Hi my friends call me Allison and I have a very conntrolling mother. She doesn't let me go to 4-h dances by my self ,she doesn't let me go to the movies with my friends, and i'm 13 and i don't even get to go on a date with out her or my dad there. So if your parents (mother) are anything like mine I fill sorry for you. I know they are just trying to protect me and all but there are times where you can lighten up just a little. Pleeeeeease help me!!!<:-O
2007-01-11 10:09:02 · 12 answers · asked by Allison 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They will lighten up on you as you prove responsibility in all areas of your life and agree to be held accountable for your actions that violate the family standards and rules. You can still have fun with your parents there. . . do it. . . and show them you will follow their rules. You WILL win this way.
2007-01-11 10:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your mother really loves you, and she's trying to keep you safe. 13 is a little young to be dating alone anyway, so that doesn't alarm me to hear that she doesn't want you going out alone on dates yet (maybe when you're 15 or 16, but not at 13, or even 14). My advice is to talk to your mother and ask her to tell you if you've ever done anything that would cause her not to trust you. If you've never given her a reason to believe that you're not mature enough to go to a dance, then that may make her take a look at her actions and think "hmmm...Allison's got a good head on her shoulders..." That worked for me with my mother.
Just remember, 13 is still very young in a world that is increasingly unsafe. Communication is the key to almost every problem. Don't approach her with any attitude. Ask her to sit down and talk to you woman to woman. Tell her that you want to tell her how you feel about the matter, ask her to listen with an open mind, and then ask her what she thinks of what you've had to say. The most important thing after that is to listen to what she has to say in return. Be prepared not to like the answer she gives. She may not lighten up immediately, but if you present yourself in a mature fashion, she'll be more receptive to what you have to say, and she'll start to realize her baby is growing into a very mature and level-headed person.
2007-01-11 10:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by Dannie C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Allison: At 13 your mother is doing the right thing: slowing the pace of life. You still have many many years to live and little by little you will adquire more freedom and with that, experiences; but if you start early, what can you expect at 30? at 40? You will be bored and tired of everything. Speak to her calmly and maybe you can get to an arrangement that will satisfy you and the normal anxiety of teenage rush and her motherly instintcts of protection. Good luck.
2007-01-11 10:33:52 · answer #3 · answered by globetraveller 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 00:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 13 you don't really need to be dating. I'm 20 and is in my second year of college and my mama won't even let me go out with my friends!! I just leave anyway b/c I can do that.
2007-01-11 10:18:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them about it. If you have a cell phone, explain to them that you could call them if anything went wrong at all. If not, this would be a good way to try and convince them to get you one. Tell them they would have more time to do other things if they weren't watching you, etc. Also explain to them that ur a BIG GIRL, you don't need to be babysat 24/7
2007-01-11 10:14:10 · answer #6 · answered by The Sun Still Sleeps... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u think it's bad at 13? imagine having that at 27 !!
just wait until you're 18 and you will get away. thats the best you can do. mine is still that way and i am 27 and there's nothing i can do either.
2007-01-11 10:12:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She loves you. Read some of these letter and then wonder why she is being like this. It is a Mothers love, not being controlling.
2007-01-11 10:14:02 · answer #8 · answered by blue2blnde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not allowed to date until im 16. /Maybe/. And im 14 and ive only started to be allowed to go to the movies alone. Im allowed to go to dances because i go to Catholic school and theyre very supervised. Thats right. Im being forced to go to CATHOLIC SCHOOL.
2007-01-11 10:14:17 · answer #9 · answered by Karen Smith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should be thankful that your mother is there for u and you should be lucky your mom is not dead or a drug attic and be thankful that she is watching over you and guiding you and it don't matter what your friends say OK, don't worry bout them, they mamma might do them the same way ok.
2007-01-11 10:20:40 · answer #10 · answered by pimpette j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋