I am not social, don't have much friends, and afraid to speak up.
What can I do to become more social and be popular.
P.S I don't want to be popular just to get attention.
2007-01-11 10:26:03 · 22 answers · asked by ♥ 4 in Education & Reference ➔ Home Schooling
Well, you have to speak up!
Or you could try befriending someone who's very social at your school. They normally help you get tons of friend and you could practice talking to them.
If you stick around a lot of shy people, and you're shy...not much happens.
2007-01-17 02:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by Ariel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try posting this in the Primary and Secondary Education section. This is for homeschoolers, those doing school at home.
Also, just know that it's okay to not be social, to not have a lot of friends and to not be someone who wants to speak up. I was an adult before I found my voice and learned that I was actually okay being who I was all the years I was rather unsocial, didn't speak up, etc. If you *want* to be social, however, not because that's how everybody else is and you think you should be that way too, but because you really are more social than you are showing, then you're going to have to feel the fear and do it anyhow--talk to a kid who seems nice and you'd like to have lunch with, or the kid sitting next to you in class--make a little joke or give a sympathetic smile. The things you like about those you consider social and popular, practise doing those things in little ways.
Above all, believe in yourself!
2007-01-11 21:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by glurpy 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Middle school is the hardest thing you will ever do in life (socially). Believe me, I've been through it. Just get a few close friends and that's all you will need. You don't want to be popular with everyone cause middle school is nothing but gossip. The more people that know you, the more they know about you, and the more they gossip about you. You don't want that. I'd say try to make friends with 4-6 people and keep it at that. Just start talking to someone about a class project or ask them if they saw the latest movie or show. You'll make friends in no time!
2007-01-11 18:31:56 · answer #3 · answered by L 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Middle school was the worsed years of my life. BUT I know what you mean. I am the same way and I am 26. Not much changed. Except life is better after middle school, I promise. BUT I did manage to get involved in something I like. In college I got involved in the ROTC department. Basically, I found my calling by joining the military. NOT that, THAT will be your thing...but you need to find out what you like... and do it. Join the newspaper. Join an art club if your school has one. That way if you like to keep quiet or to your self, you can....or if you make friends you can talkand have fun. Take part in the school play. Whether it's to audition or be a stage hand.
2007-01-11 18:49:27 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Once you start being social, you will have to rub elbows and eventually people will get to know you. Becoming popular is not based on being sociable, it is based on what you have and what you are that makes people either admire or hate you. If you want to make friends then do it naturally. You don't have to make a scene to get people to know you. When you have made enough friends, then they will eventually know you. Your popularity will be based on the number of friends you made and not on your being talkative or something. Just be yourself when making friends and everything will fall on its place.
2007-01-11 19:06:01 · answer #5 · answered by brainyluscious 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being in middle school, you should concentrate on being the best you you can be, developing an interest, doing your homework, and maybe joining a club at school where there are other kids who share the same interest as you, and you can attend activities with them, etc.
2007-01-17 20:24:36 · answer #6 · answered by blacklicorice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say stick with the ones u have and improve that relationship with them so they'd last forever. If you're cool then more people will start to like you. Or just be cool with everyone(so they dont hate you) but not close to anyone. Im a middle schooler too and i use the second one and I'm fine with it.
2007-01-12 01:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by BlazenAzn215 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to become friend with your freind's friends. go out and do things for example if you skatebourd in a park then go to a different park and meet new people. or follow a friend that's a girl around and join into the conversations no matter who she talking to just don't annoy her
2007-01-11 19:16:30 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda C 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest to join a group of something you're interested in. Most schools have many different groups. I met a lot of people in the one that I was in, and we got to spend a lot of time together.
2007-01-11 18:30:07 · answer #9 · answered by Amber 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i go to highschool so i know what your talking about what you should do is be out going try and find common interest with people and you can also try to go for a sports team, and make friends with people on the team.
2007-01-17 20:32:34 · answer #10 · answered by djfresh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋