2007-01-11 09:59:16 · 16 answers · asked by *Benny B* 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A love - hate relationship is where you love the person in the sense you are comfortable and don't want to be without them, but you hate them as a friend and doing things with them.
2007-01-11 10:32:45 · answer #1 · answered by Joe S 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's usually somebody you care about deeply, but you have constant friction between the two of you. You probably argue a lot, and never admit when you're wrong. You're both very passionate and won't give up on the realtionship, but you probably deeply resent each other for being the way you are. You feed off each other's negativity and it gets worse and worse. This is an unhealthy relationship for sure, but you can't break it off.
2007-01-11 18:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by A T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its exactly what it is saying, there are times you love the person and there are times you hate the person. I had one with my mother for years.
This is usually when someone is relying on feelings though. Love is a choice even with your parents. Everyone has bad times and days they feel rotten and they growl at everyone. If you don't recognize that you've chosen to love someone, you are not going to like that person when you are feeling miserable.
If you are relying on feelings toward your boyfriend or husband, you will probably break up with him, at least until you starte "feeling" good again.
This is being added as an edit. I got to thinking about another relationship that I guess it could have been called love/hate, although while in treatment for drugs & alcohol, I learned to recognize it as part of the male dependence I had very strongly. In this relationship the only time I thought I loved him was when he wanted to break up with me. The feelings of love would come with such a passion and I'm begging him to please stay. However, as soon as he settles back down with me, the same old feelings came back as to how I really disliked this person and wanted nothing to do with him and even at times felt repulsed by him.
The craziness about this entire situation was because the reason he had been trying to break up with me in the first place was my lack of caring and showing love for him. Thus, it would start all over again, he would try to break up with me and my feelings of revulsion for him quickly changed into passionate love! It became a vicious cycle that I eventually lost completely.
It was a great relief learning what the problem was, because goodness, by the time I was 30, I had recognized a pattern in this behavior and every relationship would end up like what I mentioned, totally crazy.
It took counseling and no dating for about 3 years while I worked through it all. I had to learn that I could not depend on others for my happiness, I had to find things on my own that made me happy because another person can only contribute to your happiness, they cannot provide it. If you try to make someone provide your happiness, you will probably experience that love/hate relationship.
With my mother it was different of course and more on the lines that some of the others said in their answers. She was not a very good mother and was quite abusive. When I was 12, she lost all five of her kids when she was claimed an unfit mother.
I went between love and hate with her until about four years after I sobered up. I learned that no matter how much she abused me, it did not give me the right to hate her as some counselors and people in AA would say. I had already spent a great deal of my life trying to hate her, but I loved her too much.
Today, I know when I need to take some space from her, but the best part is how I've learned how to honor her. It is not natural to hate your parent and all it did for me was to cause more problems, including making my heart hard with bitterness. Even without bitterness, you have to harden the heart to hate a parent and anytime you harden your heart, it only causes you problems and not the person you are hating.
Well, I guess, you can tell I'm bored tonight. I'm writing novels. It was really an interesting question and I'm curious about your age.
2007-01-11 18:06:06 · answer #3 · answered by Child of Abba 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
From personal experience........it's when you can have both intense emotions about one person. For instance, I'm currently married (for the time being, I'm getting a divorce) I love my husband to a certain point. I love it when he's attentive to my needs, but at the same time, I hate it when he's attentive at the wrong and inappropriate times. Some things, are better left at home or in the bedroom but public displays of affection for the wrong reasons irk me. Prime example........he likes to squeeze my ***, I think it's inappropriate in front of the kids in public. And the only time he does it is when he sees another guy looking at me. I think it's childish, immature and embarrassing. He does alot of things like these....I've brought it up to him and he doesn't care. I love him but I do hate him for the simple fact that he doesn't respect my wishes.
2007-01-11 18:09:21 · answer #4 · answered by capriaquari13 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well love and hate are both considered emotions...and both can be very passionate feelings.
Someone you have a love hate relationship with is generally in spite of loving someone, there things about them that you truly hate.... they can make your blood boil and tap into both emotions.
2007-01-11 18:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
its when you love someone so much and don't want to lose them, but at the same time they drive you crazy with the things they do and you hate them for driving you nuts. yet you still love them and want to be with them.
2007-01-11 18:03:57 · answer #6 · answered by cutie306 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u love someone and hate them at tha same times or u love then sometimes and hatethem others.
2007-01-11 18:02:14 · answer #7 · answered by sara ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The relationship one has with someone who has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder.
2007-01-11 18:03:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Someone or something that you love to hate.
2007-01-11 18:02:03 · answer #9 · answered by Karen Smith 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I love my wife and she hates me!
2007-01-11 18:03:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋