OK, first of all, I'm not the super-good looking guy with a ton of girlfriends. I'm a junior in high school. Back in my freshman year I saw this one girl and I really liked her, just from looking at her. I thought she was beautiful, and I know my friend think she is good-looking, but not as gorgeous as I find her. I got to know her, and we became really good friends. I would just enjoy sitting down and talking to her. I realy like everything about her. I’m not great with girls, so I didn’t ask her out right away. Halfway through my sophomore year, I decided to, but took the pus.sy way and wrote her a note. I didn’t get a response, and her friend told me she liked someone else. For awhile it was really awkward between us, since we never talked about it. Finally, we got back to normal friends, like we were before. However, since the beginning of my freshman year, I cannot stop thinking of her but she has a boyfriend and i don't want to make things akward again. wht should i do
2007-01-11 10:55:11 · 10 answers · asked by milan 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I never said I was a nerd. I'm not a star athlete or anything (I have a job and I work a ton). If anything I'm just scrawny, but girls always seem to like talking to me, I just haven't been able to keep this one off my mind, and I just don't feel that interested in other girls. Yeah, I know its wierd.
2007-01-11 11:15:51 · update #1
She's probably unsure about how to respond to you, worried that you will get all bent out of shape when you gave her the note, and she didn't want to date you.
The simplest thing is to approach her privately and ask her a simple question. "I really like you, and would like to date you. Are you interested?"
If she says no, then take it like a man and still be her friend. At the minimum, the rest of her female friends will all take notice of the fact that you can be mature about it. Girls really notice that.
You are probably on the wrong ladder for her. "The Ladder Theory" indicates that girls see guys as either friends, or potential lovers. You are on the friends ladder. Friends almost never cross to the potential lovers ladder.
Besides, you are in H.S. You have a ton of time, and there are a ton of girls out there. You will find one that wants to date you as much as you want to date her.
2007-01-11 11:04:38 · answer #1 · answered by Garylian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to learn this lesson the hardway. I did the same things you are talking about and had the same problems.
One day I stopped and just started to look around. There are beautiful girls everywhere. When you obsess over one girl, you miss all the other chances that are around you.
By the time I was in my first year of college I was hanging out and having a good time with a number of non-serious relationships.
It was a hell of a lot of fun. Keep it fun and don't get anyone pregnant and you'll do just fine.
2007-01-11 19:22:32 · answer #2 · answered by khanofali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait it out. If you are good friends then she knows you are there for her. She has to make her own decisions and not feel as if you want to push a relationship when you know she has a boyfriend. When that relationship doesn't work out then be there for her as a good friend first then talk to her about how much you really like her and why. See where it goes from there. If she still isn't ready then it is better to be a really good friend then to go seperate ways because she doesn't like you in that way.
Yet.
Good luck.
2007-01-11 19:01:41 · answer #3 · answered by vancie121 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has aboyfriend, dont do anything right now. Otherwise that is gonna for sure make it awkward. If you have waited this long, you can wait a little longer until they break up. If you blurt out your feelings she will feel like she cant hang out wiht you bc she doesnt want you to get the wrong idea... esp after she didnt respond a year ago and you guys just started hanging out again. She probably tried to distance herself from you after the note so as not to lead u on. If you say something now, she will again feel like she needs to distance herself. Don't say anything. Wait at least until she is broken up with her BF.
2007-01-11 19:00:55 · answer #4 · answered by Heart of Gold 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line, If she don't like you in that way, that's her loss. Your in high school anyway, you shouldnt even have a girlfriend. when i was in high school, I was in love with this one girl and she barely gave me the time of day. I missed out on so much action cuz of that. Now that I think back, I kick myself because of that. Your best move is to bang as many girls as you can and not even worry about this chick, If it was meant to be, she'll come around, these things have a way of working themselves out.
2007-01-11 19:07:18 · answer #5 · answered by BIZARO99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You blew it mate. writting a letter shows what type of man, no mouse you are. You had your chance but you lost it in the running and now shes got a real man. Best thing you can do is look around for a Nerdy girl that would seem to suit you.
2007-01-11 19:03:44 · answer #6 · answered by pop c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait until she's single again then ask her out. In the meantime, try looking at other girls who are single right now. Girls don't like pu.ssy.s. so you'd better start acting like a man real soon. JMO
2007-01-11 19:00:22 · answer #7 · answered by Evoljz_Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. She has a boyfriend. She never responded to your note. She's not interested in you romantically. Stop thinking about her (you can control your own mind and thoughts) and focus on your school.
2007-01-11 18:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has a boyfriend so I dont recommend you telling her, but flirting with her wouldnt be bad either. If they break up then it'll be a different story.
2007-01-11 19:00:37 · answer #9 · answered by Je vous aime. ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has a boyfriend than there is nothing you can do but keep it quiet!
2007-01-11 18:58:51 · answer #10 · answered by cHiKiBaBe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋