How do you get delivered out of depression and loneliness?

Question

I have been in college for four years and I felt like I never had a true friend. I have searched within myself and even blamed myself to the point where I would give all I had to make sure that I was being a friend to someone else. You could guess it didn't work. Now I am lonely and it's turining into depression. Nothing serious but everyday is routine. I do things by myself and it's not fun. I feel like I have a sad spirit inside me that I can't shake. What can I do to stop this feeling. I have one more semester in school and I am trying to make it through!

Answer 1

Chin up honey =) Did you try to join in any social groups or study groups. Friends are sometimes harder to come by than you would ever imagine, and often they turn up in the strangest places. As far as the depression, talk to a school counsellor to get stuff off your chest, it can really help when it feels like you have the weight of the world on your shoulders. Make sure you exercise too, it really helps when you are feeling down, it gets the endorphins flowing and although it may not solve your problems, it will put you in a better frame of mind. When I get blue, I close my eyes and imagine that I look inside myself for that sad lonely girl and I reach down and give her a big hug inside myself. It is a surreal feeling even though it might sound corny but it helps me. When you finish school and get into the workforce, friends will be easier to come by as you will already be sharing things in common with your coworkers. Good luck for your last semester and I hope things look brighter soon =)

Answer 2

1. Get some counselling.
2. Join a bible study.
3. Does your college have an Inter Varsity Christian Fellowship group? They may have some activities and some information on some college bible study groups and contacts for christian counselling.

College is a time of change. People will come and go out of your life, but find a way to enjoy that fact.
An advantage to this is that you can practice making new acquaintances and next semester and next year, the slate is wiped clean and you can start with new ones.

This is a short period in your life, and once you are out in the work world, things may start to settle down so you can make longer term friends.

But do take the time to make acquaintances, they might never be close friends due to the nature of college, but it is a good time to learn about other people and learn about what kind of people you will want to fellowship with in the future. It will help you make better choices in friends.

Answer 3

College can be very lonely I hear. I know there are party types but there are also the serious study all the time types. I never went to college in my younger days and my older years my college is still limited. My wife did get a bachelors degree and is 17 years younger then I am , but she was one of those study all the time people and did not have time for friends.


If the depression is caused from your college situation it should improve, but do keep a check on it and make sure it is not clinical depression.

Answer 4

There is a spirit in man. This spirit allows us to function and take care of our needs.

But depression that is caused by an outside spirit is a serious depression. You probably should try to find a spiritual helper, one that is knowledgeable.

For a quick fix solution St. John's Wort is an SSRI (Selective Serotonin Re-uptake Inhibitor). It kicks in after about 2 weeks of daily dosage. It really works and it works much better than Prozac and without the awful side effects.

Request the booklet, Psychological Health from [e-mail]

Consider the Bible to be the guidebook for life.

Answer 5

I don't think there is anything you personally can do. You could see psychiatrists, but all they could do is prescribe medicine that may only hurt you in the long run.

I can't say I've ever personally dealt with depression or lonliness, but I'm sure hopelessness goes right along with what you are feeling. I sure have felt that.

Actually, just a few minutes ago, I was feeling extremely down and I guess you could say depressed about a stressful family issue. I was (and still am) wondering why God is taking so long to heal hurts and make family life a little more peaceful. I have been dealing with this issue most of my life. Just a few minutes ago, I sat down feeling, hurt, angry, frustrated and annoyed. I began to write my feelings down, hoping to sort them out. I decided to tune into Sonlife radio (www.jsm.org). They were playing songs such as "I Surrender All" and "Is Your All on the Altar?" I am a Christian and have already surrendered my life to God, but there is always more of myself(bad feelings, grudges, etc.) that I can give to him. I just began to cry and tell God to take all my bad feelings away and all of me that may be adding to this family issue. I have done this before, but God doesn't necessarily just take all our pain right away. He does give us the strength to carry on. It makes me feel better once I tell God about my problems. I know I have deep hurts inside. It's an indescribable feeling that I know I need to cry, knowing that will help me with my hurts. But being able to cry on someone's shoulders, better yet, God's, is a joy that I can't explain. I am not over my hopeless feelings, but it does feel good to tell Someone (God) and know He won't reject me.

If you're looking for a cure for your depression and lonliness, I urge to try God. Tell Him how you feel. Ask Him to help you. He is "a friend that sticks closer than a brother." (Proverbs 18:24 in the Bible says that. It is true.) I have found that to be very true lately. I love God with all my heart and want you to find that happiness in knowing that you can have a true friend that is closer than any human friend and "will never leave or forsake you"(Hebrews 13:5)

I know this is a long answer, but if you have any questions please email me at [e-mail]. I will do my best to answer you.

Answer 6

People will want to be around you when you figure out how to be happy. Live your life and be happy. When you learn to enjoy doing something alone, others will see your enjoyment and want to be a part of it.

If you don't help yourself, you will never be in a good position to help someone else. Giving everything you have doesn't help anybody.

1 semester left? You are a survivor or you never would have made it this far. You'll get through this just fine. It's hard to hit the books on that level for 4 years. I was burnt out in my last year too.

Answer 7

I can totally relate to you. I seem to be going through the same thing, and its really quite depressing. I'm not a boring person, I actually can be a great friend. but ever since I enrolled into college I have been by myself, and I hate it. I'm starting to miss class, and miss other important things because I really just don't want to deal with that loneliness b.s anymore. I've tried to be more open, friendly, and nice but it doesnt seem to work.

I know that this didn't answer your question, but I answered this because I wanted to let you know that you are not alone in your situation, and I hope that we both pull through this, and move on.

Answer 8

Therapy.

No lie...you need therapy. Maybe meds. If you need a therapist who is OK with your religious feelings, discuss that first thing with him/her over the phone or in the initial appointment. None of my therapists ever minded if I discussed religion or spiritual issues (though most haven't been religious. My current guy is, though.)

But I would be hesitant discussing things with someone in a particular religion. What if you search your soul...and you realize you hate your religion and want to change to another one? You'd feel uncomfortable discussing that with someone in your own church, and you need to feel uninhibited and free to talk about your problems.

Also, avoid people who make it out like you're cursing God or being a bad person for being depressed. Many Christian churches, for example, blamed people for depression by saying they just weren't close enough to God and that's why they were depressed. This is even in recent times! Some still say it!

Find a secular mental health professional and don't make it about religion. If you're happy and know yourself, religion will fall into place. If you're unhappy...don't search for a religious fix to deal with your personal issues. It just won't work.

And if you mean deliverance like, "exorcism"...no. No, no, no. Don't even try that route.

Answer 9

I know this might seem a small thing but I think music really helps me because I have felt similar to what you describe. Music can do things as if it were a friend and lift your spirits
I do have another idea but you'd have to email me, i have found true friendship a rare thing, i would rather have no friends than it not be true (and I have very few). I have found women have a gift... I know a way to meet girls to lift any man's heart

Answer 10

Loneliness is a big cause for depression, I often feel the same way. But you have to put yourself out there, meet people. Otherwise you might have to start taking Lithium carbonate. Take care!