My ex & i went out for almost 3 years & broke up bout 8 months ago. Well, we stopped hanging out about 3-4 months ago. He lied to me about not having a girlfriend in another country. I guess they met thru friendster.com, so when he went there on march 2006 to visit his family, they also met each other in person and had dates when were were still together. I JUST found out about this last month,so now everything makes sense to me why he's changed and wanted us to really break up when he just got back from vacation.I had been wanting to break up with him but he wouldn't let me go.I just wish he did b4 he cheated. I'm finding things out myself cuz..let's just say their passwords on emails and all that are very easy to guess.Well, now they're getting married already! He's going to petition her! He DOESN'T know that I know. I've moved on too, but of course sometimes i feel this kind of weird feelings sometimes. What should I do? What do I do when i c 'em? we live in a small town.
2007-01-11 08:48:47 · 7 answers · asked by alwaysmile 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi there!!
Life is full of ups and downs sweetie, life is like a bag full of experiences, what we do with these life experiences is what counts.
You are hurting now, yes, it is normal. You feel cheated on, but stop and think, you are going to be fine, you are fine. He was cheating on you, why would you want to be with someone that can not keep his commitment ? No way. His loss, your gain.
Remember not everyone is the same, don't go to the next relationship thinking the same thing will happen. thoughts are things, so be careful what you think and wish for.
I would have some me time now. Change people you hang out with, what do you believe a relationship should be like ? Have you ever given it some thought ? Well darlilng I would imagine all the good traits you want in a partner and just visualize it, then thank God and let go.
I would be alone for a while, all though you wrote you have moved on, I do not know if that means you have a boyfriend now. If you do not, I would take a breather and just have fun in life, enjoy your free time, find a hobby, dedicate time to your family, go places you have wanted to go, see places you have wanted to see.
Discover yourself.
True happiness lies within, it can not be found out of us, but deep within the fibers and essence of our soul.
If you ever see him alone or with her, honey just keep your head up, smile at them and keep on going. Do not fall into depression and let yourself go, dress nicely, groom yourself everyday and look good for yourself.
Do not hold a grudge inside, it will only hurt yourself.
Remember that great love and great achivements involve great risk, love is so mysterious and unique. We have to be very patient when choosing a partner. I believe we should love deeply and passionaltely, we might get hurt in the process, but it is the only way to live in my book. This is why I tell you to be patient choosing someone new, and give yourself all the time you need to find out what YOU want.
Live life to its uttermost
live free , be happy to be alive
May the lord fill your soul with his calming love
may your heart heal with each heartbeat
Keep your head up high
Love light and peace
2007-01-11 09:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Dalai Lama says that without enemies, we would never maintain a tranquil mind, with the reasoning that from enemies comes experiences that teach us different life lessons.
The best thing you can do is just use this b.astard's nerve as a lesson for life, and use the wisdom you gain from it to move on and become a better person. It's an awkward situation. There isn't much anyone can do...
I suggest you just go look for happiness elsewhere. That feeling you have will remain unless you brush it off as a "what comes around goes around situation". Maybe he'll get crabs.
2007-01-11 16:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by bunny_rocks92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best revenge is living well. If you see them congratulate them and move on. You are better off without this person. Live happy!
Don't wallow in misery over someone that would cheat on you. And know that if he cheated on you with her, her time is coming, most do not cheat just once.
Good luck.
2007-01-11 16:53:16 · answer #3 · answered by Should be Working! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do anything. move on and try to stop tracking their love life. YOUR free from the cheating bastard and you havent gotten into a mess you cant easily get out of yet, unlike the girl hes marrying...thats good for you, not good for her...its her problem now if he cheates, not yours... if you see them, just ignore them, or if you can, ALWAYs look great and happy! just to not let them know its affected you in any way....
hope it helps!
2007-01-11 16:56:27 · answer #4 · answered by kallissa b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What u feel is natural ... u feel betrayed... i guess... even if it means .. that its over ... he lie and cheated.. and ur better off without him
2007-01-11 16:53:30 · answer #5 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the best thing to do is live and let live.. even though that is hard
2007-01-11 16:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by chkn_fur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
little you can do, just move on with your life.
2007-01-11 17:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋