My son doesn't want to potty train?

Question

He is 3.
He just refuses to sit on the potty and try
I bribed him chocolate and he did it once but I don't want to keep doing that.
I don't have him diapers I just having training underwear on him and he just pees and his pants get wet and he doesn't care.
What should I do?

he's watched his Daddy and me do it, he doesn't care

Answer 1

I know how frustrating this is! Put him in regular underwear. Keep asking him if he needs to go potty. Eventually, he either will go on the potty- or he'll wet himself. Being wet in regular underwear is a lot more uncomfortable than being in training pants. Training pants absorb the moisture. Make him sit in it until he is uncomfortable. Also, put him in time out when he has an accident. He needs to learn that it is not ok to wet his pants. When he does go in the potty, make a huge deal out of it. Reward him, give hime hugs, clap. I also tell my son when I have to go potty. I ask him where I am supposed to go, just to see if he gets it. He says, "Go to the potty. Don't go in your pants". I stayed home with him on a 3-day weekend, and just worked on potty training. He was completely potty trained by the middle of the 2nd day.

Answer 2

He may not be ready, I know its frustrating because most schools want the child potty trained. But if its really neccessary for him to get potty trained let him watch everytime u or daddy go to the bathroom eventually he'll want to try it too. Start him off with his own potty then work up to using a seat on the big potty.

Answer 3

Give him a week and tell him every day every time he goes that on XXX day hell be out of diapers/pull ups and there wont any more. THen just take him to the store that day and let him pick out big boy underwear. GIve him little boxers and briefs with his favorite character. THen put them on him and tell him how proud you are that he is going to go potty like mommy and daddy. Let him watch you go. My son loved to flush. Every time he goes on himself rather than in the potty make him stay in his clothes for a little bit. Not all day or anything, just 10 or 15 minutes. Eventualyl he wont want to smell and be wet.

Answer 4

He will do it when he's ready. Some kids just take longer than others. when my son was 1and a half we thought he was ready bc he kept takeing off his diaper and trying to climb the toilet. We'd put him up there, hed sit then climb off and pee on the floor. We realized that he was too young and didnt understand the concept so we kept him in diapers. When he turned 2, he told us he had to potty so we took him to the bathroom, he went, and he never wore diapers again, not even to bed that night, he was simply ready to potty train.
Don't force it, he'll let you know when hes ready. The more you try to make it happen the more he'll resist. Good luck!!

Answer 5

From the sounds of it, he just isn't ready. We thought that we would be sending our son to school in diapers but he just decided one day that he had enough of diapers and that was it (he was over 3 and a half). I tried to potty train my older girls starting at 2 and they didn't want anything to do with it but it seemed like the day that they turned 3 it was like a switch turned on and they were potty trained. My youngest daughter will be 3 on Monday and she has absolutely NO interest in the potty, basically what I am saying is that you can't force a child to be potty trained, they have to be ready. Just relax and put him back in diapers ( I don't think that pull-ups really work, it just shows them that it is okay to go in pants that you pull up) eventually he will let you know that he is tired of them. Some gentle encouragement does work sometimes, like asking "hey, you want to go to the potty today?", if he says no and means it, just go on with your day. Trust me, he won't be 21 and in diapers!!

Answer 6

dont give in - sit his butt on the potty/toilet and he stays their UNTILL he does something, even if it takes hours! you do not let him go till he does and you tell him he does.

stick him in pull ups - its a half way point between pants and nappys, it many be a better solution

play the "Big boy" card alot, kids love to be thought of or treated older so
you will be on to a winner if you can get him thinking big boys use the potty

have a reward chart - everytime he goes in the potty he gets a star - so many stars = a sweet

have a naughty chart - a big red cross everytime he goes in his underwear and if he gets so many take one of his toys away.


keep doing this for a few months - if it doesnt make any improvement then i think you will just have to accept your son is a bit of a late devloper and isnt ready for potty trainning, this will soon change when he see's other boys his age with out nappys.

Answer 7

My son is 5 years old now, and i potty trained him when he was about that age. He was the same way he didnt want to sit on it, in fact he wouldnt go near it.....BUt everyday i coaxed him to just sit, with his clothes on and we made a game out of it, to see how long he could sit there without getting up, so of course he thought he was playing and not doing what u want.....after a week of that we tried with pants and pull up off....he was a little hesitant but finally sat down but it was hard to make him do anything in the potty....I suggest buying a "treat" something that your son really really really goes crazy for....like lollipops..is what i used, everytime he did something in the potty he got a lollipop...when he got tired of the "treats" I got a big roll of stickers and put a sheet of paper on the wall next to the potty, and eveyrtime he peed he got a sticker and he added it to the wall....after time he didnt care about the "treats"
trust me it works try it out,.

Answer 8

I had the same problem with my son.my 2 daughters were both toilet trained by the time that they were 2/2 and a half,and I thought that he would be the same.Well I was completely wrong.I tried every thing,bribery,getting him to watch his dad,nothing worked.Just after He turned 3 and a half,he just got up and went by himself one day,and hasn't had an accident since that day.I still put night time pull ups on him as a precautionary measure(he will be 4 next week),he has only woken up a few times with a wet night time pull up,I that's to be expected.I hope that your son is on his way to being fully toilet trained soon.Take care.

Answer 9

We have been going through the same thing with our 3 yr old son. Tried everything, m&ms, stickers, matchbox cars, undies, pull-ups you name it. We finally just started taking him out in big boy undies. After he had to leave playland for wetting his pants he's been dry every day since. I thought we'd never get there. We really did stop making a big deal out of the whole process on both sides, not a big deal when he wet himself and not a big deal when he went. I hope the second one is easier. Good luck. Cheers.

Answer 10

I had the same problem. Have you tired putting a sheet of paper in the bath room and every time he goes, let him put a sticker on it. That worked for awhile. Than we placed cereal like Cheerios, and told him he had to shot them. Also we told him only baby peed their pants and he was a big boy. That really seemed to work on him.
i hope this helped.