My best friend has offered his girlfriend a special treat - a threesome with any guy of her choice. She chose me. She is gorgeous and I' ve always fancied her. Should I go for it? My own girlfriend would be mad if she knew (but then she won't know). Also, any hints from anyone with experience - what do you do in a threesome (I'm not gay at all)
2007-01-11 08:59:49 · 35 answers · asked by superscorer2003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont cheat on your gf, just dont....even if there is no possible way of her ever finding out
2007-01-11 09:03:26 · answer #1 · answered by nanda f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in a MFM threesome doesn't mean there is sexual contact between you and the other guy, but you do have to be comfortable being naked with a woody with another guy in the room. I'll tell you from experience that 50% of guys experience "stage fright" under these circumstances and have left my wife with a less than perfect experience on several occasions.
Should you do it? No. Not because of the threesome, because as stated above, I am in no way against them, in fact we love them! But because it would be cheating on your girlfriend, which your friend and her boyfriend are not doing to each other. Swinging (and yes, a threesome is technically swinging by the very definition of it) is about honesty with your significant other about your sexual desires and fantasies, and having the complete permission from them to explore them.
On the other hand, what you would be doing is cheating. Now I don't know about your friends and their feelings about it, but swingers do not condone cheating, and most will not play with another person without their SO present or the expressed consent of their SO... in person. We don't have drama in our relationship and we definitely don't want to cause it in others or be the reason someone split-up.
So think twice about this. What they are doing is the right way to do it. What you'd be doing is wrong.
2007-01-12 02:51:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been involved in a threesome. I have been asked multiple times, but have never been interested. My only real observation here is this
Before you make any decision regarding whether or not you want to do this you should consider how important your g/f is to you. If you don't care if she stays or goes tell her of your plans beforehand. Arm her with the information that you are planning on putting the screw to someone else so she can decided what fits her best, then go for it. If however you are going to lie to her about it to keep her from leaving you... then don't do it. The potential is there for her to find out later and kick your butt to the curb... which is where it probably deserves to be for even considering this... but that is just my humble opinion!
2007-01-12 06:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by michele46us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a bi female and I have had experiences of threesomes FMF.
They can be great fun but everyone involved really needs to be clear about the boundaries. I've turned down quite a few offers which I felt could result in lots of hassle: like my ex girlfriend wants me to have a threesome with her and this married lady she's started dating.
I've also had threesomes with my ex girlfriend and boyfriend of the time. In the end he got jealous of my relationship with her and this caused lots of problems in our neighbourhood.
Personally, I think you should pass this option. Your friend may get jealous, or she may develop feeling towards you - there will be other offers believe me!
2007-01-11 09:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by Ella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes!!! Go for it!! Unless you're gonna feel guilty about it afterwards cos of your girlfriend...but then why not just ask if she can come along too? A foursome has to be more fun than a threesome and you and your mate will have the added bonus of being able to watch his girl and yours go at it together. Always a nice birthday pressie in my opinion!!
Speaking as a gal whose had plenty of threesomes (with both men and women) I think it's always better to have more than one girl if poss but a whole lot of fun can be had with two guys instead!
Just try to remember that it's HER birthday and she's the one who's meant to be having the best time not either of u fellas!
Concentrate all your attention on her, one at each end usually works well! and also that way u won't have to worry about any accidental 'gayness' happening!
Try not to drink too much beforehand or you'll disappoint everyone!
If she's anything like me then try tying her up first then she can be really lazy and just lay back and enjoy herself without worrying about whose turn it is etc. You lads can sort all that out between the two of u, she shouldn't have to feel any torn loyalties...however her boyfriend will prob always be her priority (after herself of course, if she's smart!) so u'll just have to accept that u may have to take second place sometimes and just deal with that. (If u can't perhaps u should think again.)
Anyway, hope that helps a bit and have a bloody great time!
2007-01-11 09:25:09 · answer #5 · answered by Sam 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Gosh! You're that desperate?
Surely, your girlfriend is like a rented car; Maybe a nice one, but obviously you don't need to bother since you can just get another one I guess. She musn't be anything special.
Well, if you're that intrigued and that curious, why should you even asked!
Unless you're underage any way.
One thing for sure, you'd better wear protection.
I don't think anybody can ask that type of question really.
Your body is yours, what you want to get out of life is up to you and what you're prepared to do for that is equally your choice.
It's a bit harsh, but surely if it were a good thing, you wouldn't even have to ask.
You already sound like someone who is going to regret it big time, as in being disgusted; feeling guilty, and who won't be able to keep his mouth shut and will go and confess it to his poor girl friend and who will end up dumped!
So, do whatever you think you should do, and stop asking STUPID questions!
2007-01-11 09:21:08 · answer #6 · answered by Kc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One, threesomes are not as exciting, sexually, as you might think.
I've been in a MFM threesome. Many times. However, I was in love with both of them and in a long term relationship with them.
Sexual fantasies are much better in fantasy than in reality. I found sexual relations with my two lovers to be enriching and very fulfilling, but not more that exciting than other sexual encounters.
What I find more disturbing you are thinking about not being honest with your girlfriend. If she's not on board with you doing this, you shouldn't.
2007-01-11 09:04:07 · answer #7 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been involve in threesomes before...with 2 guys and a girl, and then 2 girls and me. I say go for it, as long as your best friend isn't bi. Have a good time.
2007-01-11 09:05:27 · answer #8 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u shouldn't.. r u mad in the head... to me sex is an intimate thing between TWOpeople not three.ur girlfriend is too good for u... ur a typical man whore would cheat on ur girlfriend just to blow ur load in a beautiful girl.... the world would be a better place without whores like u..... that how people get hurt....
2007-01-12 00:22:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-29 03:58:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two answers for this
One is
You jammie bugger go for it!
And the other is
You cannot because of your girlfriend. How would you like it if her and another female mate had a threesome with another bloke? You would not like it!
Whatever your decision Is I applaud you
2007-01-11 09:10:56 · answer #11 · answered by davie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋