its like i love my husband a lot,he's so loving and caring and we both respect each other a lot...but the prob is tat i have fallen in love with his cousin,he also loves me ...but i dont wanna lose my hubby..plz suggest haw can i forget him ,how can i stop thinking about him,i dont know why it happened...plzzzzzzzz suggest me somethin otherwise i'll go mad...plz dont tell tell me not 2 cheat my hubby i will nver but how can i forget tat guy???
2007-01-11 08:33:42 · 23 answers · asked by sharone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why is it when we have these "penthouse forum" kind of questions the asker has ALWAYS made thier account that very same day? lmao.....
2007-01-11 08:41:20 · answer #1 · answered by Thumper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the cousin and tell him that you can both only remain friends, okay? Then stay apart from each other for as long as it takes to get over your feelings and calm down. You must always keep a positive mindset and take a clear stand. Spend more time with your husband and do bonding stuff together, like maybe a game of pool or a romantic dinner.
Well, may whatever God you worship keep an eye out for you and heads up!
2007-01-11 16:43:29 · answer #2 · answered by Ayako 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Concentrate on putting all your love back into your marriage and stop all communication with his cousin. No phone calls and do not invite him over. Have a heart to heart talk with the cousin and tell him your wedding vows were said in honestly.Ask him to stop all communication with you.Spend more time with hubby and know that if you don't stop loving both men you will lose both men. Keep your husband.Hopefully when you are celebrating your 50 year anniversary you will see that the cousin was just a little stumbling block.Good Luck
2007-01-11 16:43:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
who do you really love and want to spend the rest of your life with?choose between your husband and is cousin. The only option you can have then is tell the truth, lying and keeping secrets in the closet is onlhy going to get things worse. tell the guy that you cant be with him anymore because its not right and tell him how much you love your husband and say you two should go diffrent ways cause its not going to work out..
hope everything goes ok, you will make the right decision\
good luck! =)
2007-01-11 16:43:00 · answer #4 · answered by Lozza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your very first sentence ought to tell you everything...you are one lucky woman and you should consider this attraction to his cousin nothing more than that. consider what affect this would have on your whole family if you were to act on it and more than likely the relationship would never last. the thing is you say you love your husband and respect him...but do you really? if so why are you saying you love his cousin and why are you disrespecting your husband by even talking to his cousin about this? work on your marriage and think about how you would feel if your husband was in a similar situation and saying these things about you. love/marriage is more than lust and more than 'feelings'...i think you are confusing the two with the cousin...its lust and not long term or fulfilling.
2007-01-11 16:40:35 · answer #5 · answered by ?! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you told this guy that you have fallen in love with him? If not dont. Why, then at least you as of now you are the only one that knows, and with that in mind you can slowly but surly find the original reasons you fell in love with your husband, and find reasons on why you cant see yourself with his cousin, of course depending, on who it is you really want to be with or see yourself with when your 80, more than likley, you will get over it, and later on down the road tell him and have a good laugh
2007-01-11 16:36:37 · answer #6 · answered by default 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a tough situation to be in. Well i think either you don't really love his cousin. maybe you find him physically attractive and/or like his personality, but maybe you don't love him. love's strong. and if there's room for another guy in your heart, then maybe you're not in love with your hubby and you shouldn't be together. =[ usually marriage shouldn't happen until you KNOW that you'll devote your time and have your mind & heart set on that person for the rest of your lives. goodluck!!
2007-01-11 16:39:49 · answer #7 · answered by rosie_posie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP ALL CONTACT WITH HIM IMMEDIATLY, Yu'll eventually get over him. Remind urself how much u luv ur husband and y u luv him. Spend romantic evenings with him and let ur relationship with ur husband heat up. Good Luck! O ya and let urself cry and get everything out about this other guy, write it out or tell sum1 else, then move on. Don't keep it inside though, u can never fully move on until u do.
2007-01-11 16:44:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's really up to you isn't it. Make up your mind. Sometimes we get infatuated with another person and that interferes with our marriages, but who has been there for your always, who did you pledge your solomn love to always...your husband.
Do the honorable thing and make the cousin do the same. Stay away from each other and work on making your relationship with your husband better.
2007-01-11 16:39:19 · answer #9 · answered by kb6jra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and your hubby need to move out of state and be away from your cousin- you need to cut all ties w/ cousin and the world if need be- make your relationship work w/ hubby- if it is not truly in your heart to do so, then leave hubby you cant have both
2007-01-11 16:38:41 · answer #10 · answered by shannon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move out of West Virginia
2007-01-11 16:37:28 · answer #11 · answered by Todd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋