My friend's brother-in-law has been married to her sister for almost 8 years. They have 2 little girls. Since day one of their marriage, he has been shirking his responsiblities. Early on, he would stay out all night with his Marine buddies. Then, he was "stationed" with the State Police about clear across the state (he had to move out and get an apartment there).
Then, he was "deployed" with a unit that he wasn't even a part of. He found out that the unit he was in wasn't going to Iraq and positioned himself to leave with another unit. And that unit is OUT OF STATE! He went and came back home. Now, he has been living in Michigan since May 2006. Supposedly with the Marines.
AND, he had to pay for EVERYTHING! He claims that the Marine Corps doesn't pay for him to be on Active Duty, so he has a huge hotel bill! And he has to buy all of his war gear out of pocket?? Now he is leaving in August to Afghanistan with a unit out of Florida? WHAT IS GOING ON????!!!!
2007-01-11 11:22:20 · 21 answers · asked by Allison 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Question should be: IS HE LYING ABOUT BEING DEPLOYED? IS HE VOLUNTEERING SO THAT HE DOESN'T HAVE TO STAY HOME??
2007-01-11 11:28:25 · update #1
Okay, okay.....it's MY sister. And I'm only concerned because he RARELY sees his children, and he could care less if he comes home. It seems like he WANTS to go to war? It's like they are divorced and don't want to tell anybody? I'm terribly concerned, but at the same time, I am MINDING MY OWN BUSINESS!
My husband is also in the USMC Reserves, and I know you would almost HAVE TO VOLUNTEER to be doing all of this stuff. And he JUST NOW got orders to leave this summer, and he has been in for 8 years!
It's very fishy.
2007-01-11 11:42:26 · update #2
Someone is getting schnookered - but it's not you, so stay out of it. If your sister is willing to live like this for so long, there's not much you can do about it.
Sounds like he's a wannabe and maybe they're not even married?
Stay out of it...
Based on what you added - you already answered your own "question." My only suggestion would be to sit your sister down and go through all this with her. She deserves a happy life for herself and her children - not one waiting for a loser who will never be there.
You might also consider contacting I.C.E. and/or the Marine Corps and let them know that this joker is besmirching the good names of your husband and all the real heroes out there.
Good luck!!
2007-01-11 11:29:49 · answer #1 · answered by 34th B.G. - USAAF 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm a military spouse and I have to say that red flags are going up here. What you are describing makes very little sense. First of all, I know very little about the military being stationed with the state police. I can't really comment on that. But if that was the case then I'm sure the military would have allowed him to move his family with him. It is possible to get deployed with a unit you are not part of. My husband is Air Force but often has to deploy with the Army. However, this story just sounds fishy. If he is in Michigan why isn't his family there with him? The Marine Corp. does have to pay for his expenses if he is somewhere he was ordered to be. If they do not have accomodations for him and he has to be in a hotel room then the military does have to pay. Some war gear does come out of pocket while other gear is issued. So, I can see where he'd be buying some of that but certainly not all of it.
Anyway, this doesn't make any sense at all. I think this man is lying and I'd go so far as to wonder if he is in the military at all.
2007-01-11 11:34:27 · answer #2 · answered by Amelia 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well as a former Military man,, Active and Reservist. The thing that came to my mind is that whenever someone travels or goes anywhere they cut them orders. When an entire unit ships out, they cut the listing down by putting every man in the unit on one set of orders and then give each man a copy. I would contact the "supposed" units First Sergeant and ask for these orders to help with a home loan or some BS like that.
2007-01-11 14:35:08 · answer #3 · answered by anton_29207 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having been married to a career military man for 20 yrs., I can tell you that he could be deployed with a group other than his own but it would be another group on his base /post. If the U.S. "makes" him do the stuff he says, they would be paying him, period, end of story. He is a liar pure & simple. If it was all top secret they would still pay him. You don't volunteer to work in the military for no pay & they don't make you stay in hotels without paying for them.
Your friend should run, not walk to the nearst lawyer. If she can't afford one then go to Legal Aid. She should at least know what unit he is supposed to be with. get HELP now.
2007-01-11 11:37:25 · answer #4 · answered by mazell41 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dishonest for the time of a deployment is amazingly effortless, that stated, it would not make it proper. My son is interior the protection pressure, has been deployed 5 situations on account that 911. He tells me many times about human beings he's serving with that are handling cheaters. Your husband necessary to carry close in case you cheated, he pushed your buttons until eventually you caved and it worked. The soldier being cheated on has the information set that they want to go back living house and characteristic the divorce organisation over and finished with so at the same time as they go back they could commence to flow on. there is an act that stops a soldier from divorce at the same time as deployed. the alternative will be made to divorce, notwithstanding the papers won't be able to be very last until eventually they go back. You my darling are the undesirable guy. You cheated and were given stuck. You predicted a scolding and the following is mine. What a inconsiderate and smash-a lot less and selfish individual you're. i do not care how lonely you obtain. i do not care what your reason replaced into, there is not a good one as far as i'm in touch. Your husband, alongside with thousands of alternative infantrymen, is over there risking existence and limb and also you're over the following boinking some guy. Do you get it? He ought to die? and also you're doing what? anticipating someone available to assert 'Oh, that is okay sweetie.' nicely, this mom of a soldier who's spouse did the same aspect you probably did, is so thoroughly disgusted consisting of your lack or personality, i'm actual upset in myself for waited my time responding to you.
2016-11-23 12:51:26 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is lying. I am 99.9 percent sure of it. I am in the military and have been for 9 years. He would be getting paid while on travel for work. And all the nonsense about this unit and that unit seems pretty rediculous also. She needs to leave the guy but at the same time, dont be so gulable. She can contact the Marines and find our for herself if she wants to.
2007-01-11 11:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by Bucfan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Friend's Brother-In-Law is clearly lying. Any Military force deployment to anywhere MUST have an"Orders of Deployment" It can be state side or even to Foreign Country. In that paper, it will include the amount of days are you going to be stationed there, etc etc. And Finally, It must be signed either from Colonel all the way to the General. The military clothes are usually issued to you either if you have a wear and tear or New Uniform Brand.
2007-01-11 11:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by demon369 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a pathological lier. My uncle was in the Marines on active duty for 25 years and they never denied him pay or a place to live. I'm sorry, but your brother in law can't buy the weapons that the military uses, the marine corp or whatever provides these things which are paid for out of our pockets. There's something else going on with your brother in law. Just sounds like a pathological lier to me.
2007-01-11 11:31:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He's lying up a storm. The military if very protective of wives. I am guessing he isn't even in the military anymore! My husband was in the army and they insisted on him giving me full Power of Attorney etc while he was overseas. Unless the military never found out about his marriage. This just seems like a totally unreal situation. She should contact her local military base to inform them of the situation. If my some strange machinations he actually is in the military they will make sure that she is getting her just due usually atleast his quarters money. If he isn't active anymore they will also take care of that since It is illegal to impersonate a member of the military!
2007-01-11 11:34:32 · answer #9 · answered by psycho-cook 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By the sound of it, he is a reservist or national guard. Sounds like BS to me. If he was activated (placed on active duty) all his eqipment would be furnished and a barracks, tent, would be provided. If he stayed in a hotel, quarters allowance would be paid. As for being deployed with another unit, I doubt it very much also. he would not be deployed with a unit HE HAS NOT TRAINED WITH.
2007-01-11 11:37:40 · answer #10 · answered by James W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋