She does x sometimes and she said that she is going to stop at twenty, but i dont like when she does it all. How do I get her to stop doing it, should i just let her finish out till she gets to twenty, or what? and her best friend does it too. Please help!
2007-01-11 09:49:21 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't stop her, she has to want to stop. If you don't like it, you get a new girl friend.
2007-01-11 09:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't get anyone to stop doing drugs. They have to want to stop. By asking her to stop, you will only seem like a nag and will probably push her away from you. However, that's probably for the best, because this is definitely NOT the girl for you. The best thing to do would be to say this to her. "Look, I'm not comfortable with you doing drugs, but you're a big girl and can do whatever you want. So I'm going to have to break it off. When you grow up, give me a call."
2007-01-11 09:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by A T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry you're going through this, unfortunately there is not much you can do to help her unless she is willing to accept she wants and needs the help. I went through this with an ex of mine, he was not only abusing heroin but alcohol as well. I didn't find out about the heroin until after we broke up but while we were together i tried to help him stop drinking because the doctor had told him he has a very bad liver and he could die if he didn't stop. He died from a heroin od last January :**(
I wasn't the only one trying to help him. He had family and other friends too. But it all came down to him and he chose to not stop. All i can say is talk to her and maybe try to find her some sort of professional help but there is only so much you can do.
You are a good boyfriend to be worried about her. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-01-11 09:56:54 · answer #3 · answered by gaby c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find an excuse to go with her to a rehabilitation Center,with an argument something like you want to see a friend or talk to someone, and let her see the misery and decay these people live in. Make a comparison with the healthy wholesome life people free of drugs live.
If someone in the Center can casually talk to her and make her see that once people get into drugs its very difficult to get out, it would be great help.
2007-01-11 10:05:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but the sad fact is you can't get anyone to do anything they don't want to do! You can tell her how you feel about it. It may make her think twice before she does it again. If she doesn't respect your wishes and you dislike it that much, you might have to make a decision about whether or not you want her for your girlfriend. It can turn into an addiction that could last a lifetime. Is that something you want to deal with? Its an unfortunate thing for you to think about but its reality. SORRY!!
2007-01-11 09:55:45 · answer #5 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatley, you can't. I don't know if she is addicted or what but she is going to have to want to stop on her own. Threatening to break up with her usually will get you nowhere. If she is totally out of control, you might want to leave her alone for your own sake. You dont want to get caught up in the mix. If it's just an occasional thing and she's not making a fool of herself or blowing it, then stick with it and see what happens. You can't change people but you can surely be there for them when they need someone and need help. I hope things resolve themselves for your sake. Good luck!
2007-01-11 10:02:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop at 20? That is the voice of an addict - easy procrastination. When she hits 20, you will most likely hear another excuse, such as, "I'm just doing it to relax" Your friend needs help NOW, but she has to want to stop. Tough spot - maybe a bit of tough love is needed.
2007-01-11 10:12:34 · answer #7 · answered by David 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
untill she has taken a total of 20 pills? My man, there are many girls who don't have a mental focus like that one. "I aspire to succeed in taking 20 doses of X". That is not a healthy thought process. Bail out while you can. One of those might be cut/laced with something other than pure mdma.
2007-01-11 09:54:37 · answer #8 · answered by sacredpyrmid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you have to tell her its really bad and it is hard to stop once youve been doing it for a long time. just sit down with her and sincerely tell her it is bothering you. if she says too bad that means she doesnt really care about your feelings and hers are more important. also ask her if she would like to kiss someone thats has just been smoking.
good luck i hope this helps you!
2007-01-11 09:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If loved ones could stop people from abusing drugs, there would be no addicts. The girl's a loser. Move on.
2007-01-11 09:53:04 · answer #10 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no reason why u have to put up with those kinds of ppl who cant think about anything except drugs. just come clean and say it to her face that if she doesnt quit, u will be finding urself a new gf
2007-01-11 09:53:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋