father didn't take any responsibility from the time of pregnancy until about 1/1.5 yrs of age. few issues with child support arrearages. wants shared parenting but says if i move with my husband to any place other than where i am, i can't keep my son. (this is want he is planning on submitting in the shared parenting order for judicial review) he wants true shared parenting reduction in child support or sharing of child expenses (child care, etc) he has also implied that it isn't a choice. he will submit this and the judge will sign it and that is all there is to it. what has happened in the past will have no bearing on the outcome.
2007-01-11 10:51:07 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi, the best thing that I would do is play your ex at his own game. If you don't have a legally binding custody order in place then you need to do this ASAP. If there is no legally binding contract signed by the courts then neither of you actually has full custody. i would be lodging your own petition for full custody or a shared custody arrangement of your choice at the court house. At the end of the day the judge will then need to take in what each parent is requesting and then what is in the best interests of the child. If you can afford it I would get a lawyer to protect your son's best interests. If you let your ex make the petition to the court on his own there is no guarantee that the judge will give him everything he is asking for but there is a huge chance that he will give him some shared parents rights.
2007-01-11 11:04:25 · answer #1 · answered by Shannon M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate. When I was going through my divorce with my ex, he threatened to ask for custody if I didn't give him what he wanted. He didn't want me to move away with our daughter.
Yet, He walked out on me and the baby when she ias 5 weeks old. I supported her all by myself and had to go right back to work after he left since no money was coming in.
Your ex to be sounds like a control freak. Tell him to "Bring it on" and don't let him think for one minute he scares or intimidates you. Otherwise, he will run your life and your child's life.
The Judge will be the one who makes this decison, not him.
Good luck and God speed.
2007-01-11 19:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to scare you, control you. . He is jealous you are remarried you have moved on. Let me guess he has always tried to control you, and may have even been a little verbally abusive? He will have to prove that it will be benifical for your child also, that he can provide a stable home. It is just a game with him don't let him do it to you. I also have one of those crazy controlling ex. I am slowly learning how to deal with him and take control of my life with my kids and new husband. DON"T LET HIM CONTROL YOU!!! It will be okay.
2007-01-11 18:59:52 · answer #3 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not up to him but it is up to the judge.
2007-01-11 18:57:18 · answer #4 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋