I was dumped by text on the 29th Dec. We had been dating for a year and a half and friends for 15 years before that. She tried ringing me today but I did not answer my phone as I'm still feeling very hurt but instead I called one of her friends who is also a friend of mine and told her to pass the message on that I'm not ready to talk to her right now. Was that the right thing to do or should I have spoken with her?
2007-01-11 08:27:05 · 32 answers · asked by Sky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you did the right thing.
2007-01-15 01:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly i think ur doing the right thing, ur hurting at the moment and u need some space before talking to her. The fact that she dumped you by text is fairly cruel to be honest, she should have came round or at least spoke to you on the phone instead of hiding away from it and dumping you by text. I would give it a few days before calling her back so u let the dust settle.
Take care
2007-01-11 08:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by Chappers 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You did the right things, people how uesd the text to dumped you, they are not worth talking 2, if the can face you and tell you, why do you gave them a time of a day, you will finds some one better, keep your hope up, all the best
2007-01-19 05:04:19 · answer #3 · answered by badboyisawickedman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think that you did. You need to signal your hurt to you ex. Being dumped by text is plain nasty! It sounds like you want to get back together - so you can always tell your friend to pass on a message that you are still hurt and want time to think about it. Then call your ex in about a week.
I can share your feelings - I was dumped just before Xmas, and my ex just won't talk to me.
2007-01-11 08:43:21 · answer #4 · answered by Ella 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I mean you acted as you humanly could. It's perfectly understandable.xx
She wanted to take the easy option as she didn't know how to tell you, didn't want to see the hurt in your face and was a coward.
But she realized, maybe late, that it was no way to treat a friend, and even ex boyfriend to be.
But, I'm sure she'd totally understand that and will accept to talk to you when YOU are ready. If she's the good person you thought she was, and somehow I do believe so too.
Good luck; I feel sorry that you've been treated so badly.xxx
2007-01-11 08:36:40 · answer #5 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, what you did was absolutely fine. After all, she dumped you by TEXT MESSAGE after a year and a half! How rude and disrespectful. You don't need to talk to her until you're ready, esp since she didn't even have the guts to dump you in person. When you're ready you can call her.
2007-01-11 08:33:55 · answer #6 · answered by Eve 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you did the right thing, better to let her know you are not ready to talk to her than answer the phone and end up arguing. This way you maintain your dignity and she will get the message that she cannot just pick you up and put you down when she wants to.
Maybe it will help you feel a bit better about the break up to feel more in control.
Well played!
2007-01-11 08:35:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I can understand you being hurt,what a cowardly way to end a relationship,especially after all that time.
Yes, I think you did the right thing, and if she does get in touch and you do speak to her, be warned, she's not to be trusted, so do yourself a favour and save yourself a lot more heartache and DON'T HAVE HER BACK, shell do it again.
2007-01-18 20:21:11 · answer #8 · answered by animalwatch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would text her and ask why she has now decided to ring you.
Tell her. Still hurting. Dumpt bi txt. wld u like it.
You sound so nice and so polite.
She probably misses you now - but she should have had
more thought for you than that. I think you did do the right
thing so forget what I just said.
2007-01-19 01:12:17 · answer #9 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I think that was fair enough. You poor thing. That was a horrible thing to do to you after such a long time. Hopefully she wll get the message and leave you alone for a while. Good luck
2007-01-18 00:43:42 · answer #10 · answered by traceylill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay well out of it, get rid of her number, hard to do if you have memorised it, make a clean break of it, there was a reason you were dumped, give it time that reason may be explained to you way in the future whe you not so raw with hurt
2007-01-11 08:39:39 · answer #11 · answered by northcarrlight 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋