some women believe if you have anul but nothing else you are still a virgin...?

Question

I dnot see how you can still be a virgin...I guess technically...but what are your thougths.

It seems people are focused here on the technical...and thats understandable but do you think a girl regularly engaged in this activity is a virgin? Technically I guess, but really?

Answer 1

Part of the problem comes from the fact that English is a living language. As such, the meanings of words are a little bit fluid from person to person. For example: I am very specific when I indicate one thing is a "mug" as opposed to a "cup," but many people are not. Consequently, I never say "coffee cup," I always say, "coffee mug." Both are considered correct by many, but I feel that the more specific term is appropriate since there is never a cup other than a mug you would put coffee into.

So the question has to be asked, "What does it mean when someone says they're a virgin?" The archaic meaning used to mean a young woman mature enough for sex whose hymen wasn't broken. Once it was broken, no matter how it was broken, she wasn't a virgin. If she rode a bycicle and it broke, that was it, her brideprice went down. (That's why her father cared.) This term had no application to men at all. A man could neither be a virgin, nor not a virgin. He was a man.

In modern culture, we tend to refer to someone as being a virgin in terms of experience. Thus, the calling of someone who goes to a midnight showing of th Rocky Horror Picture Show for the first time as a "virgin." In this way, the term is applied to men, women, and even children. I've heard of kids being described as "virginal" in terms of a specific play activity like baseball.

Obviously, anal sex would have no bearing on the archaic understanding: no hymen broken, no change in status as a virgin. That means we have to address the question of experience.

I considered myself a virgin when all I had was oral sex. I had a girlfriend who disagreed, saying that for a man, if he ever had an orgasm initiated by a woman, it was done for him. Certainly I was not virginal in terms of a woman causing an orgasm, but I'd never experienced being in a woman.

I would say the same kind of thing goes for the girls you're talking about: they're virginal in terms of vaginal sex, but not in terms of experiencing penetration.

Answer 2

The hymen's still intact. So to the freaky ritualistic people who actually care about such a thing, you're still a virgin.
About everything else...hush hush.

I think it's weird if a girl still considers herself a virgin after that, though. Seems sort of...dishonest, don't you think? It's like writing "F U" to somebody and saying that you are trying to not be vulgar since you didn't actually say the word. Yeah, i'd think that feels "dishonest".

Answer 3

Yes, you are still a virgin until you have vaginal intercourse and the Hymen is broken.

If you don't know these things you shouldn't be have any kind of sex. . . . sounds like a high school question to me!

Answer 4

technically, sex is not sex until a mans penis enters the vagina of a women because that is how you concieve a baby. because you cant concieve doign anal sex, it is not technically a way to take your virginity away.. same goes with oral sex

Answer 5

When a person has sexual intercourse they are NOT a virgin physically ever again.

Answer 6

if there is penetration of any kind, she's not a virgin. it's like saying that if we anal them, we're still virgins, it's just not true

Answer 7

i think its wrong. if u have anal u cant be a virgin. dosent matter if hymen breaks or not cause most girls break it without having sex

Answer 8

If the Hyman not broke your still a virgin........

Answer 9

teh only way you can not be a virgin is is you have sexual intercourse.

Answer 10

NOT A VIRGIN