me, i do all the visiting (live in different towns 1hr away)). So last night we are talking on the phone he says that I never make time to go see him and because of that he sees the realtionship going nowhere and suddenly hangs up the phone. When I call him back he is like yeah delete my phone number and am going to do the same. I mean I like him and all but he seems to be self centered and not interested in supporting my dreams. So what you guys think?
2007-01-11 11:24:01 · 21 answers · asked by Chicka 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he is using it as an excuse, but I think he is right.
One month is not a very long time to be seeing someone. I wouldn't think it would even be long enough to call it a "boyfriend-girlfriend" relationship.
You live an hour away from each other. That's just too far away unless the sparks are a-flyin' between you. Obviously they are not because you too busy and he is too lazy to see each other more often.
The relationship is not going anywhere, and under the circumstances it probably won't. I think he lacks good communication skills, but I wouldn't necessarily write him off as some self-centered jerk. You need to focus on what's important to you right now and so does he (even if that's just getting his "needs" attended to on a regular basis).
Now if you had been going with each other for a longer time, I might have a different opinion.
In the meantime, until you complete your internship, stay unattached and have fun. Go out with a guy for a date or two if you've got the time. But it's unfair to expect any commitments unless you just happen to meet that REALLY special guy. OK? You sound like a terrific girl who deserves one.
I wish you all the best. Good luck!
2007-01-11 11:28:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two possibilities: He has a hidden motive in dumping you - either he found another gal or something. But basically, this was an excuse to break off.
2nd possibility: He's just selfish, petty and chauvinistic. He wants you to give in and even if you do, this cycle will repeat itself and he'd find something else to complain about and break up again.
My advice is just to let it go. He's not interested in the relationship anyway, so no point trying desperately to hold on. Glad you see that he is self-centered, so use that knowledge and look for better guys. They're out there, so good luck. This guy isn't worth your time.
2007-01-11 19:57:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know . . . maybe he doesn't feel like he is getting enough attention from you and that you are too wrapped up in your work to have time to see him. As for him going to see you, I guess he should have gone to see you if he had the means to do it. Unless you're making a killing and he's an impoverished college student or something, that is. But no matter the reason, it's plain to see that he is not interested in a relationship with you. If he comes back you can consider taking him back if you wish. But for now, he sounds too stubborn to try to reason with. Good luck!
2007-01-11 19:30:17 · answer #3 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though it might sting right now - it looks like he did you a favor.
He seems very self-centered and not caring about your life - at all! He doesn't see the benefit of being with an educated woman, and you would just be frustrated with him down the line.
Quality people know that school and work come first.
Find someone who appreciates you - he is a loser!
2007-01-11 19:33:07 · answer #4 · answered by beach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he definitely seems self-centered and not supportive of you at all. You are better off without him and consider yourself lucky that you didn't waste any more time on this relationship. Good luck to you in the future.
2007-01-11 19:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by Kaylee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him. Do as he says, delete his phone number. You'll thank yourself later on down the road. He only cares about one person-himself. What he really means is not "our relationship is going nowhere" but "I want to make myself open to women who are more readily available to fulfill my needs."
Focus on your career, not some selfish guy who is only half-interested in you. Like you said, its an opporunity of a lifetime. Don't waste your time -or your future- going after this nozzle.
2007-01-11 19:41:20 · answer #6 · answered by marilyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think enjoy your time being single. Get to know yourself and build the confidence to be independent of anyone. Then, wait until you find someone who deserves you. Some men don't have the balls to bluntly say they just don't want to be with you, so they make up an excuse. Find an honest man.
2007-01-11 19:30:03 · answer #7 · answered by therightanswer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not a legitimate reason, if he cared he would take the effort to see you. WHy would you want to be with a guy who you think is self centered anyway
2007-01-11 19:29:04 · answer #8 · answered by twinktoes7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is NO illegitimate reason for one person to leave another person. No matter what, the real truth for him leaving you is always that he doesn't want to be with you anymore. Everything else is just excuse.
From what you said, he never loved you or wanted to be with you bad enough. ( And girl, you know that yourself!) Better stop seeing him now than waste any more of your time with him. I think he actually did you a favor!
2007-01-11 19:31:11 · answer #9 · answered by zhifa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Right from the start, he just don't find you suitable, that's also the reason why he never come and visit you. Be grateful he tell you only after one month.
2007-01-11 20:35:23 · answer #10 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋