2007-01-11 09:25:29 · 27 answers · asked by snowy-owl@rogers.com 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How to tell if he likes you
(and if he's flirting with you in his special own guy-way).
A lot depends on the type of guy and his individual personality.
Shy Guys
These are tough to crack sometimes...
He'll look at you, until you turn around, then boom, he's looking the other way.
You may 'feel' like he's watching you - but he's hard to catch at it
He may do something physical - like grab you in a play way, poke you, play with your hair...
(Remember when you were really young and the guy you liked punched you or tackled you?)
He may be working really hard to pay attention to you, but doesn't quite know how...
He may ask a friend of yours about you - he'll say it's just for "friend of mine" that wants to know about you.
He talks to everybody else - but when you're around he turns silent, or chokes up.
You seem to accidentally bump into him a lot of different places.
He may not say a word to you, but he shows up in the same line, at the same movie, etc.
He'll give you a little smile from across the room, but if you get near, he won't look up.
Basically - the BIG clue is that his behavior changes when you're around (compared to when he's around his buds or other girls).
DEAD Giveaway - when you talk to him he turns red.
(Bingo - you can pack that puppy up and take him home...)
These are some of the more subtle clues - keep your eyes open - you may have more guys flirting with you than you realize!!!
He remembers little things you mention in casual conversation.
It may take you by surprise. You might have been talking when he was around and two weeks later he'll say, "Well, you like orange fizz..."
His voice changes when he talks to you in a group. He may say "Hey." to everyone with you, but the "Hey." to you is a little different.
His voice gets softer when the two of you talk.
Sometimes he stares straight into your eyes.
His eyes get 'soft' when he looks at you. They change slightly or get relaxed around the edges. It's subtle, but you can tell if you watch...
(You may already be aware of it at a subconscious level - that's what made you start wondering if he likes you...)
When he's near you or talking with you, his eyes travel in a little circle around your face and land back on your eyes. (Like he's looking at your whole face - then back to your eyes.)
He watches your lips. (Dead give away.)
His friends start asking you questions - if you haven't met him yet - they may ask what your name is. Or may ask you what you think about 'him.'
If his friends are paying attention to you after he's been staring at you - it can mean that he's been talking about you.
He tells you that you smell nice...
(No hidden meaning here - it's a good thing.)
He might act weird around you or seem very nervous. His behavior may just plain change when you're around.
If he's normally quiet, he may get louder, or vice versa. It's the difference in behavior that's the clue.
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Signs that he likes you He blushes and sweats. You intimidate him.
He stares at you. (He can be a stalker, beware)
He does things to deliberately gain your attention.
He stutters when he speaks to you.
His pupils dilate when you are up close and you see them... Beware, pupils dilate when it is dim, mostly.
He waits for you. He looks out for you.
He laughs at your jokes when no one else does.
He teases you because he wants you to remember and notice him.
He listens to you and actually remembers little details.
He notices slight changes in your appearance.
He seems sad when you ignore him.
He seems jealous when you are with another guy. Whoo.
His friends all know you when you don't know them.
He smiles back when you smile at him.
He often stares at you and when you catch him, he does that cute head turn, very fast!
He performs sweet acts for you. He defends and protects you. He tolerates you being mean to him.
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STEP 1: Sometimes seeing someone you have a crush on results in telltale physiological signs. Does the person in question blush when you look at him or her? His or her sympathetic nervous system is probably going into overdrive. Does he or she have trouble speaking, using jumbled words when talking to you? STEP 2: See if the person in question mirrors your motions: When you lean back, he or she leans back; when you put your elbows on the table, he or she does the same. STEP 3: Note whether this person sits or stands in the open position - that is, facing you with arms uncrossed. In addition, a woman tends to cross her legs in a man's direction. STEP 4: Does he or she move closer to you and/or touch you subtly, such as with a pat of your hand or a touch of your cheek? STEP 5: Other elements of body language include frequent eye contact, holding your gaze and looking down before looking away, energetic speech coupled with open hands, and flashing palms. STEP 6: Does the person you're wondering about just plain smile at you a lot?
2007-01-11 09:28:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
While you're talking to him (I'm assuming you have already been introduced to him and that you two have an acquaintance status), tell him straight up..."youre hot! Wanna go out?".
If he likes you, he'll probably smile at the randomness of the question, and find it flattering, and he'll probably say "sure". If he isn't interested in you like that, then he'll feel a little awkward and will probably squirm at trying to find a way to turn you down nicely. If this happens, you can just laugh it off, and say, "dude, relax, I'm just kidding. Ha ha, you almost wet your pants there!". After he lets out a sigh of relief, if you want, you can have some more fun with him and say, "seriously though, what if I did ask you out right then and there? you'd just sit there and squirm?!!"
You have to be in the quirky and humourous mood to pull this off. Try not to force it.
...oh I almost forgot...if you two don't have a talkative relationship, it's very important that you give him an inviting look. Guys will never approach a girl who is not giving him the green light. By giving him a genuine smile when you see him for the first time, wherever you two are, he will feel less pressure and fear of rejection to come over to you and talk to you. He will feel more comfortable to chat away with you. Then you can hit him with the "wanna go out" crack.
2007-01-11 09:37:34 · answer #2 · answered by Mirko F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to ask him directly, you can do an indirect test with a stranger or friend. Have a friend or someone watch you interact with him. Ask that person to see how much he is checking you out while he is talking, especially while you are looking away. Deliberately look around and away from him while you are talking. If he likes you, this will be his chance to let his eyes roam around on you. The coup d' grace is when you walk away. Walk off to an area where he has a chance to look at your back as you leave for a long time. Don't look back at him. Agree to meet your friend, and ask her what he did. Did he check you out as you walked away?
If he didn't, he's not interested in you. If he did, it still could mean he's not interested in you completely. This is just something guys do on reflex when they have the chance. But, at least you can think he might like you.
If his voice goes up and he tries to talk sweeter than usual with you, he probably also likes you.
Hope this helps.
2007-01-11 09:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by Murphy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he likes you, he will take the steps to let you know, let him approach you. If he doesnt approach you, maybe he doesnt like you, as much as you thought he did. Dont ask him, females shouldnt chase guys, it takes away much from the female, makes her seem too eager, and easy. Trust me, if he likes you like that, he will let you know, maybe you should let him see you chatting with another guy, maybe that will be the nudge he needs to say something.
2007-01-11 09:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by ladymaryum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ma'm, if you have to ask? You're too young to need to know. Wait until your Heart is old enough to comprehend what you want. Anything else would just be dangerous. Emotionally, Sexually, and can ruin friendships, for no reason.
2007-01-11 09:30:16 · answer #5 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're around him, does he
look at you
tease you
talk to you a lot
call you
ask dumb questions like he doesn't know what to say
If he does most, if not all, of these things I wouldsay he likes you.
2007-01-11 09:28:54 · answer #6 · answered by Kali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will know through his actions. Guys will say anything to get what they want. Don't trust anyone...trust your instincts. What does your gut say?
2007-01-11 09:28:56 · answer #7 · answered by Pretti Poodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to give more information! We don't know who the guy is!
2007-01-11 09:28:12 · answer #8 · answered by Princess Purple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on how hes acting if he always flirting around you and only you then he or some guys hard to read so really it goes by on how he acts around you
2007-01-11 09:33:27 · answer #9 · answered by sweetncuteladi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
he would look for u.
he would stare at u when ur not looking.
he would tease u.
he will try to be everywhere u go to.
he will lesten to what u say.
he will care for u .
hmmmmmmmmmm
goooood luck
2007-01-11 09:30:41 · answer #10 · answered by Non_SEnse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
neverrr i mean never have a friend ask out a guy for you. they hate it! my guy friends tell me that. ANYWAY, if he likes you, he would stare at you and talk to you alot. he would talk about you to his friends and his friends would tell you (maybe)
2007-01-11 09:30:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋