Should I take the relationship risk?

Question

I've developed strong feelings for a friend, and I know he feels the same way about me, but I'm starting to wonder if I'd be making a mistake if we became more than just friends. He wants lots of kids, while I'm at a point in my life where I'm not thinking about children. Maybe I'll change my mind one day, but I doubt I'll want a big family.

I've had trust issues in the past, and though I thought I was past them, I'm starting to wonder whether my concerns are legitimate or whether I'm just trying to run from possible committment?

I feel like this guy is my soulmate, so I don't want to blow it for nothing. What do you think?

Answer 1

First, this is an excellent question. but it is really on that you have to ask yourself. Are your trust issues worth sacrificing for the possibility of love. Is this guy worth putting aside your fears. Also, realize that any relationship is going to be a risk. But what are the odds and are they in your favor? the family thing will work itself out. Right now just focus on building your relationship.

Answer 2

That's funny- you aren't compatible on one of the most important issues people face- FAMILY- and yet you still believe he's your soul mate?
If you don't want kids or a large family and he has specifically and emphatically stated that he does- you're not compatible. And since you're the person who can give birth, it would be selfish of you to get with him if you know this. Your concerns are legitimate. Find a man who either happy to remain childless, or thinks 1 child is more than enough.

Answer 3

This could be a deal buster. You don't say how old you are, but if you get into it with him, and then he wants a big family and you don't and you decide on a career or school ... it will never work. Stay friends for awhile and see how things work out.