I a very shy and sweet girl. It's hard for me to be with a guy because I feel like I have to have sex with him in order for him to love me. I just can't say no because I was raped before and now all I want to do with a guy is have sex with him and give him what he wants. I want someone to love me.
2007-01-11 09:48:59 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry to hear what happened but girl, you need to give yourself a little more respect. When you love someone its not just about sex.
It's about respecting, trusting, and caring for the other person. You need to boost your self esteem up. Most guys will want you for just sex...these aren't the guy you should be with. Few guys will love you just because of who you are...you need to find those type of guys.
The past you can't change anymore...so you must learn from it and move on. I'm sure that ordeal should have made you stronger.
Stand up and have some respect for yourself.
2007-01-11 09:59:13 · answer #1 · answered by The Doctor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly you need to get your confidence and be sure in yourself that they only reason the guy wants to be with you is because he wants to know you not because of sex --- you should also seek some counselling or even self help to overcome these feelings of insecurity
2007-01-11 17:54:27 · answer #2 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is not sex , you have to think about that!
you can have sex with anyone but only one who you can love
plus don't make your self easy to get for anyone you have to say no and show your personality.. value your self so he can value you.
if he have to have sex with you in order to love you , he doesn't deserve your love.
2007-01-11 18:11:09 · answer #3 · answered by AngelHeart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋