How many ladies Brest feed their child? What does husband think of it?

Question

My wife does and I do not like it. She will breast feed at the dinner table, out in public and anywhere else. Kind of makes me feel uneasy. I do not care if someone else sees her breast just the breast feeding in public makes me feel uneasy. Plus it makes it hard for me to take care of the child for any lengh of time. If she is hungary then I am out of luck. I know she could pump but she does not.

Answer 1

I nursed my son and my husband didn't mind at all. Ofcourse i didn't do it out in public and if I had to I would go to the bathroom and feed my son. I would be to embarrassed, while I have seen other women walking in walmart breastfeeding and shopping at the same time.. which didn't bother me.. but my husband hated seeing it. So i understand where you come from. But when your child has to eat she has to eat. Yes she could pump.. but you want the baby to be more familiar with sucking and the breast before introducing a bottle... I don't know how old your child is, but when I eventually did pump.. it was till he was 4 months so he could know that he had both options... which can be bad also b/c your child might just prefer the bottle instead of the breast and and night time.. your wife would have to pump or you would have to go and heat up the milk for you child.. when it reality it is easier to just nurse right then and there... so pumping might not be good right now... i know you feel left out during the feeding time.. but you have all the other time to play, hold your baby while she/he sleeps, burping, changing diapers.. so your not missing out on a lot of things.. just one right now.

Answer 2

You can suggest that she put a blanket over her shoulder and over the baby's head when she does it in public. There are ways to breastfeed without anyone knowing. She can wear a button-up shirt and a breastfeeding bra. All she has to do is pop open one of the buttons, put the child up against the breast to where the head is covering her skin and it looks like she is just holding the child or putting the child to sleep. Now if it makes you uncomfortable when she is sitting at the dinner table you are the one with the problem, not her. Remember that breast milk provides the best nutrients for the baby than formula. Don't you want your child to be healthy? Before she leaves ask her to pump some milk for you. The only thing lacking in your house is a little communication. Just talk to her and tell her how you feel but most of all be supportive of her and her feelings. She is going to need it for when she has to wake up in the middle of the night to feed her. A baby is a 24 hour a day job especially when the mother is breastfeeding.

Answer 3

First of all, what she is doing is what is the absolute BEST for the baby. It's a completely natural thing. And you may feel like you're missing out on feeding time, but think of this: back before they even had breast pumps, it was the woman's sole job to feed the baby. It's nature. You do not have ANY right to feel uncomfortable by it. For one thing, you should be 100% supportive of her choice to breastfeed her baby in public. As natural as it is, it really does take alot of courage to do so. So instead of being selfish of your own uneasiness, commend her for doing something that takes alot of time and patience. Not every woman can do it. Just let her give your baby the very best whenever she can. It's a beautiful thing and be happy your baby is getting the very best life has to offer.

Answer 4

Why does it make it hard for you to help care for your child? It doesn't stop you from changing it's diaper, holding him when he cries or rocking him to sleep. Feeding is just one aspect of being a parent, not the whole thing.
It's much more healthier for the child to drink breast milk then formula so you should praise your wife for it. It's not nearly as easy as using a bottle. Talk to her about how you feel wanting to feed the child. Why don't you give the water bottles? if you really want to go all out for the parenthood thing, you can stimulate your own mammary glands and produce milk yourself to feed the baby but I'll bet she won't like you nursing the child in front of anyone!
It's perfectly natural for her to nurse in public, much better then letting her baby starve. If anyone says anything about it, tell them to kiss you're a$$.
I breast fed my last child and I regret not nursing my first 2. It was so much healthier for the baby and while it's a little more difficult, there's a bonding there that you don't get with bottle feeding. Congradulations on you having a wife who is able to nurse and wants to.

Answer 5

I always thought it was kind of hot. But then I think it certainly would make me feel uncomfortable if she did it in public (she was way too shy for that).

Unfortunately, you can't really complain too much since she'll probably get all "motherly" on you (you know her body such and such), and she as a point, but still she could be more considerate about how you feel. They say she could pump breast milk into a bottle so you could feed the baby too. That way you're more involved. Eventually all that stuff doesn't matter though if you are a good parent, your child will definately love you for it.

Answer 6

I breastfed my daughter and I intend to do the same with this baby that 's due in March. My husband never really had too much of an issue with it. When he was there with us, he would sit right by us while she was feeding so she saw both of us and we both could experience the "closeness". I did feed in public, but did it discreetly by stepping into a bathroom or at the least putting a blanket over my shoulder. We both knew it was best for our baby, and to be honest, our daughter is now 2 1/2 and she has only been to the doctor for well child checks. She has gotten a minor cold, but being breastfed until she was a little over one really made a huge diffenece with her immune system we think. If you're feeling uncomfortable with this, talk to your wife. See about sitting by her while nursing, or if she'll pump enough for a bottle in the evening for you to feed your baby too. Hang in there----- remember its best for baby.

Answer 7

The baby has to eat. Sure is alot cheaper than formula. I breastfed one of mine and I don't remember anyone having to witness seeing any of my breasts. I always covered up. If she is blatantly out there for the whole world to see, she may want to rethink. Feeding your child is one thing, but you also have to be considerate of the people around you. Maybe suggest sitting in front of a mirror with a blanket and practicing covering up, soon she'll be a pro and maybe you'll feel less "uneasy".
With all due respect, there are perverts out there who don't see breast feeding as a natural way to nourish your child, they'd be watching for the free-for-all...just knowing this may help her choose to be more discreet. Just my thoughts! GL!

Answer 8

I'm sure you like that your child gets breastmilk. You know that it's good for your baby and your wife.
You should really talk to your wife about your concerns about when and where she breastfeeds. Discussion and mutual compromise can ease many of your concerns. I'm sure that the two of you can work out this issue with compassion for each others feelings.
Bring up the issue of pumping. If she seems to consider it, a nice, electric breastpump would be a thoughtful gift. Pumping is tedious and doesn't come with the euphoria of bonding with your baby. (It kind of makes a woman feel like a cow, not a mother.) A little scheduling may be very helpful, depending on how old your child is.

As for me, I breastfed both of our girls. I was lucky enough to not have to work, and for the first few weeks, my girls were breastfed on demand. We made our schedules compromise to theirs until I could predict when they would be hungry. Then I slowly pushed up or pulled back their feeding times to fit our schedule.
I knew my husband didn't prefer for me to breastfeed in public, so I fed my girls right before we went out. That way they weren't hungry during shopping or dinners out. (I didn't really care if he wasn't with me.) I never tried to breastfeed at the table, because I like to eat without distraction, but that could have been an issue, if it was ever brought up.

Find fifteen minutes to sit and talk to your wife. Remember that she is still your wife, your lover, your confidant, your best friend. To your child, the two of you will set an example of a loving marraige and an example of true friendship. For the sake of your child, don't let this issue put a barrier between the two of you that can never be resolved.

Answer 9

i am currently breastfeeding our six month old and my husband is very supportive. he is glad that i breastfeed our son. why does it make you so uneasy. you should praise her for doing that because it is so much better for the baby and your wife.

why does it bother you for her to feed the baby while you are at home. so what if she nurses her at the dinner table. what is the big deal? when i am at home i feed the baby when and where he gets hungry. well, i do that in public too. i would dare someone to ask me to nurse my baby in the bathroom or somewhere else. it is a mother's right to nurse where she wants.

i think your problem is that you worry too much about what other people are thinking. i don't understand how you can feel that way. i feel proud to breastfeed my son. it is so wonderful.

my son has also never had a bottle. babies don't need them as long as they have a mother who is willing to nurse them. i can't imagine giving him one. i don't like the thought of anyone else feeding him from a bottle.

she isn't always going to be a baby and you'll have many opportunities in the future to feed her.

Answer 10

I can't imagine why you would feel uneasy. My wife breastfed our two children. I never had any problem with it, whether we were in public or not. It is as natural as breathing.
As far as your ability to care for the child, I understand your feelings. I felt the same for a while. But your job is to support your wife while she is nursing the baby. I know it is hard, but I am sure you get chances to bond with the baby when he/she isn't feeding. And you will get plenty of chances in the future to be a great Dad. It is too bad you can't share this chore with your lwife, but biology is impossible to overcome. Let your wife and child enjoy this special experience.