I meet a great guy on a dating site, he seems a great guy, he makes me laugh & just sweeps me off my feet... he calls and we always chat, we planned to meet soon... i will be 30 soon & he`s 40, but even we are old now or can i say mature enough now he makes me feel like i am a teenage girl. I wanted to be with him & so is he. My QUESTION to all good people here, i might be swept off right now and cannot recognized my being silly, would you be nice enough to help me realized its imposible.... or is it possible?
2007-01-11 09:59:35 · 19 answers · asked by just in 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He never was married and had no children,i never were in this situation before, so its a bit strange for me. Thank you all for the advices & for all the precautions:) Helena special thanks to you for understanding me. God bless all!
2007-01-11 10:10:40 · update #1
Well, I know from personal experience that it's possible. You do need to be very, very careful, though. Get to know the danger signals - 'red flags' - and be aware of them. Make your first meeting in a fairly public place. I know you are NOT a teenager but similar rules of caution still apply!
Here are some articles that are worth reading:
http://www.lovingyou.com/content/groups/online/content.shtml?ART=redflags
http://www.dateline.co.uk/online-dating/Online-Dating-Red-Flags.aspx
You will (I hope) find that none of these apply!
Falling in love seems to happen all at once, sometimes, but really it's quite a long process of getting to know someone. Online relationships work 'backwards' in that one tends to know the person's personality before one knows their looks and outward behaviour. Don't forget that you still have to do that part!
If he has never been married at 40, then you may find him much shyer in real life than he is chatting and on the phone. There may be many other reasons, of course. Take your heart with you but keep a pinch of realism handy!
2007-01-11 10:12:25 · answer #1 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible I think dating sites are good as they pair you up with someone with the same interests etc. However you may be in love with who you "want him to be". So go careful, continue to communicate, that is the key to knowing who he really is and how you really feel. Being swept off your feet has nothing to do with age, I am 60 years old feel the same as I did when I was 16 as far as men. My husband "sweeps me off my feet" everytime he dresses up and takes me dancing! Love is ageless.
I know of 4 internet marriages and they all seem to be great ones. 3 of the couples are more my age but one is your age, american guy married a Uk girl she is a doctor he is a business man it is second marriage for them both but it is much better than the first!! So go for it!!!
2007-01-11 18:28:35 · answer #2 · answered by Lezleykay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot about this person you do not know and it looks like you have filled in those gaps with things you want him to be. That is pretty normal, but can cause hurt when you get to know him better and find out he might not be all those wonderful things you think he is. You cannot know these things until you actually spend some time with him. For example, do you think he ever farts? Would that change your opinion? Did you ever think about that? That is a very small example of what I am saying, and there are a lot more things you will need to know for sure to know if you are in love with him. Good Luck!
2007-01-11 18:09:34 · answer #3 · answered by cdb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be in love with who you think he is.
You have only been exposed to a percentage of him, and your mind is filling in the blanks with what you want him to be.
I've known people who've moved accross the country to be with people they met on line....all with bad results- although I'm sure there are success stories out there.
Meet in person when you both can...see what it's like, but don't put all of your eggs in the same basket that you haven't even fully inspected yet.
2007-01-11 18:07:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow babe we are in the same boat!!!
Met him on the net too im 30 and he's 38. Just like ur bf he plan and promise me to be here in Feb. but lately he told me he can't.
I never met him personally, our way of communication is by mob and net only but i tell you this im really really in love with him... but the truth is he never showed some love the same way i love him.
Now.. i still love him but im not holding on to his promises coz it seems everything from him is like a game.
Yes darling , im sorry but this is the truth EVERYTHING IS A GAME...truth really hurts that's why i believe love is not blind it sees more but choose to pretend not seeing anything at all...
But this is my opinion okay. We cannot generalised everything coz theres always exception in everything.. Wish u good luck.
2007-01-11 18:25:31 · answer #5 · answered by anne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's very possible! You have probably spent countless hours speaking to one another and know much more than some married folks do about each other.
2007-01-11 18:05:02 · answer #6 · answered by color me blue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its very possible to fall in love online i know this for a fact but i lost my love and still miss him too this day plus he was on the other side of the world i miss him loads go for it and dont let no one tell you your mad your old enough to know what you want right.
2007-01-11 18:06:12 · answer #7 · answered by helena 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in love with an image you've created in your own mind. Meet him first, spend time with him...then see how you feel
2007-01-11 18:11:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is completely possible......but it is unlikely, & thats a sad event! Ive been in your situation.....although i dont like to admit that im one of those sad people that use dating sites, i am one of those people.....all men on those sites are looking for sex, hmmm.....yeah but they really are !!!
Sorry my love, its the truth.....be carefull !
:-)
2007-01-11 18:19:19 · answer #9 · answered by suzairspliff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is poss, just recently happened to me on this site,
give it a bit of time, if you still feel the same then meet in a pub of your choice with your friends, coz he mite be a weirdo.
Failing that, go out wiv me coz i`m totally WOW (i`m sure)
2007-01-11 18:09:45 · answer #10 · answered by qwerty 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋