Ok, there's this guy and he's a friend of mine, He use to look like a geek before winter break happend like he had glasses and he was kinda chubby.
but after winter break he lost weight got eye contacts and died his hair. And he absolutely look hot. He's a nice, Sweet, & funny guy.
But the thing is today i asked him out and he first said he would think about it. But after school he came over my house and he asked if we could go for a walk then i said sure
(i was thinking he was going to say yes)
anyways while we were walking he said stuff that made me laugh and then he said sorry but i dont want to date you, i was soooo heartbroken. i couldnt do anything but run back home so i did. and now i dont know what to do. i like him alot but he doesnt like me. how can i get him to like me ?
2007-01-11 09:27:23 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to walk away, nurse your pain in a healthy manner than let it go, so you can be ready to be happy in a different realtionship.
No matter how much it hurts, you need to walk away. The only thing you'll do if you don't is push him further away and your insecurities will be coming out big time and it will be noticed by others.
You can't force anyone to like you. Its time to move on. All you can do is get over him - and I stress, get over him in a healthy manner.
Trying to make him jealous will not work, so once you've gotten thru those hurt feelings and your ready to date again, if you find yourself thinking of the other one, you are not over him yet. It would not be good to date another person until you are completely over the other one.
I don't want to get your hopes up and you can' t even allow yourself to think about this, but you never know, once you are over him and living your life, he could become attracted to you. But do not go into living your life with that motivation or you will not be over him and he'll not have the attraction because he will know you are still attracted and/or clinging to him.
You have to truly be over him and who knows? You might not even like him if he were to ask you out. Everyday you change and grow.
Good luck, and please move on. There is nothing more painful than hanging onto someone who doesn't like you. It can also make you bitter and you don't want that. It might be just the rejection that is hurting you and you don't need to feel rejected.
Everyone has different tastes and that doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. There are many guys out there that are going to think you are perfect, go find them and have fun!
2007-01-11 09:42:51 · answer #1 · answered by Child of Abba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is still the same geek he was before he lost the weight and died his hair. He was not good enough for you then but, now that he LOOKS BETTER you think he is something special.
You are feeling what he felt before he did the make over. I feel sorry for you but, you should have gotten a lesson out of this.
2007-01-11 09:34:59 · answer #2 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears the boy does like you, he just doesn't want to date you. Otherwise, you cannot 'make' someone like you. You can only be yourself, and hope people like who you are.
If you consistently get feedback from people stating they "do not" like you, then you should consider making changes to your self presentation and attitude. If you don't hear that - then your just fine.
Otherwise, you were brave to ask the boy to date you. The boy was polite and brave enough to kindly let you know that he did not want to date. Accept the results as a fact of life: you two were not meant to be together at this point in your lives.
Do not worry about the results. You were not heart broken, you were embarrassed and maybe a bit upset. Say to yourself "I tried" and move on to the next 'hot' boy you find.
Good luck!
2007-01-11 09:38:01 · answer #3 · answered by discrete 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea to try to let him to like you. If he doesn't come around on his own it isn't worth it. Really. It may seem like a difficult thing to just turn off your feelings, but its better to try to salvage the relationship than to coerce him into a relationship. He may not feel the way he does now forever. Let him know that it is alright that you are friends and maybe in the future there can be more. Don't let your feelings for him now ruin the way you may see him in the future.
2007-01-11 09:32:57 · answer #4 · answered by summer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY would you try to get somebody to like you if they don't. If he came to your house and was willing to talk with you, he likes you. If he doesn't want to date you, get over it. Don't try to change him, work on you. Be confident and worry about your issues not his. You sound very young and are obviously in school. This is not what you want to hear, but focus on school and people skills instead of one guy. 5 years from now, you will look back with your man that you deserve and won't even remember this guys name. Stop chasing and let them follow.
2007-01-11 09:40:10 · answer #5 · answered by Michael A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but you won't be able to get him to like you. It was very brave and honest of him to tell you so straight that he didn't want to date you. Most guys are total ******* about that kind of thing.
Even if you did somehow get him to give in and go out with you, it wouldn't really be how you want it to be because you will know that his heart really isn't in it.
There are so many guys out there who will be great for you. I know that's hard to think of right now, but you deserve to be with someone who likes you back just as much as you like them!
2007-01-11 09:34:50 · answer #6 · answered by Gen•X•er (I love zombies!) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats kinda sad.. but im pretty sure he wants to remain friends, if not be BEST friends... try and move on but dont lose alll hope. sometimes guys change their minds just like you did. one day he might see all the great qualities you have even if he doesnt now... try and become close friends with him and maybe that will happen... good luck!
2007-01-11 09:34:00 · answer #7 · answered by kallissa b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot make someone like you. Period. Why would you want someone that doesn't like you as you like him. You didn't like him as he was before, and maybe he liked you then. At least he was respectful enough to tell you to your face.
Even though he may not ever be your boyfriend, Just be his friend. You don't want to miss out on being his friend, he may be one of your best friends in the future. Be respectful to him as he was to you. Be nice and polite and just be a friend.
2007-01-11 09:32:56 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all if you didn't like him when he was a "geek" the he probably saw that too, he is just giving it right back to you. Also you can't get someone to like you, that's not how it works...either they like you or they don't, but you can't make them. I think you should leave him alone and learn your lesson on this one!
2007-01-11 09:31:54 · answer #9 · answered by all_304 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you didnt like him before winter break.......when he was a geek, but you like him now that he is hot........is this correct??
The reason he doesn't want to date you is probably because
you only want to date him now that he is hot. You dont like
him for his personality.....you like him for his looks.
There is, also, the possiblity that your friendship means to much to him. Now that he is hot........lots of girls are going to want to date him......girls that didnt like him before break. He is going
to want to "play the field", "break some hearts"........hang
tight.......friendship is worth more in the long haul.
2007-01-11 09:33:54 · answer #10 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋