If you have recently found out you were being played, would you care if the other girl got hurt?

Question

I recently found out that the guy I had been dating for 6 months was playing me, and at least one other girl. He told me in front of her that he wanted to be with her, not me. She is much younger than he is, and I am a couple years older than him, and I know he's going to hurt her too...should I care, and try to warn her?

Answer 1

In my personal opinion,
You may not care about him, because of the way he treated you, but yes, I surely would warn her, She could be a loving, caring sweet young girl, and she could be a victim of his ways just as you were.

You know how he treated you,
And you know the pain and anger you once and probably still feel from this man, So I would at least try to save her the effort that she may have to put into the relationship and at least give her your personal opinion.

State the facts when you speak with her ( If you do )
Tell her the truth & that she can't deny the facts.
She knows that he cheated on you,
So what's going to stop him from cheating on her?

Point it out to her, nicely and gentle,
Explain to her that you arn't trying to split them two up because you want him back or anything of that nature... Tell her that you wouldn't want a cheater back no matter who it was.

Just let her know your personal perception upon the subject,
And if she doesn't listen, or she stays with him... Then it was her choice, and you did what you could have done to save her from the emotional disaster.

At least you can't say you didn't warn her.
Everyone is free to make their own choices in life,
But giving a little of your 2 cents is never wrong,
Just be sure to convey it in a polite manner,
Because if you go telling her it in a bitchy and sarcastic manner,
she will only be on the defense.
Which isn't what you want,
You want her to be open minded, and open to all of the facts as well as possibilities of the relationship she is entering into.

I hope all works out, and works out for the better.
I'm so terribly sorry that you had to experience all of that.
It's no fun being cheated on and having to go through that.
I am truly sorry for you, hun.

But just honestly know,
That everything happens for a reason,
And you could most defiantly do better than an ******* like that.

I hope I helped you with this problem,
If any further questions come about in your mind,
Please don't hesitate in contacting me. :)

Best wishes & good luck.

XoXoXo

Answer 2

You can try to warn her but she probably won't listen. You'll probably get into an argument with her if you do decide to say something. It's worth a shot. He might be serious about staying with her though, and that might be the reason he told you in front of her.

Answer 3

No, you should leave them alone. She will find out herself. You would just look bad if you sad anything.............
I have a similar situation only thing is it doesn't involve me in any way. I know this girl who is getting married and she is being played, I want to say something but I know I will be turned into the bad guy if I do. So I just stay out of it!

Answer 4

If you really are a "Jewel"? You should be adorned with all of the riches that Life can bring. Walk away. And look to be treated with respect. Certainly there are some respectful Kids, out there.

Answer 5

.yes ,because what comes around goes around..and you'll get more satisfaction in bringing down a player than you would to hurt this girl the way you got hurt

Answer 6

i would say yes,warn her and tell her hes playing both of u.it sounds like this isnt his first time..if she dosent listen to u i would still say good bye to that loser.

Answer 7

No, I would'nt even try becaues she want believe you she will only think you are trying to get him back