feel a little sad?

Question

i went out on satuarday night and bumped in to this lad that i used to know at secondary school he is my ex bf mate [not close] and he only lives five mins away from me. the the thing is we all started chating and ended up leaving the pub together. we had a little kiss and i was fine with that then my friend lost her id so we could not go to a club so we all went back to his cousins house and he wanted more than a kiss i keep saying no even thought i was still flirting but by 5.00am he asked me that much that i ended up having unpretected sex giving oral without a comdom. i feel so ashamed i feel so dirty. do you think the outher person will think the same about me

Answer 1

Wow...I didn't see that end coming! He'll probably just be happy he got his end off!

Answer 2

I hope your name doesn't indicate your age - anyway, please just learn from this and then forget it. In the great scheme of things it amounts to nothing really - and you will probably never see him again so put it out of your mind. But do take a little more care in future - you went to the hosue of a guy you didn't know (his cousin) with a guy you barely knew and you found yourself being pressurised into performing a sex act even though you didn't want to. That's bad - but just think how much worse this could have been. Don't go to houses with strangers. Keep yourself safe!

Answer 3

If you just had O dont feel so bad, but if you went the whole 9 yards no matter what you are gonnna have to live with it whats done is done, we all do stupid things on the spur of the moment at some time or another in life.

Dont feel ashamed or dirty no need.

Good Luck RTC

Answer 4

No, it happens so don't beat yourself up about it. Sometimes lust takes control of our senses and makes us behave in ways we wouldn't normally.
If you really feel so bad about it just use it as a steep learning curve and stick to your guns next time.
Sex on the first night isn't uncommon but it does give out messages that you're more of a fun time girl rather than relationship material.
It's done now so stop stressing and you've no reason to feel ashamed or dirty because you are neither!

Answer 5

Dont worry just learn from it..... put it down to a mad moment. Although there is always the saying.....
Boys love girls like that but they dont want to marry them!
Sorry....chin up and forget about it. Next time your faced with a similar situation....say no and mean no.

Ps go and get a thorough health check.

Answer 6

don't be sad nor ashamed we all do silly things if he don't contact you then you can just think of it as a bad dream and get on with life but don't feel sad cus it will eat away at you and make you worse.if you fell so worried go to the clinic they are usually very simpathetic. good luck.

Answer 7

I am so sorry for you.You said no and he cohearsed you into oral sex i think that is rape.Be more careful next time please.If i was ther i would confront the loser and kick his punk ***.He probably feels proud of himself.Or like a piece of sh-t.But don't let him off.Take this lesson and learn from it Chat with me if you wishPeace

Answer 8

Unlikely.

Did you know that, during the war, condoms were in very short supply. Men used to paint them on using gravy browning. This didn't give 100% protection, though

Answer 9

First, you need to be safe. Go and have tests done to make sure you aren't infected with anything. Second, we all make mistakes and don't worry about what people think of you, only what you think of yourself. Like I said we ALL make mistakes. Just be more careful next time of what you do.

Answer 10

I'm pretty sure the other person does.

however, the only opinion that you should consider is your own and only your own.

Or else you'll feel like that for the rest of your life.

Answer 11

dount it as he got what he wanted, you just needed to stay a bit more head strong and made him wait or at least went out again to se how things went, he should not of pressured you.