sex before marraige?

Question

is it looked down upon by society to have sex before marraige? i dont know if thats just a religious thing or like a common sense - no one has sex before marraige - kind of thing? how do you guys feel about it?

Answer 1

I think alot of people would be better off if they waited til marriage but I only know of two people who actually did.

I kinda wish I had waited but its too late. I advise other people to wait even though I didnt.

Answer 2

I think sex before marriage used to be so taboo, like it couldn't even be discussed, but now it's really common, I find it's actually more rare to find someone who is a virgin by the time they marry!

Although some people may judge you for having sex out of wedlock, I personally don't find that in my own experiences. I'm 17, obviously not married, and no I'm not a virgin.

I believe that your virginity, and in general your sexuality is special, but if you make decisions that you are happy with then it's okay. I've only had sex with one person, and that was a serious relationship. It's over now, but I don't regret my decision.

Something that I've found that's quite funny is that now when I hear that someone is a virgin, I'm almost sympathetic to them, like 'oh that's okay'... I know that's completely ridiculous, it's just that I think that sex is an amazing thing to share between two people who love each other (regardless of whether or not you're married) and I think everyone should be able to share that. I'm not promoting promiscuity, but sex is good, without being married.

If someone has the will power and committment to be abstinate until their wedding night, then that's great for them, and I am in no way shunning that. Just as a personal decision I thought, and still think, that the time I chose to lose my virginity was right.

Ultimately the decision is yours, and if people have their own opinions of it then they can keep them to themselves. Your body, your rules. =)

Answer 3

Call me old-fashioned, but I don't believe in sex before marriage. I'm just like any other person out there, and my hormones go crazy every now and then - but I have a set of moral values that I was raised upon. I'm not going to throw away knowledge in place of a sexual high.

It's still looked down upon by many societies internationally, but we (U.S.) have become more accepting of it. But the trend continues and before you know it, people all over the world will be fighting for premarital sex in their churches, households, etc.

I won't go into the religious aspects of it, because we all know how that turns out... but as far as common sense is concerned - I'd say it depends on the person. I think sex is a bonus of marriage, and marriage stems from love. You can only give your virginity away once and if you do, it'd better be for someone you care deeply about. That completes the equation.

But hey, to each his own.

Answer 4

well, the way I see it, if you hold back you'll rather quickly find out what the guy's looking for in a relationship. my guyfriend loves me and respects me because he knows that, for a fact, I will not be having sex with him until we get married. alot of people confuse sex with intimacy in a relationship. sex is supposed to be secondary to the actual intimate relationship. when you get old, there isn't gonna be sex. so what do you have? if you say that you had the whole first portion of your marriage to get a good relationship.. how do you know you'll still be married? hun, I noticed someone gave you statistics, has anyone noticed the fact that the divorce rate has gone up just as fast as the percentage of people having premarital sex? let's face it, once you start having sex, the whole relationship starts to center on it. you're gonna enjoy it and wanna do it as often as you can. so much for the relationship.. also, how do you know if you're gonna stay with this guy forever? and get married? if it ends up falling apart what are you gonna tell your future husband? "oh, I've already had sex" alot of people don't think it's such a big deal. but some of the trust and intimacy goes out of the relationship at that point. when you're with your future husband for the rest of your life he's gonna have that doubt of wondering if you're comparing him to your other partner(s).. I dunno,,if anything, having sex before marriage has a tendency to cause more problems then it does good in your life and in your relationships.. and that's how I feel about it.. sorry it was kinda long but I just feel bad for all the girls who give everything to a guy just to realize later that it wasn't worth the stress and sadness.. even if they end up marrying the guy I always hear that they regret not waiting.. and I don't wanna have the same regret. do you?

Answer 5

I'm a 54 year old male. I had sex before marriage (1985, age 33) , but only with females where I was in a long-term relationship.

I wasn't interested in seeing how many partners I could have.

At one time, pre-marriage sex was no big deal. then in the Middle Ages, the church decided that and prostitution was BAD - that people should wait until marriage (which promoted family life).

My view was, someone didn't have to be a virgin. But at the same time, I didn't want to feel like I was standing in line and waiting for my number to be called for sex.

Answer 6

It is a very personal choice. I don't look down upon others who choose to have a different life style then me. I would say most people have sex before marriage...a try before you buy type of deal...i mean you wouldn't buy a car with out test driving it first right?

Personally i think you need to wait until you are in love but not necessarily marriage.

Answer 7

I think that the Idea of wating for marriage befor sex is only found these days in religious circles. That's my preference but it is driven by my religious beliefs. If it weren't for those beliefs, I think that I would hold to the idea of safe sex preferrably within a committed relationship. That's just me.

Answer 8

That is a rare thing these days as most people have sex before they get married. I think its good that people do wait to have sex until after they are married.

Answer 9

I feel that sex before marriage (outside of religion) just says that you don't respect yourself. You are what you portray yourself to be - an unpaid whore. If your man would really love you he would commit to you. I would never be in bed with a man who didn't commit and provide for me. My opinion is if you have your engagement ring and a wedding date then go for it! You don't necessarily have to wait for a wedding. You don't need a priests permission or a ceremony at all if you don't feel like it or aren't religious but get married legally. Lots of luck to you!

Answer 10

honestly, my religion still looks down at that and of living together before marriage. I have to admit that I had sex with my husband before we were married.... I think it is getting really uncommon to wait however I think people should wait until they are in a committed mature relationship. Great question btw! :)