We've been together for about 6 months now. We fight consistantly because we don't have our stuff in order. We want to move together (no money), im 2 months pregnant, and he depends on me to get to work, i depend on him for gas and food. When he gets mad enough he says stuff like he wants to break up. Whenever he breaks up with me, i always go thru the jungle to talk to him and kiss *** and make things okay again. He got mad and said it this morning. Im not attracted to him anymore but im ok with the stability of just being with him. I can get an abortion and move on without him but emotionally ill be caught up for a while.
If he wants to leave should i not call him and not go see him or do what i know to make him happy again? I don't wanna be alone for valentines day. i dont wanna be alone period.
2007-01-11 08:37:56 · 7 answers · asked by Chocolate_Tai_69 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweet heart, I am here to tell you that you can do bad all by your self. First things first do not go back and see him; you're setting your self up to go back into that stressful, vicious cycle again. It's o.k. to be alone (remember God is with you) just have your friends and family by your side on Valentine's day. That is what Valentine's day is all about, a day of love. Why be with someone who doesn't love you on that day. I'm single, I'm going to be alone on that day and I'm totaly fine, because number one God is there, I have a family. Don't worry about being alone, being alone is one of a women's biggest fear, but you shouldn't fear that, because when God created you he made a man that is going to be especialy for you. That means he made one that is going to love you, connect with you, treat you right, be happy with you, and want to be with you forever. The key tricks into bumping into Mr. Right is having your self toghether (meaning fully independent), first focusing on your self, and acheiving your goals. One secret is: God gives you Mr. Right when you're not even thinking about him. Remember that love never stresses you out only lust does. When two people are in love the relationship is very peaceful with very little arguments. The little arguments just means that know one is perfect, but there should never be consistent arguing. Also a real man should never depend on his woman for work. When you have your self toghether God will bless you with a man who has it toghether. Next time when dating take it slow, don't rush into getting close, emotionally attached to that person, or getting intimate. If someone keeps on breaking up with you it means they are not happy with you. You can't change the way that person feels. You have to let them go. Last but certainly not least. Do not abort your baby. I have spoken to someone close to me who has done that in the past and totaly regrets aborting her child. The ironic thing is she didn't feel any guilt when she aborted the baby until several years from then. Women today have to know that if you do get pregnant it is for a special reason. That baby is going to do something very special things for you and other people in the world. You just have to trust God. If you don't trust in God at least put the baby up for adoption and let someone else raise he or she to be who you want he or she to be.
P.S. to take your mind off the man go get some of "you" time like the singer Heather Headly and do stuff with friends and family. If you have any childen get a baby sitter and take a day to load off and try switching your thoughts from thinking about him to other thoughts circling you or other people. Make sure their positive. Do things you love to do. Trust me you don't need a man. If that don't work go to God get on your knees and pray. He'll surely find away.
Much Luv
2007-01-12 09:06:20 · answer #1 · answered by Shygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, It sounds like you are already alone. If you two fight all the time, what kind of happiness is that. Seems like you need to stop depending on him and get more independence for yourself. Make life better for you and your child. If he keeps breaking up with you, then he is not happy. It is just a matter of time before he means it and not come back. Best wishes.
2007-01-11 09:13:20 · answer #2 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl.. let him go.. if he leaves you alone while pregnant... thats his problem. He a loser if he does. If he always says hes breaking up then hes obviously not happy... You will be ok on your own. Get a job and take care of yourself and your kids... I'm a single mom of two and I'm much more happier now and you can do it by yourself...
goodluck
2007-01-11 08:44:33 · answer #3 · answered by sassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u sound too needy....or could you possibly be the stalker type? what you need to realize is, you cant make someone love you - you have to just walk away sometimes and let it be over...being alone is not the end of the world...you must be very yound....or very old....date around, you never know who you are missing out there....
2007-01-11 08:45:01 · answer #4 · answered by beachnut222000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt even have to go as far as kissing his behind. i say you dont chase him, dont beg him back either. you are better than that. if someone constantly says they want to break up with you, then they want to end it with you i suggest you end it first. take care.
2007-01-11 08:45:38 · answer #5 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him and come after me(=
2007-01-11 08:42:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of some of your bagage.
2007-01-11 08:47:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋